Ladies, Would you take back a good man who cheated?

[Ashley Banks]

Like everything else in life the real answer is, "It depends on the situation."

Any female who says otherwise is lying or doesn't have enough life experience. Some of the BEST men in history (MLK for example) have cheated. Sometime even great men falter. I'm not condoning it, I'm just bringing some realism to the topic at hand.

So a part of having life experience is allowing someone to disrespect you and giving them a chance to do it again.

wow, I didn't know that.

 

[Lana Kane]

So a part of having life experience is allowing someone to disrespect you and giving them a chance to do it again.

wow, I didn't know that.

stay in a relationship with a cheater b/c hes a good man brehettes

 

[Elle Driver]

I'm against all forms of cheating was just asking a question

My bad if I came off that I was talking about you in particular, I just found it peculiar that nikkas is up in here justifying that shyt like it's okay. Since most people know that it'll fukk that person up in the long run (especially if they keep taking them back).

 

[The Mad Titan]

Its funny because I think chicks know that a dude probably wont take them back if they cheat. Where as dude's pray to god that there girl takes them back if they cheat....


The crazy thing about it is a dude can cheat and it be purely physical... no emotions attached at all. Where as with chicks most time when they cheat its emotions mixed up in there somewhere, even if its just a strong attraction.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

So a part of having life experience is allowing someone to disrespect you and giving them a chance to do it again.

wow, I didn't know that.

No you young mufukka, part of life experiece is realizing that shyt you thought you knew or shyt you thought you would never put up with may change over time. To be such a know it all without having been in the situation is silly. Life is all about perspective.

Is Hillary Clinton dumb? Is she a weak woman? Not really and she was cheated on on a national stage.

We can sit here and talk in absolutes all we want but life doesn't work like that b. I know plenty of girls that said they wouldn't put up with infidelity and they DO, it all depends on the situation. And once again I'm not saying its right or that I condone it.

How can any of you guys argue my point that it all depends on the situation?!?

 

[Blackking]

Cheating is so damn selfish, make up your mind. Do you wanna be with this person or do you want out? Like you wanna keep this person trapped in a relationship while sticking your dikk in some other bytches smh. Just dump them and move the fukk on.

not always that simple.

 

[MikelArteta]

Hillary Clinton sacrificed . Bill Clinton is a womanizer , they probably don't even sleep together anymore.

There is no excuse for cheating, everyone has temptations, not everyone falls into them. I've never cheated on any girl I dated
I remember being in relationships and getting close to a girl at some crummy job I had at the time, you know what I did? I cut that of.

I can say wholeheartedly I'll never cheat, but I'm I judging nope not at all. Everyone has their own vices in life they battle with.

No you young mufukka, part of life experiece is realizing that shyt you thought you knew or shyt you thought you would never put up with may change over time. To be such a know it all without having been in the situation is silly. Life is all about perspective.

Is Hillary Clinton dumb? Is she a weak woman? Not really and she was cheated on on a national stage.

We can sit here and talk in absolutes all we want but life doesn't work like that b. I know plenty of girls that said they wouldn't put up with infidelity and they DO, it all depends on the situation. And once again I'm not saying its right or that I condone it.

How can any of you guys argue my point that it all depends on the situation?!?

 

[Ashley Banks]

No you young mufukka, part of life experiece is realizing that shyt you thought you knew or shyt you thought you would never put up with may change over time. To be such a know it all without having been in the situation is silly. Life is all about perspective.

Is Hillary Clinton dumb? Is she a weak woman? Not really and she was cheated on on a national stage.

We can sit here and talk in absolutes all we want but life doesn't work like that b. I know plenty of girls that said they wouldn't put up with infidelity and they DO, it all depends on the situation. And once again I'm not saying its right or that I condone it.

How can any of you guys argue my point that it all depends on the situation?!?

So because you know women that let men treat them any kind of way that means all women are the same?

I know men that took their cheating wives/gfs back, does that mean any man that says he wouldn't do it is a liar?

Do I think Hillary Clinton is dumb and weak? Yes. But it's her life she can choose to stay with a scumbag if she wants.

If you would have just said it depends on the situation then you could ask how anyone could argue your point but you said that all women saying they wouldn't stay with someone that betrayed them is a liar or lacks life experience. Yet you're calling me a know it all.

But I guess gaining some life experience will make me take back someone that cheated on me KNOWING that it would "shatter my frail existence and self-image" (your words )

 

[Carter G. Hoodson]

Think it's a bit corny if she doesn't take a good dude back. Let's say they have children together and he provides for her and his family. I think that's crazy not to take dude back. Everyone will make mistakes in life. The problem is many of these females put themselves above what's reasonably possible in life and when shyt happens to bring them back down to reality, they can't handle it. I'm not condoning cheating one bit, my life changed because of it, but if he's a good man, then you all should be able to get over it. Stop listening to those Kelly Price, Beyonce, TLC records and get real with yourselves.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Think it's a bit corny if she doesn't take a good dude back. Let's say they have children together and he provides for her and his family. I think that's crazy not to take dude back. Everyone will make mistakes in life. The problem is many of these females put themselves above what's reasonably possible in life and when shyt happens to bring them back down to reality, they can't handle it. I'm not condoning cheating one bit, my life changed because of it, but if he's a good man, then you all should be able to get over it. Stop listening to those Kelly Price, Beyonce, TLC records and get real with yourselves.

