I'm attracted to my co-worker and i have a fiance((UPDATE IN ORIGINAL))

[Human Torch]

Breh, how do you think that's really going to work? If your fiance tells you she wants to take a break, then how does that work for this dude wanting to come back after "the break" and still being confident that this is the chick he wants to spend his life with?

Maybe I'm a different kind of dude, but if my chick who I decided to ask to marry me decided that she wanted to take a "break", then there's no break. She's just fired.....no wedding, no ring, no discussion. Because in all my days, I've never seen a person ask for a "break" unless they're up to no good....and no good always has a reproductive organ.

And then when it's confirmed why she wanted the "break", sooner or later, and it will be confirmed at one point, then how do you think that's going to work between her and the dude? You think dude is going to be on some "oh well, she just wanted to feel some new d#ck slide into her womb......I mean, that's cool."
If she cheats on dude, she's f#cked up. If she takes a break from dude to sleep with this new dude, she's f#cked up. Either way, she's fattening frogs for snakes and possibly throwing away her family for some strange d#ck. If that aint dumb slut sh#t, then I don't know what is.

I find that funny that chicks are dapping this because how many would be dapping if this was a dude talking about cheating on his fiance whom he has a child by for some hoodrat b#tch at his job? Riddle me that one.

Peace

Breh I completely agree with you. By no means am I sayin he should take her back but a break is the right thing to do. When she decides that "break" is over, then the ball is in his court. He's gotta make the decision. But the situation is more respectable if she does it that way as opposed to cheating and going through with the marriage.

shyt when I was in college, me and my girl both decided that we needed to take a break just so we wouldnt have doubts later in life. And we're together now, not without some things to work through but i think it worked alot better than if we woulda ignored some of the things we were interested in at the time. Granted we were teens and only 23 now. OP is fukked up for agreeing to get married when she wasnt ready. Throw the baby aspect in there and its even worse but I mean whats the alternative, her staying with bul and dreaming bout coworker dikk for the rest of her life?

 

[Hawaiian Punch]

These hoes ain't loyal

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Smells like a very convenient alias.... not even going to say who I think is behind it... #nikkasisfakkits

 

[mcdivit85]

Breh I completely agree with you. By no means am I sayin he should take her back but a break is the right thing to do. When she decides that "break" is over, then the ball is in his court. He's gotta make the decision. But the situation is more respectable if she does it that way as opposed to cheating and going through with the marriage.

shyt when I was in college, me and my girl both decided that we needed to take a break just so we wouldnt have doubts later in life. And we're together now, not without some things to work through but i think it worked alot better than if we woulda ignored some of the things we were interested in at the time. Granted we were teens and only 23 now. OP is fukked up for agreeing to get married when she wasnt ready. Throw the baby aspect in there and its even worse but I mean whats the alternative, her staying with bul and dreaming bout coworker dikk for the rest of her life?

I feel you breh, but there's something to be said for minding your commitments. Especially when you chose this commitment, got engaged to this commitment, got a place with this commitment and had a child by this commitment.

The reality is, a couple can't "take a break" every time one finds someone else attractive and has temptation. That's where commitment and choosing to stay loyal to your man/woman comes in. It's not meant to be easy nor is it meant to be convenient.....that's what makes real relationships and real marriages so commendable, because they stayed strong when others cheated, lied, separated and got divorced.

Commitment and loyalty to their man is what separates great women worthy of respect from THOTS worthy of backshots and Google numbers.

I'm not trying to sound on a high horse....quite the opposite, I've been the dude who cheated on girlfriends on some "just because" sh#t. So, what I'm saying is, if you have something that's worth getting married to and starting a family with, you don't toss that to the wind just to get something that will be here today and gone tomorrow. And that's what this chick is thinking about doing.

If she wasn't sure about her fiance, then it wouldn't have taken some lower-level dude at her job to make her that way. From her own comments, it sounds like she wants to be with her man but is just having THOT temptations.

Peace

 

[Human Torch]

I feel you breh, but there's something to be said for minding your commitments. Especially when you chose this commitment, got engaged to this commitment, got a place with this commitment and had a child by this commitment.

The reality is, a couple can't "take a break" every time one finds someone else attractive and has temptation. That's where commitment and choosing to stay loyal to your man/woman comes in. It's not meant to be easy nor is it meant to be convenient.....that's what makes real relationships and real marriages so commendable, because they stayed strong when others cheated, lied, separated and got divorced.

Commitment and loyalty to their man is what separates great women worthy of respect from THOTS worthy of backshots and Google numbers.

I'm not trying to sound on a high horse....quite the opposite, I've been the dude who cheated on girlfriends on some "just because" sh#t. So, what I'm saying is, if you have something that's worth getting married to and starting a family with, you don't toss that to the wind just to get something that will be here today and gone tomorrow. And that's what this chick is thinking about doing.

