Ladies, How Would You React If You Found Out

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I don't see anything wrong with that. Some people date for fun while others do it with a set goal in mind of building a relationship that will flourish into bigger and better things.

True. I would love to build too but trying to force the issue won't make it so. You might as well enjoy people for who they are and if you see eye to eye and go from there. Relationships are serious business and trying to push someone into that position is unrealistic.
 

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nail on the head.

I have stories to break the shyt down but I',m too lazy to even explain. Overall I would advise EVERY man to try and have as many options as he can when it comes to women. Never get complacent.

Women don't need to because regardless...whether or not they TRY to have options they will have options. Men will approach them if they are remotely attractive. Hence, a woman can be in a relationship or dating...be broken up and

a) turn on her phone to some nikka like me tryna hit her up and see what shes up to
b) go outside and have a nikka like me tryna bag it and get the number
c) go to a club or party and have dudes buying her drinks and tryna holla
d) log into social media and have nikkas sliding in her DMs (not my style)
e) have her friends hook her up with eligible dudes who are ready and willing to prove themselves.

With a man however? If you relinquish your roster at any time because you feel that your girlfriend is your everything you lose all your leverage. Let's say your girl starts acting funny...flaking...all of a sudden needs space? Try and go back to those girls that you distanced yourself from. Every single one of them jawns will curve you. Essentially you'll have to start all the way from the ground up and get out there bagging girls as you try to get your mojo back. You'll have to build your confidence back up in the face of rejection. Keeping that in mind...when you're girl starts acting dumb you're gonna turn a blind eye because you remember how cold the dating game is and dont wanna be thrown back into the sea.

It's a catch 22. You let these women know you're taken and if you're ever broken up with or become single all of a sudden they're bitter cause you didnt choose them initially and they're probably wondering how you fukked up your other relationship. If you broke up with your girl in their eyes youre probably an a$$hole. If she broke up with you you're damaged goods and there must be something wrong with you. But if you dont let them know you're being a snake. :manny: Better decision is to just keep shyt on the hush. If they ask tell..if they don't then withhold the information.


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Learned this the hard way not once but twice.


Women usually feel away about this because they keep options even when they dont want or think they have any. Just like you broke down.

You'd think that the women you were interested in that you broke it off with because you starting seeing someone would be like:ohhh: "What a good trust worthy guy" Instead its:usure: you should have choose me 1st "I'm no one back up"



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:yeshrug: I'm not necessarily dating for marriage. As a person who just got out of a relationship I find trying to make someone I just met drop everything for me weird and I 'm really sure why anyone would want that.

But I'm really not pressed to be in a relationship so maybe that is the difference. I date to enjoy the personalities and experiences of others. I don't date hoping dude will be my prince charming.

But I can't hate on someone's dating style but if a dude I just met told me he was the only I can spend any time with if I wanted to get to know him I'd probably consider him controling and keep it moving. I can't imagine someone I don't know telling me how I should feel about them off the break. Nah son.


Dating for fun is so pointless to me. Eventually someone is going to catch feelings and then its "what are we"


You minds well just keep "friends" and "friends" with benefits if your not trying to settle down imo.
 

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But... What if you really are like that...?
Where I'm from abortion/oow babies period is a foreign concept. I wouldn't even know what to do.
I don't like fukking random strangers and so I zdon't do casual sex b/c it doesn't benefit me. There are a lot of women out there who are similar to me and the other ladies in this thread but not if u only thinking about the internet

Maybe there are women like you. It just seems odd that the women of The Coli seem to be the picture of chastity when reality does not bare that out.

The same way it's odd how The Coli is a consortium of black men making $100K with IT certs galore when most people, let alone most black people, don't make that kind of money.

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I never did the dating multiple guys thing at once, it's time and energy consuming and you have to be kind of organized for it. But I did in the past go on a date, if I saw it wasn't going anywhere or I didn't like him it was on to the next one. But if the next one was cool, I'd feel it out and see if I wanted to be serious. If you're not exclusive you can't be mad at a man for exercising his options.
 

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Maybe there are women like you. It just seems odd that the women of The Coli seem to be the picture of chastity when reality does not bare that out.

The same way it's odd how The Coli is a consortium of black men making $100K with IT certs galore when most people, let alone most black people, don't make that kind of money.

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It has nothing to do with chastity. I've experienced the negative emotional effects of being into someone and then finding out they were with other woman and I just prefer not to repeat it. I prefer not to need to have an abortion, tho I absolutely would do it if I had to, so I use birth control that is 99% effective with no user error possible. Why is that unbelievable to you?
 

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It has nothing to do with chastity. I've experienced the negative emotional effects of being into someone and then finding out they were with other woman and I just prefer not to repeat it. I prefer not to need to have an abortion, tho I absolutely would do it if I had to, so I use birth control that is 99% effective with no user error possible. Why is that unbelievable to you?

Was this person you were "into" in a relationship with you? Was he in a relationship with the other woman? Or was he simply dating the both of you casually since he was getting to know the both of you? And were you dating and/or entertaining other men or women while you were "into" him?

It's unbelievable because most women date more than one guy or at least entertain more than one guy when single. By entertain, I mean texting, phone calls, etc. By dating, I mean going on dates, spending personal time, having sex or engaging in sexual behaviors i.e. kissing, oral sex, etc.

As far as the abortion thing, I was speaking to how many women on here claim to not believe in abortion. Damn near all. That's unbelievable because that doesn't match reality.

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