100% agree

 

[Ashley Banks]

Think it's a bit corny if she doesn't take a good dude back. Let's say they have children together and he provides for her and his family. I think that's crazy not to take dude back. Everyone will make mistakes in life. The problem is many of these females put themselves above what's reasonably possible in life and when shyt happens to bring them back down to reality, they can't handle it. I'm not condoning cheating one bit, my life changed because of it, but if he's a good man, then you all should be able to get over it. Stop listening to those Kelly Price, Beyonce, TLC records and get real with yourselves.

It's not about putting yourself above anything. Stop trying to make a person not wanting to be with someone that betrayed and hurt them into a bad thing.

smh @ y'all judging people for not wanting to keep getting cheated on.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

So because you know women that let men treat them any kind of way that means all women are the same?

I know men that took their cheating wives/gfs back, does that mean any man that says he wouldn't do it is a liar?

Do I think Hillary Clinton is dumb and weak? Yes. But it's her life she can choose to stay with a scumbag if she wants.

If you would have just said it depends on the situation then you could ask how anyone could argue your point but you said that all women saying they wouldn't stay with someone that betrayed them is a liar or lacks life experience. Yet you're calling me a know it all.

But I guess gaining some life experience will make me take back someone that cheated on me KNOWING that it would "shatter my frail existence and self-image" (your words )

All I'm saying is that I hate when people talk in absolutes. If you know for a fact you NEVER will then more power too you. But you're in the extreme minority. My words were written with the majority in mind so I apologize if it was taken as "all women."

I just have seen it too many times with my own eyes... A female talks all big and bad about what she will and won't do but then when it happens it's another story. and I'm not knocking these females, reality can be a bytch and we're all allowed to change our minds. It all depends on the situation.

@His_Excellence_Reincar You're on some other shyt bruh. Another example of the extreme minority.

btw, I'm not condoning cheating. I've done it before and seen the impacts and I'm mature enough not to put someone thru that again. But I'm a good dude and I've slipped up before so I won't judge anyone else.

 

[Ashley Banks]

btw, I'm not condoning cheating. I've done it before and seen the impacts and I'm mature enough not to put someone thru that again. But I'm a good dude and I've slipped up before so I won't judge anyone else.

ohhh so you've cheated before that's why you think women should just let men hurt them because they're a "good man".

Sad that someone that's supposedly good does something that he knows will hurt you and you're expected to just get over it and take him back. and people try to make it seem like you're selfish for not wanting to get hurt a second time.

 

[mcdivit85]

Most women say they won't take their dude back if he gets caught cheating but we all know that's not the case. If he's a great provider, who's good in bed and has options that are just as good or better than her, she's not going anywhere.

This.

The reality is, women can say "what they won't do", but until they're in that situation, they truly don't know.

Also, let's be extremely real here...it depends on the caliber of man who's cheating on her and how much value she places on her relationship with said man.

Example 1:
- Regular guy with regular job and regular status cheats on chick. She thinks she can do better than staying with said guy because he's cheating on her and she can at least find another regular guy like him who won't cheat on her. Because regular guys are a dime a dozen. She leaves him and doesn't look back.

Example 2:
- Great guy with great job/business that generates great money and has great status cheats on chick. She KNOWS that she cannot do better than this guy even if she puts on the brave face to her friends, family and The Coli. After experiencing life with this great guy, she doesn't want to go back to dating regular guys and KNOWS FOR A FACT that her man is rare. She also knows that each day she is getting older and her chances of finding AND keeping a guy like this are dwindling each day. As a result, she swallows her pride and stays with him.

It happens all day, everyday. The reality is, a man of great status can do things with and to a woman that a regular guy can't. That includes cheating on her and she takes him back.

Hisorical examples include kings, presidents, tyc00ns and even quality black men with "good jobs."

Peace

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

ohhh so you've cheated before that's why you think women should just let men hurt them because they're a "good man".

Sad that someone that's supposedly good does something that he knows will hurt you and you're expected to just get over it and take him back. and people try to make it seem like you're selfish for not wanting to get hurt a second time.

If I cheat on a chick and she doesn't take me back, trust me I have no problem accepting that. Good man or not. I'd much rather that happen than the girl take me back and hold a grudge for 3 years (tru story).

btw, I'd argue that most men have no idea how much it will hurt their female when they cheat.