The problem is most people see homosexuality as a lifestyle when being in love with some one is based on very profound and very innate feelings. What most people focus on is the sexual aspect of it so they dont see it as a meaningful part of a persons identity therefore they cant understand why someone would make a big deal about it. I think what also confuses people is that when we talk about someone who is gay we refer to their identity as their "sexuality" which may give some people the impression that everything about the person is reduced down to sex but it goes beyond that. It would be like saying racism is simply about skin color when culture is at least just as big a factor, probably a bigger factor.
The feeling of being gay or attracted to the same sex is not a lifestyle. How you play out those feelings is the lifestyle choice. Some gay people just choose to live their lives normally. Yes they have a mate that is of the same sex, but other than that they live fairly normal lives like the rest of us. Other gay people want to blur the line between male and female. They want schools to be gender neutral. Trangedered people want to be viewed as the opposite sex legally and socially. This is the lifestyle choice that i disagree with. I don't have to accept a man as a woman just because he feels that way. When someone such as myself expresses these concerns we are called, Predjudice, hateful, intolerant, homophobic. When none of that is actually the case we just want to protect our own thoughts views and lifestyles.