Its Sad The Peer Pressure Young Black Boys Go Through

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To be honest, its not a missing father thing, in more cases than some yea thats the reason, but Im going to go off myself for an example here for a minute, I was raised by working class carribeans, Father and step mother, mother lives back home.
My father owns his own, step mother owns her own, also a nurse practitioner and major in the military, they always preached the stay in school, stay away from company thing to me....

but in my junior high days to say sophmore year I would follow the knuckle head behavior, some of the dumbest shyt you can think of, and I came from a black middle class family, no real hood, projects or anything, the ignorant shyt was just cool in my eyes at the time..... honestly I dont care what anyone says but I feel our music has ALOT to do with it. On top of other things.


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Been saying it's time for a cultural shift. If these kids have no guidance and all their role models and people they look up to is rappers wtf you think is going to happen. The whole culture of embracing negativity has to die for even without parents around there would be hope still if the older men around em from the hood or celebrities pushed a similar stance in life.

Every other race has a community to stand on. That network of people working towards common goals is lacking. The spirit isn't there. Everyone is for self. These kids see people that look like em as expendable opposition. Can't keep jamming to that death murda kill while expecting change. Gonna have to give something up to get it.
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Growing up I did a lot of crash dummy shyt, blessed to not have gotten arrested or shot.

The only thing that stopped me from falling all the way off and getting back on track was my dad.

Not gonna lie, my parents had separated, love my mom but she couldn't tell me shyt, I was a man in my eyes.

When my dad and her moved back together it was arguments and brawls every week, those fights made us closer though somehow.

Most boys need their dads, they need to be able to see an adult that has the same physical and emotional traits as them. A person that can truly check them, but from a place of love.
 

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Go fukk yourself, Midwest
To be honest, its not a missing father thing, in more cases than some yea thats the reason, but Im going to go off myself for an example here for a minute, I was raised by working class carribeans, Father and step mother, mother lives back home.
My father owns his own, step mother owns her own, also a nurse practitioner and major in the military, they always preached the stay in school, stay away from company thing to me....

but in my junior high days to say sophmore year I would follow the knuckle head behavior, some of the dumbest shyt you can think of, and I came from a black middle class family, no real hood, projects or anything, the ignorant shyt was just cool in my eyes at the time..... honestly I dont care what anyone says but I feel our music has ALOT to do with it. On top of other things.
I wanna piggy back off what your saying but your 100% with this...
I had/have the GOAT of all time father...
Pops was like Julius from Everybody Hates Chris...
I was just a bad ass kid/teen wanting to be like nikkas like Tip and Webbie and Boosie lol...
 

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I was actually gonna post this when I was in the salon that day, but I was in the hair salon that my little brother gets his dreads twisted at and they were talking about their kids cause all of them except the owner are single mothers.

The married one was trying to give the rest of them discipline tips cause they were all having discipline problems with their sons. Some of them mentioned they would whoop them but that eventually stopped working as the boys got bigger. They would take away their video games, or stop buying them the clothes or shoes they wanted (all that's gonna do is make the little dude decide he needs to be able to get that on his own whether legal or illegal).

They were really just frustrated on why they couldn't keep their sons in line. You could tell they really love their sons and don't want them to crash out, but the idea that their sons need a man in their young lives isn't a possibility to them. It was honestly sad :mjcry:
 

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I wanna piggy back off what your saying but your 100% with this...
I had/have the GOAT of all time father...
Pops was like Julius from Everybody Hates Chris...
I was just a bad ass kid/teen wanting to be like nikkas like Tip and Webbie and Boosie lol...
But you here posting on the Coli, so you obviously didn't crash out.

And lol I always tell nikkas that Jeezy's "Thug Motivation 101" completely defined me in my teen years. I made some of the worst decisions of my life because of that album, but then again shyt worked out crazy for me.
 

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Go fukk yourself, Midwest
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They but you here posting on the Coli, so you obviously didn't crash out.

And lol I always tell nikkas that Jeezy's "Thug Motivation 101" completely defined me in my teen years. I made some of the worst decisions of my life because of that album, but then again shyt worked out crazy for me.
I hear that...
The shyt I thought was cool back then is embarassing...
Mad unprotected sex drugs, alcohol, jail etc...
shyt was disgusting...
 

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Is he wrong on that though?:jbhmm:

A deadbeat dad is gonna do right by other women?:ld:



They may have never been in a committed realtionship in the first place.


Alot of women do the casual sex thing with multiple men, just like some men do, but the consequences are harsher


Why do you think a good amount don't really know who the father is :francis:


It's not always as cut and dry as a committed man running away once she got pregnant :yeshrug:
 

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A single mom i know had a 2 boys and she your typical struggling mom who be on facebook, tried to have a man living in the house that wasnt the dad but no one stays too long, and basic ratchet online behaivor (but she not too too street)

No dad around but her boys were innocent as kids and liked to do school work and i used to tell them "stay in school and be the best u can be" and they made good grades. They had alot of potential.


Fast foward to now being 9th graders and these nikkas look like they in the MIGOS and taking them homo pics with other skinny jean wearin fake kid thugs holding up "gang signs" and their grades slippin real bad. I called this shyt 6 years ago but no one believed me. I dont know if its the kids in the neighborhood, lack of father, or the schooling buts its depressing.


This cycle is sad :mjcry:
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