Ladies, Would you take back a good man who cheated?

[Anothergirl]

There are written accounts that say she was aware. But maybe she felt it was more important for the advancement of the race to play the good wife role.

Either way... fair enough. As long as you guys are consistent with your rationale I have no problem with it.

yeah... i don't see women like corretta as "strong" like some people might..

i see my MOTHER as a strong woman. she left her relatively wealthy self made first husband (my 2 sisters dad) who was a chronic womaniser. i'm talking brand new immigrant in America .....took her 2 daughters and straight up walked out of huge mansion in Long Island and filed for divorce. i'm talking back in the late 70's when they didn't even want black folks(rich or not) living in their upscale expensive ass Long Island neighborhood...ole boy had a house there and her family was one of the only blacks there. so you know he had bank.

still she took her pride...self respect and struck out in a foreign country on her own with 2 kids (and no child support) because she knew she deserved better. NOW THAT = STRENGTH, my friends.
Shortly after leaving she met my dad who was loyal and just as ambitious\financially promising and she remarried. they've been together for almost 35 years now.

i learned my values from her example so i guess i'm just coming from a different place than most people in here. Forgive me if i'm not one of those chicks that's gonna put up with BS and be scared to leave a bad situation because she thinks she can't ever find another man on "his level" or whatever low self esteem bullshyt plagues these dizzy chicks nowadays. i was taught BY EXAMPLE to know better.

 

[OfTheCross]

Hillary Clinton sacrificed . Bill Clinton is a womanizer , they probably don't even sleep together anymore.

There is no excuse for cheating, everyone has temptations, not everyone falls into them. I've never cheated on any girl I dated
I remember being in relationships and getting close to a girl at some crummy job I had at the time, you know what I did? I cut that of.

I can say wholeheartedly I'll never cheat, but I'm I judging nope not at all. Everyone has their own vices in life they battle with.

I was just thinking... Did you tell your girl about the situation at work?

 

[TheReal_Broke_88m3_13]

 

[TheReal_Broke_88m3_13]

also anyone who thinks Hillary\huma woulda stayed with Bill/Wiener if they didn't have MAJOR POLITICAL GAINS to make from it is a cot damn fool. AMBITIOUS women sometimes play that game. look where staying with Bill got Hillary ...she's about to be the first Female president of the US in 2016....he played her .....and she played him right back. this is chess not checkers fools. like reincar said all my colicash says they don't even sleep in the same room together and haven't for years now.

I thought you were a conservative....

Marc Rubio has 2016:

 

[King Poetic]

some women will go back based off what that relationship can do for her career even tho the sex life isnt there.. or some go back cause they really really love that man and feel she cant allow another man inside her mind again

but who really knows

 

[Anothergirl]

I thought you were a conservative....

Marc Rubio has 2016:

i am homeboy...but i'm also realistic....Hillary most likely has it. Personally i'd like Christie to run

 

[MikelArteta]

yeah I did, I was young back then

I was just thinking... Did you tell your girl about the situation at work?

 

[FukyourFort]

how are you a good man if you cheated? you cant be a good woman or man if you cheat on your partner. what are these you nikkas have?

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

how are you a good man if you cheated? you cant be a good woman or man if you cheat on your partner. what are these you nikkas have?

Can you be a good employee if you steal a pen from the supply closet?
Can you be a good employee if you lie and say you're sick to watch March Madness?

Honestly, I'm just here for the debate at this point. You guys are taking a term like "good man" and destroying it off of one act. Without having any idea of the severity of the act (did he cheat multiple times? did he get a jumpoff pregnant? was it his girl's sister?) or the situation revolving it (was it a mistake? was he drunk?).

Is a man no longer "good" if he's a steward for his race and community but he cheats? Perhaps "flawed" is a better term. To me the opposite of good is bad. If you're not a good man then you're a bad man (no patoi).

That's my only beef with some of the comments in this thread. I have learned that some posters are apparently all-in on this "one mistake and you're out" concept. And that's cool. I just want to challenge their thought process.

In my opinion there are few isolated acts (i.e. cheating) that destroy the totality of a person as a whole. But that's me.

 

[FukyourFort]

Can you be a good employee if you steal a pen from the supply closet?
Can you be a good employee if you lie and say you're sick to watch March Madness?

Honestly, I'm just here for the debate at this point. You guys are taking a term like "good man" and destroying it off of one act. Without having any idea of the severity of the act (did he cheat multiple times? did he get a jumpoff pregnant? was it his girl's sister?) or the situation revolving it (was it a mistake? was he drunk?).

Is a man no longer "good" if he's a steward for his race and community but he cheats? Perhaps "flawed" is a better term. To me the opposite of good is bad. If you're not a good man then you're a bad man (no patoi).

That's my only beef with some of the comments in this thread. I have learned that some posters are apparently all-in on this "one mistake and you're out" concept. And that's cool. I just want to challenge their thought process.

In my opinion there are few isolated acts (i.e. cheating) that destroy the totality of a person as a whole. But that's me.

i feel it. for me i couldnt take the girl back. theres other things i can body but thats pure disrespect to me. you can be an overall good person still though....just not good relationship material imo

 

[MikelArteta]

@CrosbyAteHeathcliff

if your man were to cheat not saying he would.

Would you?

 

[Blackking]

if he makes a real effort not to get caught, then acts really depressed at the thought of u leaving - u really should give a man another chance after he banged some new pus out.


if he does it (gets caught) more than twice


if a woman kisses or touches another man too long.... or talks shyt about her man to another male

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

@CrosbyAteHeathcliff

if your man were to cheat not saying he would.

Would you?

I wonder if he will just so we all can see what will happen

 

[Marco Zen]

She took me back ... Dam str8