Is there really a shortage of black men for black women to date/married? OR

[mamba]

Who invented the phrase "Tupac in a business suit" Lol

Closest thing we have is Pac in a tux.

 

[PHamm]

is the true statement should be a shortage of black men WITH 6 SIX FIGURE INCOMES.

So i'm sitting here watching cnn who's previewing a show on shortage of black men for black women in the community and u see these so called professional women talking about brothers being in jail, not in college, or the same excuse dating outside there race.

There's no shortage of real good brothers out here. the real shortage is in your mind and your fake reality of white culture that every good brother should have the same qualities as biff and todd.

There's plenty of good brothers out here. they might not have the COLI IT certs, but there's brothers out here working 9 to 5 and hell even working 24/7 to make it.

it's rare to see such sensible posting on the coli

 

[Tae]

is the true statement should be a shortage of black men WITH 6 SIX FIGURE INCOMES.

So i'm sitting here watching cnn who's previewing a show on shortage of black men for black women in the community and u see these so called professional women talking about brothers being in jail, not in college, or the same excuse dating outside there race.

There's no shortage of real good brothers out here. the real shortage is in your mind and your fake reality of white culture that every good brother should have the same qualities as biff and todd.

There's plenty of good brothers out here. they might not have the COLI IT certs, but there's brothers out here working 9 to 5 and hell even working 24/7 to make it.

I feel you to an extent.
Keisha with a GED working part-time at Wal-Mart shouldn't have high demands on the type of man she wants because she isn't bringing much to the table in terms of earning power. Natasha with a Bachelors degree working as a Marketing Manager bringing in $45k can have some demands on the type of man she wants because she brings more to the table.
Why is it other races can want their daughters/women to go for men that can be good providers etc, but we ask black women to settle for a brotha around they way with a steady 9-5?
The obvious is that black men are at a disadvantage in society to climb the ladder of success but that doesn't mean it is impossible. Why is it we are asking black women to lower their standards and not asking black men to step it up?

 

[godkiller]

LOL there is no 4/1 ratio...there's something like a 2 million difference more black women than black men...and that's out of like 40 million people.

And keep in mind that includes ALL age brackets, including old women who tend to out live their spouses anyway

Nope. That "2 million more black women" number is misleading and not strictly true. It includes black women that are too young, mentally incapacitated, ugly (beyond reckoning), too old, etc. There's black immigrants from the Carribean and Africa who come here all the time in addition to the masses of black men in the USA and outside it. There's plenty of men for black women within the 18-35 age range. It's just many of these women are too picky.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

I feel you to an extent.
Keisha with a GED working part-time at Wal-Mart shouldn't have high demands on the type of man she wants because she isn't bringing much to the table in terms of earning power. Natasha with a Bachelors degree working as a Marketing Manager bringing in $45k can have some demands on the type of man she wants because she brings more to the table.
Why is it other races can want their daughters/women to go for men that can be good providers etc, but we ask black women to settle for a brotha around they way with a steady 9-5?
The obvious is that black men are at a disadvantage in society to climb the ladder of success but that doesn't mean it is impossible. Why is it we are asking black women to lower their standards and not asking black men to step it up?

Let's keep things in perspective, first other races aren't popping off like that. For every doctor (all races), there's 5+ cats working a low-skill job. Every CONCERNED father wants their daughter to be with a man that can provide and not settle. Of course fathers have preferences but it isn't exclusive. A black mother raising a black son should know America has a high chance of not being kind to him. It is what it is.

 

[godkiller]

I feel you to an extent.
Keisha with a GED working part-time at Wal-Mart shouldn't have high demands on the type of man she wants because she isn't bringing much to the table in terms of earning power. Natasha with a Bachelors degree working as a Marketing Manager bringing in $45k can have some demands on the type of man she wants because she brings more to the table.
Why is it other races can want their daughters/women to go for men that can be good providers etc, but we ask black women to settle for a brotha around they way with a steady 9-5?
The obvious is that black men are at a disadvantage in society to climb the ladder of success but that doesn't mean it is impossible. Why is it we are asking black women to lower their standards and not asking black men to step it up?

Like @King Poetic says, there is no shortage of black men, there is a lack of insight and perception. A brotha working a 9-5 job can be a good provider; a man doesn't have to be a millionaire to be a provider. That's nottrue. The 9-5 working class man is the one who built the white middle class and the American economy. As those women would "settle" for a 9-5 working man, anyone can. And regardless of what a woman does, she is "settling". There's no such thing as a perfect man or perfect woman. Every man settles for a less-than-perfect woman eventually. So we all settle, the only question is with whom.

