Kevin Samuels Really had Something

[2 Up 2 Down]

Too many people are over complicating dating.

 

[Kings County]

Didn't really agree with alot of shyt he was pushing but hate him or love him, that brother was hitting topics that resonated across all demographics.

Take this woman for example, new york Jewish woman probably in her 50s discussing with people from similar backgrounds about high value men.

Yea women always went after rich men but I don't think people really vocalized the high value shyt like Kevin did.

Everyone is on this shyt. If dude didn't die he could of really capitalized this into something big.

this is cap lol
plenty of women find rich, powerful nikkas on dating apps

 

[General Mills]

Kevin Samuels just took what Tom Leykis had and tweaked it.​

A mix of Leyksis and slight softening/ more palatable versions of some of Tommy Sotomayers points.

Mix in good lighting and consistent content scheduling along with common sense points mixed with humor and he hit his niche and it worked

 

[NoirDynosaur]

Too many people are over complicating dating.

To be clear social media has distorted the dating scene

 

[HarlemHottie]

Come on
Most women aint approaching men period

That’s not how masculinity works sis
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Because we know y’all’s nature isn’t to approach AT ALL
To me
You and buddy are conflating masculinity/HVM

vs

This. I'm not saying women never approach - they do. Some women know what they want and go for it. I've had three girlfriends my entire life and each approached me.

Most women I've dealt with approached me. Not to say I didn't pull when I felt I needed to but Most approached and aggressively pursued me

 

[HarlemHottie]

And most men are not attractive or wealthy enough to elicit approaches

But here's the disconnect: we're talking about men who are.

But I won’t even front- the young ones in my family who are in HS are better. Baking from scratch from like 12. I was like “hold up, how come you didn’t teach me any of that?!” They are literally perfect girls. Even if their parents don’t understand, it’s my personal mission to ensure they align themselves with the absolute best young men Lmao

You love to see it, yay! It's our job as aunties, both real and fictive, to fill in those gaps. Parents are too far removed from the scene to be helpful, esp with all the modern nuances (sm, apps, etc).

As for the size thing…as long as I’m a tight 6, I’m ok. But 2-4 is definitely achieving the look. I can admit that. I just ain’t doing it LOL I noticed that if I maintained a 6, the world was such a friendly, amazing place
It’s a shame, but it is what it is. People are shallow.
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But in comparison, I was getting mad love about how great I looked. Someone was even like “yep, just like her mom. That’s how she looked when she was younger” (which, as I’ve stated a few times on here- my mom is a TRIP, but no one denies how fab she was when she was younger).
But everyone I’m down with has maintained a healthy weight, even after kids. Ionno. Just has to be done

I'm only 5'2" so I look 'too skinny' at a 2, slim thick at a 4, and veering into my personal danger zone at a 6. It's about the look, nobody's checking labels, and the labels be lying anyway. (for the men reading along, google 'vanity sizing', absolutely ridiculous.)

My mother was a bad one too. It helps, ngl. The men your mother surrounds herself with can make or break your whole life, (esp as a woman but also as the son of a single mom). For girls, those are likely the kind of men you'll deal with as an adult, so mamas, choose wisely.

 

[Ryda52]

He was nothing more than a vocal jerry springer for losers, delusional hoes and c00ns

R.I.P. but its not like the breh was Malcolm X or countless other people worthy of remembrance

Boy, nikkas was really comparing this guy to Malcolm X when he passed.

The AUDACITY of some of you nikkas out here man.

 

[Gloxina]

But here's the disconnect: we're talking about men who are.


You love to see it, yay! It's our job as aunties, both real and fictive, to fill in those gaps. Parents are too far removed from the scene to be helpful, esp with all the modern nuances (sm, apps, etc).



I'm only 5'2" so I look 'too skinny' at a 2, slim thick at a 4, and veering into my personal danger zone at a 6. It's about the look, nobody's checking labels, and the labels be lying anyway. (for the men reading along, google 'vanity sizing', absolutely ridiculous.)

My mother was a bad one too. It helps, ngl. The men your mother surrounds herself with can make or break your whole life, (esp as a woman but also as the son of a single mom). For girls, those are likely the kind of men you'll deal with as an adult, so mamas, choose wisely.

I feel you. I’m 5’3 but size 6 works. 4 would be better but as long as I’m strength training everything is tight. That’s all I got


I know I’m aight because it was sooooo awkward. One of the instructors at my gym has been inappropriate lately and I didn’t know how to handle it. We were talking about training and then paused and he was like “yea…you look good tho” and I was like “oh ok thanks!” And then the next day he literally kept hugging me between sets and I was like “wtf?! I’m polite but I know I’m not being too inviting because these other dudes ain’t running up to hug no one” and some women were looking @ me and I was like “I don’t know wth is going on!” And then the next day he didn’t even make eye contact with me.
Come to find out this negro is married acting like that

Good trainer, tho


And you’re right about the company your mother/parents keep. Very, very true. Kids will get mixed up with the wrong element when they don’t have an understanding about who they should or shouldn’t be around.

 

[Ohene]

But here's the disconnect: we're talking about men who are.

That ain’t the disconnect at all

A man being attractive isn’t enough

He has to be famous , extremely extremely extremely good looking and / or exhibit wealth usually to get that type of reaction

A man has to be a 10/10 attractiveness wise to get the attention that a 7/10 woman gets

 

[HarlemHottie]

A man being attractive isn’t enough

He has to be famous , extremely extremely extremely good looking and / or exhibit wealth usually to get that type of reaction

A man has to be a 10/10 attractiveness wise to get the attention that a 7/10 woman gets

I'm telling you, as a woman who has approached, I've never in my life chosen, or approached, a man primarily based on how he looked.