If she wasn't sure about her fiance, then it wouldn't have taken some lower-level dude at her job to make her that way. From her own comments, it sounds like she wants to be with her man but is just having THOT temptations.

Peace

I completely agree breh. 100%

 

[Goddess_Godiva]

Do you know who I am?

****???

The threads you create are hilarous...

 

[mortuus est]

op is a scumbag, lol who put a ring on your finger

 

[Goddess_Godiva]

I can understand all the snide comments and THOT assumptions. I love my fiance and I don't want to hurt him. I had a weak moment and my emotions got the best of me. Its simply how i feel. I don't plan on going to "drink" coffee with him. I am trying to avoid him in all honestly. It doesn't help that my computer faces his damn desk and his faces mine. I see him ALL the time. The temptation is there plus he is in my face all the time literally. I know i deserve every negative connotation that comes my way. I shouldn't have accepted his advances and I really wasn't going to pursue him. I haven't slept with him. The thought of it is satisfying enough. Not sure why I feel this way cause everything is good at home. Maybe cause he is something different or new. Not sure but either way I am not going to sleep with him.

 

[Thegospel]

Again, what is your fiance NOT doing that this new guy is? You may have answered this but I dont feel like going through this whole thread.

 

[Raava]

I can understand all the snide comments and THOT assumptions. I love my fiance and I don't want to hurt him. I had a weak moment and my emotions got the best of me. Its simply how i feel. I don't plan on going to "drink" coffee with him. I am trying to avoid him in all honestly. It doesn't help that my computer faces his damn desk and his faces mine. I see him ALL the time. The temptation is there plus he is in my face all the time literally. I know i deserve every negative connotation that comes my way. I shouldn't have accepted his advances and I really wasn't going to pursue him. I haven't slept with him. The thought of it is satisfying enough. Not sure why I feel this way cause everything is good at home. Maybe cause he is something different or new. Not sure but either way I am not going to sleep with him.

It is because he is attractive, he is all in your face, and giving you attention. Only you can stop that. The flirting line has been crossed and now you have to make a new line. What is more important; a work relationship that might be awkward if you say chill out, or your family?

 

[Goddess_Godiva]

Again, what is your fiance NOT doing that this new guy is? You may have answered this but I dont feel like going through this whole thread.

I think it could be more of a sexual thing. He's extremely attractive. he is in my face and i think about him when I know i shouldn't be.
I do think its sexual though....like a sexual attraction.....
With my Fiance i feel like we are losing touch in that sensual area.

 

[Goddess_Godiva]

It is because he is attractive, he is all in your face, and giving you attention. Only you can stop that. The flirting line has been crossed and now you have to make a new line. What is more important; a work relationship that might be awkward if you say chill out, or your family?

I know. I have to be the one to draw that line. I feel like an evil THOT bytch for even feeling this way about another man. I can't help it but its not an excuse. I feel kind of embarrassed about it. Temptation is real brehs. Like I feel i'm up against a wall. Though shalt not covet your neighbors wife/husband.................. I am literally looking at him right now and he glanced back at me and winked his eye....this isn't right....

 

[Diondon]

I think it could be more of a sexual thing. He's extremely attractive. he is in my face and i think about him when I know i shouldn't be.
I do think its sexual though....like a sexual attraction.....
With my Fiance i feel like we are losing touch in that sensual area.

And yall aint even married yet
Good luck

 

[concise]

Smells like a very convenient alias.... not even going to say who I think is behind it... #nikkasisfakkits

 

[Max Goonberg]

So there is this guy, we work in an office setting together, we flirt.....hell we flirt alot sometimes with a sexual innuendo, he's fine as fucck, muscular build..younger than me & he turns me on just by the way he looks at me. I try to avoid him cause temptation is a bytch...... I think he's single but i am not sure.. He asked me to sit and have coffee with him on this saturday morning and i said yes.... But i have a Fiance............a live in Fiance at that, we have a child together... & my co-worker knows this.Jesus help me.... He looks like he can pick me up.... I have impure thoughts of him.......Am i a trollop?? We haven't fukked other than the thoughts in my mind.....i'm sure if i "keep getting coffee" with him things could get nasty but i feel like a cheater already....... Am i wrong to have these impure thoughts?? I need to back out on getting coffee with him but his fineness is stopping me. Go ahead call me out....call me tramp and a whore... This may help me....


What would you do if you were in this situation???

first and formost what you look like?no troll

obviously ya man not holding u down sexually and or mentally .
once a nikka get inside your head he might as well have already smashed.
you probably think about duke when u getting wack pipe from your fiance'.might as well follow through and get it out ya system.the temptation wont go away after u get married probably gonna get stronger. the more you resist you gonna end up resenting your man for stopping you from doing what you really want to do.
starting fights about who took the last swig of milk just to see wassup with ol boy

have an affair act like an adult for once

then report back