This post dumb true!Hmm. I think it’s just how society have conditioned both sexes differently.
When men complain about their short comings, we’re told to improve.
“Man, why can’t I pull no bad bytches?”
“Make more money. Lose weight. Dress better. Improve your mouth piece” etc. Men are never told “there’s a good woman out there just waiting for you.” We’re held accountable. “You need to choose better. Stop shooting above your level. You’re aiming too high. Stop being entitled.”
Now you try and tell a woman that.
“Why Hasn’t a good man come into my life?”
And what is the usual response from society (women in general)?
“Oh don’t worry girl. These men don’t know a good thing when they see it. There’s a good man out there waiting for you. Just pray to Jesus and he’ll land on your doorstep.”
You try and give self improvement tips like:
“Lose weight.” OMG! You’re body shaming.“But I’m helping her attract the men she wants” SO YOU’RE SAYING MEN ARE SHALLOW?
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Duh! It’s not a big secret. We’re visual first before anything. No amount of degrees or money can make a woman attractive like it does men. Somehow, criticism of women has been made synonymous with misogyny, to avoid any constructive discourse.
That’s why you see these barren church women in their 50s, still praying for a good man because they’ve never been given pragmatic advice.
He is being helpful, he just not telling you what you WANT to hear.
What they need to hear and not what they want to hear. Some of them women have never been challenged in their beliefs
yo this dude a Savage 
Men are not trying to have it both ways, women are. They get ran through by garbage men then once they get older or old want a stable man, but they often do not get them because of their past (and most likely baby with one of them) and turn bitter. Future can do what he does because he is famous and has money, so he can not be used as an example.Women like a man with a personality. A lot of squares, DON'T have a personality. Don't shoot the messenger.
If your a black man gettin ahead, within the (cac) system, cacs expect you to be bland, vanilla, no personality, bite your tongue, etc. These tend to be a lot of the successful dudes (whose lady be fukkin the brakes off Tee from uptown, no job, sells trees, stays wit moms, but knows how to have fun).
So the cats that do have personality, tend to be the "bad boys", the street dudes, etc...who let's be fair....Lets use a BIG MEECH (drug kingpin) for example...
"He's so charismatic, and a born leader. What if he applied that to the corporate world..."
Even other men say some of these dudes have great personality traits, that would attract women. FUTURE for example...
"He's HOH (has a spine). He's a womanizer (ladies man)."
Nggas can't have it both ways lol.
