get these nets
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This is a tangent.
Thread is about a man seeing his peers getting hooked up by their parents, and suddenly feeling that his folks should have hooked him up also.
If you're a parent and can offer nothing to your child in their adult life, you've ultimately failed
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Thread is about a man seeing his peers getting hooked up by their parents, and suddenly feeling that his folks should have hooked him up also.
Marc Spector
the 4'11 Cuban
yea i wouldnt ccreate such a drastic bar of success but that should be the mindstate of parents.
Mind you, it doesnt even have to be your parents physically giving you something. It can be your parents knowing how much they fukked up/didnt get the job done in their prime and steering you toward a more solid financial path (this is what immigrant parents do).
Mind you, it doesnt even have to be your parents physically giving you something. It can be your parents knowing how much they fukked up/didnt get the job done in their prime and steering you toward a more solid financial path (this is what immigrant parents do).
Field Marshall Bradley
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Hungerpain
Banned
And there are millions of Great parents that put the work in and make the sacrifices necessary to ensure their kids success..
So whats your point?
Thats like saying you're a good Husband just because you dont beat you're wife.
OG Talk
Archived
As far as OP goes.
You’re right. But give your parents some grace. You don’t know what tough choices had to be made to survive. But the ultimate goal is to leave some sort of assets or safety net to your children. Or at least put them in situations where they can be successful.
Each generation should build and improve, but there needs to be a foundation.
My wife and I struggled with student loans. So we made a commitment to pay for our kids college without having them take out the debt.
We wasted money as renters in our 20s. But will allow our kids to stay home until the first time they move out they’re in position to own.
Feeding and clothing your kid for 18 years fulfills a legal obligation. But there are other cultural things that we need to start doing as Black parents.
Kicking your kids out at 18, so you can go on Tom Joyner cruises is that selfish Boomer/Gen X bullshyt.
You’re right. But give your parents some grace. You don’t know what tough choices had to be made to survive. But the ultimate goal is to leave some sort of assets or safety net to your children. Or at least put them in situations where they can be successful.
Each generation should build and improve, but there needs to be a foundation.
My wife and I struggled with student loans. So we made a commitment to pay for our kids college without having them take out the debt.
We wasted money as renters in our 20s. But will allow our kids to stay home until the first time they move out they’re in position to own.
Feeding and clothing your kid for 18 years fulfills a legal obligation. But there are other cultural things that we need to start doing as Black parents.
Kicking your kids out at 18, so you can go on Tom Joyner cruises is that selfish Boomer/Gen X bullshyt.
Antwon Mitchell
Banned
Do the parents have that kind of money you're expecting in the first place? Can't give you anything if there ain't nothing to give.
And that's exactly what they are. Bum ass parents.
It don't matter what you leave them with if you don't also leave them with knowledge of what to do with their inheritance when you're gone.
I know so many people that had their grandparents and parents work their whole lives to leave them with homes, property, money and they fukked it off not understanding taxes, not having any financial literacy, and not having the same work ethic and determination to make the pot grow for the next generations.
I know so many people that had their grandparents and parents work their whole lives to leave them with homes, property, money and they fukked it off not understanding taxes, not having any financial literacy, and not having the same work ethic and determination to make the pot grow for the next generations.
The Realist Perspective
Superstar
Well, absolutely. That's exactly what I'm saying. And that is the best way to parent. End up leaving as much of a legacy as possible. Would you argue otherwise?
...or using the business their parents left them as a drug front only to have it raided
get these nets
Veteran
Whether you acknowledge it or not, those values and work ethic that enabled you to "get it out of the mud" didn't just spring into your being as an adult.
That solid middle class foundation that your parents provided for you, with the safety and stability that comes with that is something that you seem to have taken for granted.
Instead of building on that, and making improvements/alterations, you're throwing your people under the bus.
"Grandparents shouldn't be around their grandkids unless they have something(monetarily) to give them?"
Get all the way the fukk outta here!
Perfect people don't exist. We aren't that, and our parents weren't perfect. Get over that, and carry the baton forward.
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xXMASHERXx
Superstar
I don't expect my parents to leave me with anything and I'm perfectly fine with that. The fact that me and my siblings are alive, in good health, and have good careers is more than enough and something that a lot of people take for granted. I have family members whose parents fukked them up completely so don't tell me that parents raising you is a basic requirement. There are some people in this world who would have been better off raised by someone not their parents
OG Talk
Archived
Another small cultural correction that needs to be made.
“Getting it out the mud” is something Black folks should stop bragging about.
Also “Starting from the bottom”
It just puts a spotlight on the fact your parents were financially incapable or irresponsible.
If you have your kids running around talking like that in 2021, you failed them.
“Getting it out the mud” is something Black folks should stop bragging about.
Also “Starting from the bottom”
It just puts a spotlight on the fact your parents were financially incapable or irresponsible.
If you have your kids running around talking like that in 2021, you failed them.
get these nets
Veteran
???
How can you say this? The past 3 years on the Coli, we've been discussing government and institutional barriers that have impeded Black people's progress, since before 1776.
Despite those obstacles, there are Blacks who have been able to build,retain, and pass down wealth. But the occupational,homeowner, wealth building barriers have only begun to be lifted in the 1960s.
How can you say that parents who don't have resources to pass down were incapable or irresponsible?
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Also, middle class raised folks of all races are quick to claim "out of the mud" "started from the bottom, now we're here". Listen to a random speech by a white tech startup CEO.
Or reread the OP post about the stable middle class background.
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