Ladies, Would you consider yourself a failure if...

[Anothergirl]

Failure? at what? Not wanting to get married doesn't mean you're a feminist. Just means you don't want to get married. You would think the coli dudes would love our responses since most of y'all don't want to get married. wtf

and this is true too... i've come to the conclusion a lot of these dudes just wanna see women(esp black women) miserable no matter what.

 

[Elle Driver]

for those saying it's an insult to say women should naturally want children? do you subconsciously feel that having a child is something that makes a woman "weak" and vunerable and "less than" a man???
if so don't let a patriarchal society warp your mind and demean how essential and POWERFUL the gift of motherhood is. only WE can give birth to and nurture new life to fruition. men would never be strong enough to do it nor emotionally connected enough. only we have this innate abitly be proud of that and wear it like a badge of honor. (and not a curse)

No I don't, I commend women who do it. It's a life time of work, and it's an amazing journey, but it's just not for me.

It's funny you say that though, cause in a patriarchal society we're also damned if we don't (have children).

The point of feminism is the freedom to choose whatever you wanna do.

 

[twan83]

Failure? at what? Not wanting to get married doesn't mean you're a feminist. Just means you don't want to get married. You would think the coli dudes would love our responses since most of y'all don't want to get married. wtf

and this is true too... i've come to the conclusion a lot of these dudes just wanna see women(esp black women) miserable no matter what.

na some just dont understand and some do

 

[Ashley Banks]

for those saying it's an insult to say women should naturally want children? do you subconsciously feel that having a child is something that makes a woman "weak" and vunerable and "less than" a man???
if so don't let a patriarchal society warp your mind and demean how essential and POWERFUL the gift of motherhood is. only WE can give birth to and nurture new life to fruition. men would never be strong enough to do it nor emotionally connected enough. only we have this innate abitly be proud of that and wear it like a badge of honor. (and not a curse)

I don't think that's why they're saying it's an insult. I think it's because when people say that you should want kids because you're a woman it seems like they're saying that there's something wrong with a woman that doesn't want children.

 

[Anothergirl]

No I don't, I commend women who do it. It's a life time of work, and it's an amazing journey, but it's just not for me.

It's funny you say that though, cause in a patriarchal society we're also damned if we don't (have children).

The point of feminism is the freedom to choose whatever you wanna do.

 

[Anothergirl]

I don't think that's why they're saying it's an insult. I think it's because when people say that you should want kids because you're a woman it seems like they're saying that there's something wrong with a woman that doesn't want children.

ok gotcha...

 

[twan83]

I don't think that's why they're saying it's an insult. I think it's because when people say that you should want kids because you're a woman it seems like they're saying that there's something wrong with a woman that doesn't want children.

im like this if i met a woman who doesnt want too have kids does that make her a failure absolutely no its make her a winner in some ways cuz at least she knows the what the hell she wants instead of just having kids just cuz then not raising them right and leaving them for other people too raise thats horrible

if she dont wants too get married so fukking what the way marriage is nowadays i dont blame em sure we got some good one's but the bad makes u think twice too
so she rather be in relationship than be married and thats fine if both of them are happy

 

[Anothergirl]

im like this if i met a woman who doesnt want too have kids does that make her a failure absolutely no its make her a winner in some ways cuz at least she knows the what the hell she wants instead of just having kids just cuz then not raising them right and leaving them for other people too raise that horrible

if she dont wants too get married so fukking what the way marriage is nowadays i dont blame em sure we got some good one's but the bad makes u think twice too
so she rather be in relationship than be married and thats fine if both of them are happy

true....even tho it might be a little unfamilar to me because of my cultural and religious upbringing i can still respect everyones chioces..... so no disrepect to y'all ladies that don't want what society tells you to want. do ya thing girls.

 

[Jasmine20]

I want to get married someday. I'm not gonna lie. But I do not want kids. I can't see myself having them. The only way I would change my mind is if I was REALLY in love with the guy and he begged me to have one or some ().

But if I don't get married I will not feel depressed about it. The only way i'll feel like a failure in life is if I don't get to accomplish career goals I have set for myself.

 

[Lord Vile]

and this is true too... i've come to the conclusion a lot of these dudes just wanna see women(esp black women) miserable no matter what.

whoa, not me

 

[LOUD]

It's in our DNA, but two women that are in love with each other can't biologically have children though.

It's not in our DNA, it's purely environmental. My reasoning is that I don't wanna be another version of my own mother, be in an unhappy relationship, have a child I never wanted, and then use the child as a bargaining chip. Relationships are a fickle thing, if shyt goes sour watch your whole damn family crumble as a result. Me not wanting children comes from the environment that I was raised in. Plus, some women can't biologically have children. To each their own, at least I'm doing something right by not having a child I wouldn't be able to take care of anyway .

How can you have a child you don't want?

 

[Elle Driver]

How can you have a child you don't want?

I don't know, by getting skeeted in?

 

[Randy Sandchild]

I'm proud of you ladies. Not wanting to get married and not wanting kids, good for y'all. You guys actually have an understanding of how much work both marriage and kids are, and you eagerly admit its too much for y'all. Props girls. It takes a big person to know when not to pursue a daunting task.

 

[Reverend Jesse Jackson]

Most of the children of the women in this thread will become criminals.

 

[Rawtid]

I'm proud of you ladies. Not wanting to get married and not wanting kids, good for y'all. You guys actually have an understanding of how much work both marriage and kids are, and you eagerly admit its too much for y'all. Props girls. It takes a big person to know when not to pursue a daunting task.

Is that how you feel about the men who feel the same way about marriage and children? Like the threadstarter.

How can you have a child you don't want?

Visit your nearest orphanage.