Sadly this is the case too many times. I am in my early 30s and too many of my peers are still following trends like teenagers. When I hit up the barbershop the conversation is usually about sports, the latest Jordans, and/or bytches. On some occasions serious discussions will take place but it will usually devolve into brothers just spouting off half-baked points & arguments. We have to be the only group where such a large portion of men emulate the trends and mindsets of teenagers. It's totally backwards.
But the thing is, our social scenes encourage that. Especially young black women that stay on social media, chasing superficial images and not looking deeper into smoke and mirrors.
Sounds like you letting young women lead. Men set the tone.
That's one of the problems. In most cities, there isn't balance in the social scene. The party promoters cater to the lowest segment. Ratchet and trap are the money makers, currently.
Black men could and should offer more upscale events, but at this point, our culture doesn't have a palette for that. That will take some time to develop. It's akin to getting Black people to shift from Henny to elite whiskey!
We all know Henny is trash compared to great whiskey. But, the culture loves Henny and everything associated with it.
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