Its his fault if he is lying to her. HVM dont need to lie. That's the point of having options. There are plenty of women that are cool with open relationships, you having multiple women or even joining in on the fun as long as you are taking care of business. But there are some women who are not cool with that if you know that up front and mislead her thats on you.
Trust is everything. And if you are married are you using a condom everytime you have sex with your wife? You said you dont trust anything right? But im you trust that your wife aint letting the mailman hit raw while you at work so you dont wear condoms with your wife. Trust is the basis of any relationship. If I dont trust you I cant wife you. You gonna have someone you dont trust raise your kids? Stop it.
Women cheat just as much as men do. And they are much better at it than men. So if you think a woman that actually knows or finds out her man is cheating but doesnt make an issue about it is not doing her own dirt on side then I would say you don't know women very well. Many women will stay with a cheating man who takes care of them, but they will be having their own affair behind his back and he will never know. I've known married women who were able to give dome in the parking lot during a quick run to the grocery store. Probably kissed her husband on the mouth when they got home. That's why its better to be upfront and tell women what the deal is. Some are cool with it. some aint. But if you got a lot to offer or are a hvm you would be surprised how many are cool with it. No reason to lie to a woman.
Being upfront is what I stated in my post replying to you, a woman should know a man's nature and men that are HV have options, many women want a HVM. I stated that a woman should already "expect" a man to step out...especially if she's dealing with a HVM (alpha) not a simp.
Women that you're talking about are "modern" women which KS stated, they will wreck their own home and other folks home, those wives are trash anyway and to me, the man should just leave the situation if he catches the woman in the marriage cheating how you're describing. If he's HVM, shyt if he's not.
HVM putting up with his wife cheating like that is a Beta male in my opinion. She's probably cheating with a bum anyway, or less lower man, so IMO, the husband should just get rid of her...make sure his paper work is intact, (pre-nup) and move on. She's a "modern" wife anyway, if she wasn't she would not be in another man's face that's not on the level of her husband.
She wouldn't have time to be getting to know another man... Modern women have plenty of time on their hands to waste and finesse , because they don't do shyt, they don't cook, they don't really clean, and they don't posses any home skills.