If the topic is hvm and the women who pursue them, we're talking about wealth, profession, and academic and/ or familial pedigree. Looks are definitely on the list, but further down. I'm not too fond of ostentatious displays of wealth either, but we dabbled in our youth.

I feel you. I’m 5’3 but size 6 works. 4 would be better but as long as I’m strength training everything is tight. That’s all I got

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Come to find out this negro is married acting like that

Good trainer, tho


And you’re right about the company your mother/parents keep. Very, very true. Kids will get mixed up with the wrong element when they don’t have an understanding about who they should or shouldn’t be around.

Your toned size 6 is fine, you were born in. But don't gain nothing.

Keep the trainer if he's good, he's been appropriately shamed. These things happen.

I specified mothers for a reason. The quality of your mother determines who your father will be- who's in her pool of potentials and how they might treat her. The results of that process can either sprinkle a blessing over your life... or not. For me, the quality of my mother determined that I'd have a father who married her, was open handed with the child support, and provided good healthcare. He didn't even have to be there. It also determines how men who are not your father will treat her, and by extension, you. Will shopkeepers be polite or surly? Will randoms be respectful just moving around in daily life, or not? More importantly, will YOU grow up thinking 'all' men are respectful and polite, or disrespectful and surly, and react accordingly? A quality woman can change the trajectory of a whole family tree in this way, even more drastically if she's beautiful.

(I split up quality and beauty bc I've seen it work out where a poor but beautiful girl married into the Boule class, but flamed out badly, so her daughter really got none of the advantages of being born into such a prestigious family. Beauty but not quality. )

 

[Ohene]

I'm telling you, as a woman who has approached, I've never in my life chosen, or approached, a man primarily based on how he looked.

If the topic is hvm and the women who pursue them, we're talking about wealth, profession, and academic and/ or familial pedigree. Looks are definitely on the list, but further down. I'm not too fond of ostentatious displays of wealth either, but we dabbled in our youth.



Your toned size 6 is fine, you were born in. But don't gain nothing.

Keep the trainer if he's good, he's been appropriately shamed. These things happen.

I specified mothers for a reason. The quality of your mother determines who your father will be- who's in her pool of potentials and how they might treat her. The results of that process can either sprinkle a blessing over your life... or not. For me, the quality of my mother determined that I'd have a father who married her, was open handed with the child support, and provided good healthcare. He didn't even have to be there. It also determines how men who are not your father will treat her, and by extension, you. Will shopkeepers be polite or surly? Will randoms be respectful just moving around in daily life, or not? More importantly, will YOU grow up thinking 'all' men are respectful and polite, or disrespectful and surly, and react accordingly? A quality woman can change the trajectory of a whole family tree in this way, even more drastically if she's beautiful.

(I split up quality and beauty bc I've seen it work out where a poor but beautiful girl married into the Boule class, but flamed out badly, so her daughter really got none of the advantages of being born into such a prestigious family. Beauty but not quality. )

So you agree with me then

 

[Gloxina]

I'm telling you, as a woman who has approached, I've never in my life chosen, or approached, a man primarily based on how he looked.

If the topic is hvm and the women who pursue them, we're talking about wealth, profession, and academic and/ or familial pedigree. Looks are definitely on the list, but further down. I'm not too fond of ostentatious displays of wealth either, but we dabbled in our youth.



Your toned size 6 is fine, you were born in. But don't gain nothing.

Keep the trainer if he's good, he's been appropriately shamed. These things happen.

I specified mothers for a reason. The quality of your mother determines who your father will be- who's in her pool of potentials and how they might treat her. The results of that process can either sprinkle a blessing over your life... or not. For me, the quality of my mother determined that I'd have a father who married her, was open handed with the child support, and provided good healthcare. He didn't even have to be there. It also determines how men who are not your father will treat her, and by extension, you. Will shopkeepers be polite or surly? Will randoms be respectful just moving around in daily life, or not? More importantly, will YOU grow up thinking 'all' men are respectful and polite, or disrespectful and surly, and react accordingly? A quality woman can change the trajectory of a whole family tree in this way, even more drastically if she's beautiful.

(I split up quality and beauty bc I've seen it work out where a poor but beautiful girl married into the Boule class, but flamed out badly, so her daughter really got none of the advantages of being born into such a prestigious family. Beauty but not quality. )

Nothing to add.
You said it all.


I’m curious though, how’d the mom flame out? Acted crazy after divorce or something?

 

[HarlemHottie]

So you agree with me then

You want it to be one way.

You basically called me a liar ('women do not approach') and then agreed with me (that certain men do get approached).

 

[HarlemHottie]

Nothing to add.
You said it all.


I’m curious though, how’d the mom flame out? Acted crazy after divorce or something?

I don't have all the details, but I do know she was done dirty in the divorce. I had the opportunity to hang with the mom once and she was very old school hood, like 70's hood. She woulda been a queen to my uncles who drive up and down from SC every summer. Comfortable to me, but I could see how it didn't work. Still beautiful though, black don't crack.

 

[Ohene]

You want it to be one way.

You basically called me a liar ('women do not approach') and then agreed with me (that certain men do get approached).

Nah man

I am saying that it simply isnt the reality for 99% of men

Obviously SOME women approach SOME times. But lets be real, it is EXTREMELY RARE