Is Fatherlessness A Black Women's Problem, or A Black Males' Problem?

[agnosticlady]

If the act of submission doesn't make a person a lap dog then why would my husband be a lap dog for submitting to me?

You lack reading comprehension. I clearly stated that you do not respect men. The only man that will allow you to berate him and walk all over him is a lap dog.

When a man/husband puts his lady/wife security and protection before him that is submitting. When your man goes out of his way to do nice things for you (taking you out, making you feel pretty, making you feel like a lady, and etc) that is submitting. A man should knows his place also. That means not running up on women (the physically weaker sex) and trying to pick fights with them. That is why a man is called a punk for hitting a woman for no reason. I could go on and on, but your dislike for men in general, especially black men is too obvious.

 

[agnosticlady]

When it comes just remember these little convos.

You can't even describe it. Did someone stump on your little heart and throw you to the side? I'm not surprised. I would've done the same. No man who values himself would put up with you.

Sorry, but I won't find myself in an abusive relationship, or pregnant by a worthless man. I have control over who I'm with. The man that I am seeing now is a good black man. Even if things don't work out I can get another good black man, LOL.

 

[bcrusaderw]

You lack reading comprehension. I clearly stated that you do not respect men. The only man that will allow you to berate him and walk all over him is a lap dog.

When a man/husband puts his lady/wife security and protection before him that is submitting. When your man goes out of his way to do nice things for you (taking you out, making you feel pretty, making you feel like a lady, and etc) that is submitting. A man should knows his place also. That means not running up on women (the physically weaker sex) and trying to pick fights with them. That is why a man is called a punk for hitting a woman for no reason. I could go on and on, but your dislike for men in general, especially black men is too obvious.

Why does a man submitting to me equal me berating/ walking all over him?

You can't even describe it. Did someone stump on your little heart and throw you to the side? I'm not surprised. I would've done the same. No man who values himself would put up with you.

Sorry, but I won't find myself in an abusive relationship, or pregnant by a worthless man. I have control over who I'm with. The man that I am seeing now is a good black man. Even if things don't work out I can get another good black man, LOL.

I guess I'm lucky that there are plenty of men who don't value themselves out there then. Actual women who have been married for YEARS disagree with your silly notions, yet you're gloating because you've been talking to a dude for 2 weeks. Shouldn't you be married by now?

 

[Blackout]

Nah, this isn't true. I have never denied the existence of good black males. I will continue to refute the silly notion that you have that they are the majority

They aren't even being valued or acknowledged even if they aren't the majority lol.

 

[agnosticlady]

Why does a man submitting to me equal me berating/ walking all over him?

I guess I'm lucky that there are plenty of men who don't value themselves out there then. Actual women who have been married for YEARS disagree with your silly notions, yet you're gloating because you've been talking to a dude for 2 weeks. Shouldn't you be married by now?

How was I gloating? How do you know how long we have been seeing each other? How is it gloating to say that a black man is good? LMAO

What silly notion? I have control over who I choose to enter a relationship with, get married, and have kids with.


See that is your problem. Submission does not and never equals being a lap dog. You feel like submission is a bad word. NOBODY should submit to a person down talking them, berating them, telling them that men/women are better, and etc. YOU have no respect for men. How can you have a positive relationship with men when you do not even respect men, especially black men? You will always find something to complain about. Whatever man deals with you will be entering an emotionally abusive relationship. He will more than likely be a lapdog that has no self worth. There is a big difference between being submissive and being a lap dog.

 

[Elle Driver]

LMAO there was a whole thread in the locker room about women being in abusive relationships and being treated like lapdogs, scum, and etc. Now I say that the only man she would be able to get with is a lap dog (basically a man that has low self esteem and doesn't know his worth) and it doesn't matter. LOL.

That's not even the same and you know it.

 

[bcrusaderw]

They aren't even being valued or acknowledged even if they aren't the majority lol.

It's hard to acknowledge what isn't there.

 

[agnosticlady]

That's not even the same and you know it.

LMAO you guys are telling her that it's ok to feel the way she does about men. Any man that gets with her is entering an emotionally abusive relationship.

 

[Elle Driver]

LMAO you guys are telling her that it's ok to feel the way she does about men. Any man that gets with her is entering an emotionally abusive relationship.

See this is the type of shyt that displays your naivete.

 

[agnosticlady]

It's hard to acknowledge what isn't there.

So do good black men approach you?

 

[Elle Driver]

They aren't even being valued or acknowledged even if they aren't the majority lol.

Good black men? Yes they are, its just that the ones happening to be procreating with each other and destructive to the community and are a lot more obvious. I wish it were the opposite but the destructive ones happen to be the ones being put at the forefront unfortunately.

 

[bcrusaderw]

How was I gloating? How do you know how long we have been seeing each other? How is it gloating to say that a black man is good? LMAO

What silly notion? I have control over who I choose to enter a relationship with, get married, and have kids with.


See that is your problem. Submission does not and never equals being a lap dog. You feel like submission is a bad word. NOBODY should submit to a person down talking them, berating them, telling them that men/women are better, and etc. YOU have no respect for men. How can you have a positive relationship with men when you do not even respect men, especially black men? You will always find something to complain about. Whatever man deals with you will be entering an emotionally abusive relationship. He will more than likely be a lapdog that has no self worth. There is a big difference between being submissive and being a lap dog.

Just because I'm not up the collective male ass looking desperately for some semblance of acceptance and approval doesn't mean that I don't respect men. I respect men enough to not satiate their pathetic little male egos, and to tell them the truth about themselves. I'm not looking at every man trying to gain daddy's approval unlike some. I have an actual brain, and I use it. That doesn't mean that I'll be emotionally abusive. It means that I will lead my husband in all things, and he'll be perfectly okay with it because he trusts in my capabilities.

 

[Elle Driver]

Why does a man submitting to me equal me berating/ walking all over him?

I guess I'm lucky that there are plenty of men who don't value themselves out there then. Actual women who have been married for YEARS disagree with your silly notions, yet you're gloating because you've been talking to a dude for 2 weeks. Shouldn't you be married by now?

Maybe that's just how she grew up, she was probably taught that.

Everybody marriage works different. Not all men want a submissive woman and a traditional wife and that's fine. That's not even the crux of the problem here. Do you. The actual problem is destructive black men with no guidance having children with their female counter parts.

 

[bcrusaderw]

So do good black men approach you?

Yes, they do. I'm not sure why that's relevant to this thread though.

 

[agnosticlady]

See this is the type of shyt that displays your naivete.

Nope. The young lady clearly has emotionally issues and dislikes black men. Any black man that get's with her will be on an emotional roller coaster. This is what she wants