Is Fatherlessness A Black Women's Problem, or A Black Males' Problem?

[Elle Driver]

What do you find ridiculous about it?

That you somehow think there's a shortage of good black women but there isn't a shortage of good black men. You telling on yourself.

 

[mamba]

That you somehow think there's a shortage of good black women but there isn't a shortage of good black men. You telling on yourself.

Where did I say there was a shortage of good Black women?

I said there's no shortage of good Black men. Problem is most Black women think they're good women and deserve good men. That's not the case.

There's parity in terms of good Black men and women. Problem is all these worthless people toss their name in the hat and get mad when they don't get picked.

 

[Elle Driver]

Where did I say there was a shortage of good Black women?

I said there's no shortage of good Black men. Problem is most Black women think they're good women and deserve good men. That's not the case.

There's parity in terms of good Black men and women. Problem is all these worthless people toss their name in the hat and get mad when they don't get picked.

My bad then. I'm still disgusted by your repetitive "underdeveloped minds" nonsense.

There is parity but guess what? Those women can keep crying till the cows come home because it'll probably never happen.

 

[mamba]

That you somehow think there's a shortage of good black women but there isn't a shortage of good black men. You telling on yourself.

Is every Black woman a good woman?

Does every Black woman deserve a good man?

If you believe that then there is a shortage of good black men.

If, however, you believe each gender has a subset that is truly good, then you'll have to agree that there isn't as much of a delta as folks want us to believe.

 

[Elle Driver]

Is every Black woman a good woman?

Does every Black woman deserve a good man?

If you believe that then there is a shortage of good black men.

If, however, you believe each gender has a subset that is truly good, then you'll have to agree that there isn't as much of a delta as folks want us to believe.

I'm a good black woman with a good black man.

And yes, I believe you deserve whatever kind of person you are. For example, if you're a thief you deserve a thief, if you're a single mother you deserve a man with kids etc etc.

 

[mamba]

My bad then. I'm still disgusted by your repetitive "underdeveloped minds" nonsense.

There is parity but guess what? Those women can keep crying till the cows come home because it'll probably never happen.

Yes. They'll keep crying because, instead of taking a realistic self-assessment, they'd rather continue to shoot for the stars when, in reality, they should just build with the good man before them.

Good Black women holding out for great Black men is pointless. Good + Good can result in greatness, too, with hard work.

Underdeveloped minds are the biggest threat to the long-term sustainability of the Black commumity. It's real, brehette.

 

[Elle Driver]

Yes. They'll keep crying because, instead of taking a realistic self-assessment, they'd rather continue to shoot for the stars when, in reality, they should just build with the good man before them.

Good Black women holding out for great Black men is pointless. Good + Good can result in greatness, too, with hard work.

Underdeveloped minds are the biggest threat to the long-term sustainability of the Black commumity. It's real, brehette.

You don't have to build with a good man, you should build with yourself, and then when a good man comes along you're both established and can/will live a comfortable life together.

Calling black women underdeveloped is problematic. I'd suggest you stop.

 

[mamba]

I'm a good black woman with a good black man.

And yes, I believe you deserve whatever kind of person you are. For example, if you're a thief you deserve a thief, if you're a single mother you deserve a man with kids etc etc.

Yes. Good for you. We need more examples like you and your husband.

We are aligned. Folks should stay in their lanes and refrain from complaining when they consistently miss the mark due to poor aiming.

 

[Elle Driver]

Yes. Good for you. We need more examples like you and your husband.

We are aligned. Folks should stay in their lanes and refrain from complaining when they consistently miss the mark due to poor aiming.

Why even pay attention to them? Build yourself up and your family. I really don't even let them cross my mind because I'm not worried about them.

 

[mamba]

You don't have to build with a good man, you should build with yourself, and then when a good man comes along you're both established and can/will live a comfortable life together.

Calling black women underdeveloped is problematic. I'd suggest you stop.

Building doesn't stop once you marry. It continues. That's what I mean by building together.

Both Black men and women can have underdeveloped minds, brehette. It's a real problem.

 

[mamba]

Why even pay attention to them? Build yourself up and your family. I really don't even let them cross my mind because I'm not worried about them.

I care about the future of my community.

We don't exist in a vacuum.

If I could, I wouldn't give a fukk about what happens in the Black community. But, I know if I don't try to help, the dysfunction will eventually visit my doorstep, try to rob me, break into my house, etc.

 

[Blackout]

First the better mates would have to appear.

If you cant notice them then you must be blind lol.

 

[bcrusaderw]

If you cant notice them then you must be blind lol.

Or the more logical answer: they don't exist, or they're a rarity.

 

[Blackout]

Or the more logical answer: they don't exist, or they're a rarity.

They exist. I talk to many people and they are right there.

They may be a bit quiet or shy and not that popular and look average so Im wonder if thats why you havent noticed them.

 

[bcrusaderw]

They exist. I talk to many people and they are right there.

They may be a bit quiet or shy and not that popular and look average so Im wonder if thats why you havent noticed them.

I'm around those types of people often. Black males rarely embody those traits.