 

[GiGi]

Like @King Poetic says, there is no shortage of black men, there is a lack of insight and perception. A brotha working a 9-5 job can be a good provider; a man doesn't have to be a millionaire to be a provider. That's nottrue. The 9-5 working class man is the one who built the white middle class and the American economy. As those women would "settle" for a 9-5 working man, anyone can. And regardless of what a woman does, she is "settling". There's no such thing as a perfect man or perfect woman. Every man settles for a less-than-perfect woman eventually. So we all settle, the only question is with whom.

But a "good provider" is not universal in its meaning. If I make 70k, is a man who makes 24k able to be a good provider for me? What about when I want to stay at home with my child for the first two years? Is my man able to take care of us during that time? Why is it unrealistic to want someone who is on a similar level economically?

 

[mamba]

But a "good provider" is not universal in its meaning. If I make 70k, is a man who makes 24k able to be a good provider for me? What about when I want to stay at home with my child for the first two years? Is my man able to take care of us during that time? Why is it unrealistic to want someone who is on a similar level economically?

How about he stays home and watches the kids while you work?

This is the 21st century, brehette.

Why does a man have to be the provider?

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

But a "good provider" is not universal in its meaning. If I make 70k, is a man who makes 24k able to be a good provider for me? What about when I want to stay at home with my child for the first two years? Is my man able to take care of us during that time? Why is it unrealistic to want someone who is on a similar level economically?

Lol at provide for me

Its really all about money

 

[godkiller]

But a "good provider" is not universal in its meaning. If I make 70k, is a man who makes 24k able to be a good provider for me? What about when I want to stay at home with my child for the first two years? Is my man able to take care of us during that time?

You are a c00n who has a mission to undermine and disrespect nikkas so I neither know why you care nor why your opinion matters. But anyway, being a "good provider" is subjective and completely dependent on a person's perception. There are country men who do odd jobs with wives who work in offices, and their relationships work out fine because the woman is content with the relationship as well as what her man brings to the table.

Gold digger bytches know not to target black men, that's why strippers swerve from nikkas in the strip club. They are money grubbing hos and know that there's going to be a lot of work for not a lot of (monetary) payoff. But what a ho brings in is not my business.

 

[GiGi]

How about he stays home and watches the kids while you work?

This is the 21st century, brehette.

Why does a man have to be the provider?

I'm traditional. I would never sign up for a marriage to a guy who would want to be a stay-at-home dad.

You are a c00n who has a mission to undermine and disrespect nikkas so I neither know why you care nor why your opinion matters. Anything nikkas offer will never be good for you. But anwyay, being a "good provider" is subjective and completely dependent on a person's perception. There are country men who do odd jobs with wives who work in offices, and their relationships work out fine because the woman is content with the relationship as well as what her man brings to the table.
Gold digger bytches know not to target black men, that's why strippers swerve from nikkas in the strip club. They are money grubbing hos and know that there's going to be a lot of work for not a lot of (monetary) payoff. But what a ho brings in is not my business.

Please quote me EVER saying anything of the sort.

How am I a gold digger when I make my own money? Own my home? Etc.? I have NEVER asked a guy for money to get my hair done or nails done like a lot if lower SES women. I have never asked a guy to pay my electric bill or car note. I have never asked for money to pay my cell phone, etc. So how am I gold digging?

 

[mamba]

Gold digger bytches know not to target black men, that's why strippers swerve from nikkas in the strip club

True statement here.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

You are a c00n who has a mission to undermine and disrespect nikkas so I neither know why you care nor why your opinion matters. Anything nikkas offer will never be good for you. But anwyay, being a "good provider" is subjective and completely dependent on a person's perception. There are country men who do odd jobs with wives who work in offices, and their relationships work out fine because the woman is content with the relationship as well as what her man brings to the table.

Gold digger bytches know not to target black men, that's why strippers swerve from nikkas in the strip club

Co sign breh

But if she was making 24k and he was bringing in 74k

Its all good
Pathetic

 

[mamba]

I'm traditional. I would never sign up for a marriage to a guy who would want to be a stay-at-home dad.

Traditional.

 

[GiGi]

Traditional.

Please expound?