Is there really a shortage of black men for black women to date/married? OR

[mamba]

So basically bw should settle for less than they want because there are "structural forces preventing" black men from being successful yet those men that can't do better are allowed to expect the best from the same women that are expected to settle for them. Got it.

No one is saying settle. No one is saying Black women settle for a nikka with no job and nothing going for himself. But, come on, Black women demanding nikkas make $100K and all that other shyt. That's not reality.

 

[Colicat]

I always laugh when I hear Black women talking about they want an Idris Elba-lookin' nikkas, who makes $100K+. Where are they going to find those nikkas other than the NBA, NFL, etc.? I work in corporate America. I never see big, Black nikkas walking around. I usually see a bunch of Drake-looking nikkas. Non-threatening nikkas. Cacs are ruthless in corporate America. You think they just toss nikkas resumes in the bushes when they see a "Black" name? They also toss you in the bushes when you show up to the interview and don't "fit" the culture. In other words, if it's a majority white male office, chances are a nikka that "threatens" their sense of manhood has no shot, especially if women work there, too.

It cuts deep, brehettes. There aren't many 2pac-in-a-business-suits walking around corporate America, pulling in $100K. Very rare.

Nobody is looking for a Tupac in a suit ... Most women are looking for honest Abe however he may come. Can Abe come to me making 50k.... he can, but he also has to be a great decision maker and strong leader. I am not going to allow my future to be up in the air because he wants to live a second childhood. He also has to have the ability to accept that his woman makes more than him. We are a team... He can be Mike, but he needs to know when it's time to pass it to Pippen....

 

[mamba]

100% cosigned and this is where we're stalemated as a group.

and instead of black women ego stroking black men, pretending money doesn't matter. i prefer this type of talk when justifying bedwenching. black men need to grow self conscious over wealth since y'all have effectively brainwashed nikkas into believing everything revolves around love, sex and their relationship with god.

I agree. It's all about money. "Good" Black man means a nikka with money. The aren't enough "good" Black men to go around means there aren't enough "nikkas making money to enable me to enjoy the lifestyle of my non-Black counterparts" to go around.

Let's keep it all the way real.

 

[mamba]

Nobody is looking for a Tupac in a suit ... Most women are looking for honest Abe however he may come. Can Abe come to me making 50k.... he can, but he also has to be a great decision maker and strong leader. I am not going to allow my future to be up in the air because he wants to live a second childhood. He also has to have the ability to accept that his woman makes more than him. We are a team... He can be Mike, but he needs to know when it's time to pass it to Pippen....

You're rare. Most women aren't trying to marry a nikka who makes less.

They go to church. They hear the preacher talkin' bout being equally yoked. Naw. They want a nikka who makes more.

 

[Colicat]

I agree. It's all about money. "Good" Black man means a nikka with money. The aren't enough "good" Black men to go around means there aren't enough "nikkas making money to enable me to enjoy the lifestyle of my non-Black counterparts" to go around.

Let's keep it all the way real.

:erroneous: Most Black women can afford that lifestyle without the Black man... lol....

 

[marcuz]

:erroneous: Most Black women can afford that lifestyle without the Black man... lol....

what world do you live in where most black women can afford that lifestyle? i mean, do you really believe the hype? do you think 80% of yall are roaming around with 100k a yr careers?

average black woman would be sucking dikk for weave if they cut off all welfare programs. get real

 

[Ashley Banks]

No one is saying settle. No one is saying Black women settle for a nikka with no job and nothing going for himself. But, come on, Black women demanding nikkas make $100K and all that other shyt. That's not reality.

If you want a man that makes 100k getting with a man that makes significantly less because people are telling you it isn't realistic is settling, babe.

 

[Ashley Banks]

what world do you live in where most black women can afford that lifestyle? i mean, do you really believe the hype? do you think 80% of yall are roaming around with 100k a yr careers?

average black woman would be sucking dikk for weave if they cut off all welfare programs. get real

I think she's saying bw can get there on their own. Not that bw are already there.

 

[marcuz]

I think she's saying bw can get there on their own. Not that bw are already there.

they cant get their on their own either. you need white men to give you opportunity first before you can collect your strong & independent card.

 

[marcuz]

and even still, do y'all believe 1 person making 30-50k is better than two people making 30-50k?

 

[mamba]

If you want a man that makes 100k getting with a man that makes significantly less because people are telling you it isn't realistic is settling, babe.

How many Black men do you really think are out here making $100K, brehette? Let's not include NFL, NBA, rappers and other entertainers. Less than 10% of all Americans make more than $100K. Black men are underrepresented in all professions that earn $100K+.

It's not about settling. It's about being realistic. How many Black male doctors, engineers, white-shoe attorneys, etc. do you know in your age-range? Really take a minute to think about it!

 

[TMNT4000]

Breh did you even read what you posted.
The part you described was only one small section of her paper in which she quoted an author. Furthermore, she even supplied info from a sociologist to debunk that claim.
Next time you try to school people make sure you bring the right books to class.
Here are the income levels of interracial marriages
http://www.businessinsider.com/this-is-the-highest-earning-type-of-interracial-couple-2012-2
Make sure to bookmark it

Where did it say it got debunked.

 

[semtex]

Black women like me physically, matter fact they love me. They don't tend to like my personality though.

 

[Ashley Banks]

and even still, do y'all believe 1 person making 30-50k is better than two people making 30-50k?

yeah

they cant get their on their own either. you need white men to give you opportunity first before you can collect your strong & independent card.

well she did say without black men, so im guessing whiteys don't count.

How many Black men do you really think are out here making $100K, brehette? Let's not include NFL, NBA, rappers and other entertainers. Less than 10% of all Americans make more than $100K. Black men are underrepresented in all professions that earn $100K+.

It's not about settling. It's about being realistic. How many Black male doctors, engineers, white-shoe attorneys, etc. do you know in your age-range? Really take a minute to think about it!

You're the one that brought up 100k. I was just going along with your number. I was thinking more like 70-85k.

 

[mamba]

what world do you live in where most black women can afford that lifestyle? i mean, do you really believe the hype? do you think 80% of yall are roaming around with 100k a yr careers?

average black woman would be sucking dikk for weave if they cut off all welfare programs. get real

Most Black women with degrees got them in sociology, psychology and other shyt. Most brehettes aren't cracking $100K. If they do, it is offset by the mountain of debt from gaining those degrees. Vast majority of men and women making $100K in the 23-35 age range are South and East Asian. Why? They study medicine, engineering and other shyt that allows them to make a lot of money early in their career, which is why they typically have higher incomes than even whites in this country. They are also more entrepreneurial than any other group.