Uh, yeah. As are hvm. Which is why women will approach. That's been my point the whole time.
I figured. Something else women have to look out for. But being equally yoked (per your example) is important tooI don't have all the details, but I do know she was done dirty in the divorce. I had the opportunity to hang with the mom once and she was very old school hood, like 70's hood. She woulda been a queen to my uncles who drive up and down from SC every summer. Comfortable to me, but I could see how it didn't work. Still beautiful though, black don't crack.
She just wasn't ready. The generationally wealthy run a tight ship, nothing left on the table. Same thing happened to my cousin: an Ivy educated dr, married into a clan of fancy negroes. I don't even think she sees her kids anymore. The game is cold. Which is why I chose not to play that permutation.
WhewUh, yeah. As are hvm. Which is why women will approach. That's been my point the whole time.
This is what @Gloxina keeps talking about: people are having these conversations without even knowing who exactly they talking about. Its bizarre.
WHAT?! They got her out the paint like that??! I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine she’s that a bad influence on her own children, especially if they were moving in the same environment and they actually married.She just wasn't ready. The generationally wealthy run a tight ship, nothing left on the table. Same thing happened to my cousin: an Ivy educated dr, married into a clan of fancy negroes. I don't even think she sees her kids anymore. The game is cold. Which is why I chose not to play that permutation.
As the hoteps say, that's a false teaching. Or, at least, an incomplete one. No, don't approach average men. They enjoy the chase. Busy men typically do not ime, or only in a limited fashion. By the time they decide they 'need' a wife, they just want her to appear, ready made to fit in his life, with all the right friends and all the right dresses. (I'm being a little glib with that last bit, but I'm confident that you know exactly what I mean.)
She's definitely not a bad influence, she's just like them.
(The wedding was... a display. That's when I knew I couldn't do it. 
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She simply wasn't prepared. I'm 100% sure she handled them all wrong. I did more socializing at both her graduation AND wedding than she did, bc I was comfortable in that milieu. She obviously was not. (Ive seen this whole scenario happen a lot, to men and women. I call it the Icarus Syndrome. )
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Sigh, you’re right.As the hoteps say, that's a false teaching. Or, at least, an incomplete one. No, don't approach average men. They enjoy the chase. Busy men typically do not ime, or only in a limited fashion. By the time they decide they 'need' a wife, they just want her to appear, ready made to fit in his life, with all the right friends and all the right dresses. (I'm being a little glib with that last bit, but I'm confident that you know exactly what I mean.)
Look around you at the women whose life you want to lead and follow their advice. The fish never really understands the net, they just know they got caught.
She's definitely not a bad influence, she's just like them.
Her problem was, she was properly educated, but not properly socialized. There were issues in her immediate family history that I'm certain she didn't make clear and, unlike me, she not g enough to thug it out. Those women are cut throat, esp about their sons.
). But my family is deep so as much of a trip as they were, it was basically unnoticed by outside eyes and I was still good. Again, why I love my family lol
As the hoteps say, that's a false teaching. Or, at least, an incomplete one. No, don't approach average men. They enjoy the chase. Busy men typically do not ime, or only in a limited fashion. By the time they decide they 'need' a wife, they just want her to appear, ready made to fit in his life, with all the right friends and all the right dresses. (I'm being a little glib with that last bit, but I'm confident that you know exactly what I mean.)
Look around you at the women whose life you want to lead and follow their advice. The fish never really understands the net, they just know they got caught.
She's definitely not a bad influence, she's just like them.
Her problem was, she was properly educated, but not properly socialized. There were issues in her immediate family history that I'm certain she didn't make clear and, unlike me, she not g enough to thug it out. Those women are cut throat, esp about their sons.
. But its more than most women do,so I still applaud it,although I dont advise it.
Because he was saying shyt that HURT
nikkas are on drugs bro...that's why I just SMH and keep it moving nowA nikka telling a fat single mother it's going to be hard finding a husband making $100,000 a year is an agent of white supremacy
As an adult I always look back and say that I hated the schools I attended, but my parents made good decisions. I’ve had men of all races literally change their posture when I list the prep schools I attended (before mentioning my university). It does start young.
And…I will say all of my girls were raised to cook and clean, keep house. But you had to have an education and put it to use as well. And everyone can afford help as well, soNever a reason to have a messy home.
But I won’t even front- the young ones in my family who are in HS are better. Baking from scratch from like 12. I was like “hold up, how come you didn’t teach me any of that?!” They are literally perfect girls. Even if their parents don’t understand, it’s my personal mission to ensure they align themselves with the absolute best young men Lmao
As for the size thing…as long as I’m a tight 6, I’m ok. But 2-4 is definitely achieving the look. I can admit that. I just ain’t doing it LOL I noticed that if I maintained a 6, the world was such a friendly, amazing place
It’s a shame, but it is what it is. People are shallow.
But naw, BBW ain’t where it’s at… I mean obviously after marriage and kids that’s a lady’s business— any woman has to understand it can be challenging to maintain the before baby body.
But trying to get that kinda guy walking through the door with the extra weight…no. My fam was straight up: “you aren’t getting the man you want if you’re overweight”.
Shyt I mentioned I was on a flight with my uncle and he was like “don’t ever let yourself get overweight. It will be too challenging to travel”. Lmao
As an example, I’ll just say I attended an event a few weeks ago and it was kinda messed up, but the guys were literally talking about the size of some of the women/dates at the function. I was like “Gotd@mn really?!” And they were even discussing it with older women later
But in comparison, I was getting mad love about how great I looked. Someone was even like “yep, just like her mom. That’s how she looked when she was younger” (which, as I’ve stated a few times on here- my mom is a TRIP, but no one denies how fab she was when she was younger).
But everyone I’m down with has maintained a healthy weight, even after kids. Ionno. Just has to be done
As the hoteps say, that's a false teaching. Or, at least, an incomplete one. No, don't approach average men. They enjoy the chase. Busy men typically do not ime, or only in a limited fashion. By the time they decide they 'need' a wife, they just want her to appear, ready made to fit in his life, with all the right friends and all the right dresses. (I'm being a little glib with that last bit, but I'm confident that you know exactly what I mean.)
Look around you at the women whose life you want to lead and follow their advice. The fish never really understands the net, they just know they got caught.
She's definitely not a bad influence, she's just like them.
Her problem was, she was properly educated, but not properly socialized. There were issues in her immediate family history that I'm certain she didn't make clear and, unlike me, she not g enough to thug it out. Those women are cut throat, esp about their sons.
Low income women do exist. Y’all do know that there’s women working at Dollar Tree as well right? A lot of low income people are together. They may not be married, but they are often together, living together, and having kids. Black women are more likely to date down but they don’t date down that much. People usually date within their own social class.
Sigh, you’re right.
I’m sure I come off a little more stuck up than I actually am because I was always firm on the no approaching thing. But, you are right when I think about it. That dizzy broad chilling in that big ass house down south with my cousin definitely made the first move. And he was definitely too busy with work to run around finding someone better (she actually is out of her mind and a dismal wife, but she has the game down because he isn’t going anywhere. And she’s seething because he eldest son got gamed the same way and has a new wife that she doesn’t approve of either
From our brief acquaintance, he seemed very stereotypical, very self involved.
But we were the best representatives for the image she wanted to convey. It was a very weird vibe. Me and my mother kept looking at each other like""- and really get it, wasn't gon be no marrying so far up that my family was deemed unacceptable. fukk that and fukk them. 
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