Is it hard to stay/be in a relationship with a woman...
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Carter G. Hoodson
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Good question....
It shouldn't be limited to just women
It shouldn't be limited to just women
Sierra Mist
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Well it depends on the woman. I'll expand in a bit.
You see, the common perception is that women who grew up without an identifiable father (Let's not say with a single parent because a mother could be single and the father could still be in the child's life) will gravitate to the wrong kind of men due to her not having a blueprint of what a "good man" really is. That's a myth.
Most of the time if the father is not there it actually benefits the daughter more than if the father was there. Think about it. What is a worse scenario? Having no man influence you at all or having the WRONG kind of man influence you? A lot of times with deadbeat dads they are unfit to teach their daughters about relationships. For one those men usually don't even have the proper mount of resources needed to raise children in the first place and had the deadbeat actually stayed what foundation would he even be able to provide for his daughter?
Let's also get into fighting and domestic violence. The same scenaro applies. What's worse? A young girl seeing her mother by herself OR seeing her mother and father fighting all the time? If a young girl sees her parents arguing or fighting all the time in her mind she thinks that relationships NEED to have some type of drama or else it's "boring." Drama has become normal to her, whereas if she grew up with a single mother she again has no influence as far as that is concerned.
The downside to women who grew up without identifiable fathers is the fact that a lot of times single mothers will have a lot of other men in their lives. THIS is when it becomes a problem. A young girl who grew up seeing her mother having a new man in the house fukking her every few months will equate sex to love as opposed to being in a committed relationship.
TL;DR: It's not simply about the woman growing up with an identifiable father. It's about her growing up with a father who had a positive influence on her.
Having a great father who is there to influence positively= +1
Having no father and no male influence= 0
Having a bad father who is there to influence her negatively= -1
You see, the common perception is that women who grew up without an identifiable father (Let's not say with a single parent because a mother could be single and the father could still be in the child's life) will gravitate to the wrong kind of men due to her not having a blueprint of what a "good man" really is. That's a myth.
Most of the time if the father is not there it actually benefits the daughter more than if the father was there. Think about it. What is a worse scenario? Having no man influence you at all or having the WRONG kind of man influence you? A lot of times with deadbeat dads they are unfit to teach their daughters about relationships. For one those men usually don't even have the proper mount of resources needed to raise children in the first place and had the deadbeat actually stayed what foundation would he even be able to provide for his daughter?
Let's also get into fighting and domestic violence. The same scenaro applies. What's worse? A young girl seeing her mother by herself OR seeing her mother and father fighting all the time? If a young girl sees her parents arguing or fighting all the time in her mind she thinks that relationships NEED to have some type of drama or else it's "boring." Drama has become normal to her, whereas if she grew up with a single mother she again has no influence as far as that is concerned.
The downside to women who grew up without identifiable fathers is the fact that a lot of times single mothers will have a lot of other men in their lives. THIS is when it becomes a problem. A young girl who grew up seeing her mother having a new man in the house fukking her every few months will equate sex to love as opposed to being in a committed relationship.
TL;DR: It's not simply about the woman growing up with an identifiable father. It's about her growing up with a father who had a positive influence on her.
Having a great father who is there to influence positively= +1
Having no father and no male influence= 0
Having a bad father who is there to influence her negatively= -1
ChrisDorner
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Sierra Mist
Banned
Someone will...
Yes, typically its harder, it can't be stressed how important a father is for a daughter.
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The East
From my experience it tends to be harder. She never had that father figure in her life so sometimes you're playing the role of a father and her man. They tend to be a little more insecure and more trust issues due to the fact that most of time they been looking for a father figure their whole life and end up dating a bunch different man and end up getting hurt. My ex had no father figure growing up so she leaned on her uncle alot but I can tell it didn't fill the father void that was missing. As we got more serious she became more insecure. Give it a shot if you really feeling the woman but don't expect a change(if any)in short span of time. Good luck.
Illuminatos
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Sierra Mist
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I even gave a tl;dr for the new nikkas like you too. smh
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
A woman with a father can still have the same issues as one who comes from single parent home.
BlvdBrawler
Superstar
Breh it's hard to stay in a relationship period.
I'm like thiiiiiisssssss close to calling it quits with my old lady.
I'm like thiiiiiisssssss close to calling it quits with my old lady.
Zapp Brannigan
Captain of the Nimbus
There probably hasn't been a study done, but I would love to see the success rate of single fathers vs single mothers in terms of their children.
