Ladies, Would you take back a good man who cheated?

[MBwithadream]

They all would. No broad wants to lose a good man to another broad

 

[MikelArteta]

The problem is that it assumes people know exactly what they want when they decide to get married. And it assumes that you're bound by your feelings and thoughts at the time you get married.
All you have to do is look at any 16 year old in love. They think they'll be with that person forever. Five years later...they're probably 4 relationships apart from that person they were with at 16.

Is 16 maybe a poor example? Maybe.
But when are many people getting married? 26? Has a person really experienced the world and experienced people enough to know that at 26, they want to lock themselves down to someone for the next 50?

Maybe they do. And then maybe 15 years later they come across someone who interests them in a different way. And shyt happens.

I've never cheated. It's not something I intend to do. But I don't think every person who catches feelings for another person, while in a relationship, is a scumbag.

catches feelings no

acts on the feelings yes

 

[Mr.Black]

of course they would, they'd take him back even quicker if he knocked the shyt out of them on a regular basis

 

[Anothergirl]

The crazy thing about it is a dude can cheat and it be purely physical... no emotions attached at all.

well then...that makes it all well and acceptable then doesn't it?

It's not about putting yourself above anything. Stop trying to make a person not wanting to be with someone that betrayed and hurt them into a bad thing.

smh @ y'all judging people for not wanting to keep getting cheated on.

you hitting a lil too close to home for em pleighgirl

A cheater with good intentions apparently.

only on the coli..i swear.

Hillary Clinton sacrificed . Bill Clinton is a womanizer , they probably don't even sleep together anymore.

There is no excuse for cheating, everyone has temptations, not everyone falls into them. I've never cheated on any girl I dated
I remember being in relationships and getting close to a girl at some crummy job I had at the time, you know what I did? I cut that of.

I can say wholeheartedly I'll never cheat, but I'm I judging nope not at all. Everyone has their own vices in life they battle with.

i am not a animal

get em

 

[Anothergirl]

also anyone who thinks Hillary\huma woulda stayed with Bill/Wiener if they didn't have MAJOR POLITICAL GAINS to make from it is a cot damn fool. AMBITIOUS women sometimes play that game. look where staying with Bill got Hillary ...she's about to be the first Female president of the US in 2016....he played her .....and she played him right back. this is chess not checkers fools. like reincar said all my colicash says they don't even sleep in the same room together and haven't for years now.

 

[Romey Rome]

I've always wondered why women judge men by their standards when were obviously totally opposite physically and mentally. For a man to enjoy a woman she just has to be somewhat attractive give him peace and be willing to help. Meanwhile women have a check list that's a mile long.

 

[OfTheCross]

also anyone who thinks Hillary\huma woulda stayed with Bill/Wiener if they didn't have MAJOR POLITICAL GAINS to make from it is a cot damn fool. AMBITIOUS women sometimes play that game. look where staying with Bill got Hillary ...she's about to be the first Female president of the US in 2016....he played her .....and she played him right back. this is chess not checkers fools. like reincar said all my colicash says they don't even sleep in the same room together and haven't for years now.

Why does it have to be a game?

Bill LOVES Hillary. and she loves him back. He fukked around and she forgave him. They may not be in love the same way they were before but it's still love.

If anybody got played it's the American ppl. Hillary didn't play sh*t. He needed her to stay and she needed him to be in her corner.

 

[Anothergirl]

Why does it have to be a game?

perhaps you should ask the CHEATER who lies and deceives the very people they claim to "love" that question.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

also anyone who thinks Hillary\huma woulda stayed with Bill/Wiener if they didn't have MAJOR POLITICAL GAINS to make from it is a cot damn fool. AMBITIOUS women sometimes play that game. look where staying with Bill got Hillary ...she's about to be the first Female president of the US in 2016....he played her .....and she played him right back. this is chess not checkers fools. like reincar said all my colicash says they don't even sleep in the same room together and haven't for years now.

So? My only point was that she stayed with him. She looked at the benefits and decided it was worth it.

What about Corretta Scott King then? What about other strong women who got cheated on?

I'm not even debating right/wrong, I'm talking reality.

 

[MikelArteta]

Don't even think Coretta knew about the tapes.

 

[Anothergirl]

Don't even think Coretta knew about the tapes.

she was clueless most likely...if not and she actually "knew" then she's a doormat...and theres nothing "strong" about doormats.

 

[Anothergirl]

dbl

 

[devizelle]

If I cheat on a chick and she doesn't take me back, trust me I have no problem accepting that. Good man or not. I'd much rather that happen than the girl take me back and hold a grudge for 3 years (tru story).

btw, I'd argue that most men have no idea how much it will hurt their female when they cheat.

Honestly, I think the men arguing against calling a cheater a "bad person" are coming from this place right here. And this is totally legitimate. BUT the fact that you didn't mean to cause pain doesn't change the reality of this situation.

Are men who cheat "bad people"? Of course not.

Should a woman take back a man who has cheated? Depends. But I can totally understand how someone betraying your trust in that way could be hurtful, and damaging to the point where you need to remove yourself from the situation and end the relationship.

I think the core of it is about respect. If you respect the commitment that you made to be in a relationship, then why would you (man OR woman) but yourself in a situation where you could "slip up"? I understand that people make mistakes but just cuz it's a mistake doesn't mean that there shouldn't be any consequences.

Why does it have to be a game?

Bill LOVES Hillary. and she loves him back. He fukked around and she forgave him. They may not be in love the same way they were before but it's still love.

If anybody got played it's the American ppl. Hillary didn't play sh*t. He needed her to stay and she needed him to be in her corner.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

she was clueless most likely...if not and she actually "knew" then she's a doormat...and theres nothing "strong" about doormats.

There are written accounts that say she was aware. But maybe she felt it was more important for the advancement of the race to play the good wife role.

Either way... fair enough. As long as you guys are consistent with your rationale I have no problem with it.

 

[Taadow]

Honestly, I think the men arguing against calling a cheater a "bad person" are coming from this place right here. And this is totally legitimate. BUT the fact that you didn't mean to cause pain doesn't change the reality of this situation.

Are men who cheat "bad people"? Of course not.

Should a woman take back a man who has cheated? Depends. But I can totally understand how someone betraying your trust in that way could be hurtful, and damaging to the point where you need to remove yourself from the situation and end the relationship.

I think the core of it is about respect. If you respect the commitment that you made to be in a relationship, then why would you (man OR woman) but yourself in a situation where you could "slip up"? I understand that people make mistakes but just cuz it's a mistake doesn't mean that there shouldn't be any consequences.

Thread should end here.