Ladies, Would you take back a good man who cheated?
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A cheater with good intentions apparently.
lol...
I would possibly be able to continue a relationship with a cheater if he were in fact a good man. but I have not dated a man that great yet so...ehhh
most men I have dated cheating was just the icing on the crumbling cake so there was no reason to continue things...
OfTheCross
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What if he came clean beforehand and was like "I've really been wanting some new puzzy. I LOVE you, but I just want to be open..."
OfTheCross
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I haven't read through the thread yet...but I reckon the arguement men are making isn't for cheating. It's for new puzzy. We're animals after all. Most women will happily settle down with 1 guy. But like Chris Rock says, men are only as faithful as their options.
I know I know, it's just how it seemed.
i am not a animal
I agree cheating cannot be excused...and for the people that believe sleeping with one person for the rest of your life seems stupid I just do not understand why do they settle down with someone that wants a monogamous relationship? when they can remain single or marry someone that shares their views on multiple partners.
I agree after dating someone and sleeping with them for a few years it becomes routine and can become boring if you do not spice things up...but hurting someone I love to feel a new man is not worth it either...especially the risk of contracting STD's or unwanted pregnancies...you all that know me on here know I am an extremely sexual individual....but cheating is just not cool and I believe it shows a lack of maturity to do so...why risk losing someone that you have probably know for years for 15-45mins of a lust release?
The problem is that it assumes people know exactly what they want when they decide to get married. And it assumes that you're bound by your feelings and thoughts at the time you get married.
All you have to do is look at any 16 year old in love. They think they'll be with that person forever. Five years later...they're probably 4 relationships apart from that person they were with at 16.
Is 16 maybe a poor example? Maybe.
But when are many people getting married? 26? Has a person really experienced the world and experienced people enough to know that at 26, they want to lock themselves down to someone for the next 50?
Maybe they do. And then maybe 15 years later they come across someone who interests them in a different way. And shyt happens.
I've never cheated. It's not something I intend to do. But I don't think every person who catches feelings for another person, while in a relationship, is a scumbag.
yes 16 is a poor example because adolescents have not even developed into the adult they will become yet. When an individual matures and knows what they really want out of life they need to find someone that compliments them and someone they will hopefully grow with not grow apart from. Of course we cannot control who our spouse becomes and if we grow apart...but most of the relationships I viewed where they grew apart its because they really were not compatible from the beginning and the longer they stayed together the more they realized it....
hell nah
Take a look around.
There are plenty of 60 year olds who still are unsure about what they want.
The older you get, the more sure you become that you are unsure about almost everything.
a lost person is a lost person ...no matter the age
OfTheCross
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What? Honesty isn't welcome in the relationship? I think that shows a lot more respect and maturity than doing it behind your back