Marriage In The 21ST Century

[Yup]

The only high income black men that I see dating out are athletes and entertainers. If you are using them as a yardstick for black men then you need help. Give me examples of black professionals dating non black women in droves.

You just said more upper class black people end up with non-black partners and now you are turning around and are talking about athletes/entertainers?

I was not thinking about entertainers when I said what I said. I was thinking about professionals.

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

That's not my premise...at all. My premise is that dudes are choosing bw less for meaningful relationships, the higher a black man's income the higher the chances he will marry out. You call this out;
1) bw don't build with a man
2) they are too picky
3) they are too superficial
4) they are hard to deal with
5) non-black women take better care of their men

I say ok...I tell fellow bw don't limit yourself to bm in the western world cause y'all will most likely remain unhitched but to consider dating non-black men as well as bm. Then comes you are bedwench/self-hater/traitor.

There are too many inconsistencies and hypocrisy that leads me to believe some dudes like bashing bw as sport.

If you spent this much energy finding a man that you do arguing with men on the Coli, you'd be married by now.

 

[Yup]

If you spent this much energy finding a man that you do arguing with men on the Coli, you'd be married by now.

that same tired response. You know someone has no comebacks when these responses are coming through. I am good, thanks.

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

that same tired response. You know someone has no comebacks when these responses are coming through. I am good, thanks.

I'm seriously trying to help you out. No (presumably) young woman should be wasting her time on an obscure hip hop board constantly arguing with people she will never even meet in RL. Shyt is sad to me.

 

[Yup]

I love debating...and I have interactions with people in real life. Don't worry I am good. I'll take my breaks from this site when necessary.

I'm seriously trying to help you out. No (presumably) young woman should be wasting her time on an obscure hip hop board constantly arguing with people she will never even meet in RL. Shyt is sad to me.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Everyone I know who got divorced did so b/c of cheating. Now the cheating could have been symptomatic of others problems but it is what it is. All but one was a man. A few even had children outside of the marriage. Yes the women all filed but who filed isn't necessarily the one at fault.

 

[The Maverick]

The marriage described in the OP is primarily a Western society thing. I'm not marrying someone with North American cultural ideals and values, so this doesn't affect me.

 

[Bless't]

This has a lot of truth to it. A lot of women are more worried about being married than being a wife. A lot of men should be careful before getting married, especially considering that women push for marriage and tend to file for divorce first.

Quoted for importance. It's as if everyone wants to live two lives. Or, rather, they have another "life" they have to maintain and upkeep.

 

[The Guru]

fukking with the coli like this i'll never get married

 

[Black Nate Grey]

Unless i find a unicorn the coli has all but confirmed for me that I'm not getting married #GMB

I think arguing with us is the only thing keeping @Yup entertained with life at this point. I don't see how she can have anything else going on

This thread had nothing to do with Black women and she comes thru on time
Damn she's consistent

 

[Professor Emeritus]

like i said 75% of women file for divorce, once you walk down that aisle and sign that piece of paper. There is nothing you can do, as a man your leverage is gone.

Its not men that are walking away from marriage its women, yet its women who write these articles and all shaming men into getting married

the hypocrisy is outstanding, if men were initiating divorce 75% of the time then I'd be willing to listen to what these bird brain brehettes have to say but nah

If 75% of women are filing for divorce there is no way 75% of married men are cheating or abusing their wives. That's an old myth created through feminism. The whole all men are abusive and evil. If women were divorcing men simply because they were really abusive then I can understand it be at 15% divorce rate, but 75%? That is ridiculous. A lot of women enter marriages due to wanting a fairytale, happy 24/7 marriage, and not wanting to put in the work to maintain it. A lot of women do not really know what they want when they get married.

God DAMN, ya'all can't read stats right.

75% of women do not file for divorce. That is an obviously false number.

The actual stat is that 75% of divorces are initiating by the woman. Since the divorce rate is about 30%, that's 75% of 30%. So only 23% of women in marriages (and 7-8% of men) end up filing for divorce.

Should a woman stay with an abusive husband and wait for her husband to file
to avoid being considered a home wrecker?
Numbers alone don't mean jack...

Exactly. Is it hard to believe that 15% of marriages involve a guy who beats his wife or kids or is a serial adulterer or a drunk? We're not talking 75%, we're talking just 15%. And then the other half of divorces (15% of marriages overall) are equally initiated by men and women, and are for "irreconcilable differences" or cheating or whatever fukkery.

There, the whole number is explained without some of this ridiculous shyt you all be on.

The marriage described in the OP is primarily a Western society thing. I'm not marrying someone with North American cultural ideals and values, so this doesn't affect me.

Yup. The number is way distorted by poor uneducated White trash, who are getting married and cheating and divorced at rates far higher than everyone else.

If you're educated, reasonably well-off, and aren't in the entertainment industry, your divorce rate is going to be WAY lower than that, and most of the other dysfunctional marriage problems are going to be happening at lower rates too.

If you're a weekly church attender, the stats get even better.

And if you're not from materialistic Western culture, even better.

My wife's Middle Eastern/North African from a devout conservative Christian family. You want to know what the divorce rates are like there? You want to know how much of this "oh, I want to be sexually fulfilled so I'm going to cheat around" shyt happens there? The rates are minuscule compared to the West.

We're two well-educated, well-off devout Christians (regular attenders who mean it, not just checking Christian on the form) who waited to get married (26 and 28) and didn't sleep around before marriage. Have you seen the stats on marital satisfaction for a demographic like us? They are very, very good.

Seven years strong and counting.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Unless i find a unicorn the coli has all but confirmed for me that I'm not getting married #GMB

I think arguing with us is the only thing keeping @Yup entertained with life at this point. I don't see how she can have anything else going on

This thread had nothing to do with Black women and she comes thru on time
Damn she's consistent

I wouldn't even know that bytch posted if y'all didn't keep mentioning her. Put the hoe on ignore and keep it pushing

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

Ain't no bih gonna yell and get silly with me like I'm a child without being thrown out in the streets. That stick figure in the OP is a punk and a sucka

 

[mamba]

Yup. The number is way distorted by poor uneducated White trash, who are getting married and cheating and divorced at rates far higher than everyone else.

If you're educated, reasonably well-off, and aren't in the entertainment industry, your divorce rate is going to be WAY lower than that, and most of the other dysfunctional marriage problems are going to be happening at lower rates too.

If you're a weekly church attender, the stats get even better.

And if you're not from materialistic Western culture, even better.

My wife's Middle Eastern/North African from a devout conservative Christian family. You want to know what the divorce rates are like there? You want to know how much of this "oh, I want to be sexually fulfilled so I'm going to cheat around" shyt happens there? The rates are minuscule compared to the West.

We're two well-educated, well-off devout Christians (regular attenders who mean it, not just checking Christian on the form) who waited to get married (26 and 28) and didn't sleep around before marriage. Have you seen the stats on marital satisfaction for a demographic like us? They are very, very good.

Seven years strong and counting.

It sounds like your marriage is built upon a good foundation.

Studies have shown that sleeping before marriage makes it difficult for man and woman to bond as strongly as they would if they were both one another's first sexual partner.

 

[Dameon Farrow]

Running into divorced females running that same tired 'we didn't communicate' bs. Yet they are sitting at home not working living off of child support. At least in this one case I'm thinking of.