If you're a parent and can offer nothing to your child in their adult life, you've ultimately failed

[Kumi]

That's a very western, elitist and idealistic way at looking at the world, and the world is anything but ideal. In a capitalistic society some will win and some lose. Someone has to do menial jobs, that would pay minimum wages, and relegate to one to leasing, renting, and borrowing through life and owning very little. Sad but true.

For the longest time many blacks had nothing to give their kids, and many of the powers that be said at the time that those people shouldn't have kids. A slippery slope in my opinion. Do the best with what your given, work hard, and be there in all facets for the kids you make.

 

[Peak]

Imagine me telling my parents you failed because you didn't give me generational wealth












....

 

[CoryMack]

OP

You are an immature ingrate. Parents raised, clothed, and fed you for 18 years. They owe you nothing.

This is a bare minimum mentality. An “our children are a burden” mentality. The birth of the lowest of expectations, and it starts with the adults. Whoever holds this attitude needs to seriously rethink having children if they haven’t already, and unfortunately too many Black parents think like this.

 

[Master Teacher]

Know, your parents put you in position would have the education and knowledge they didn't have, so you can start generational wealth

they got you to where you are, now you have to do better, then raise kids who will be better than you, this is how it is suppose to work

crying about past generations is pointless, you're in the driving seat now, so instead of talking about it, DO IT

 

[OG Talk]

???
How can you say this? The past 3 years on the Coli, we've been discussing government and institutional barriers that have impeded Black people's progress, since before 1776.
Despite those obstacles, there are Blacks who have been able to build,retain, and pass down wealth. But the occupational,homeowner, wealth building barriers have only begun to be lifted in the 1960s.
How can you say that parents who don't have resources to pass down were incapable or responsible?

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Because I’m not afraid of hurting old nikkas feelings or holding them accountable for coming up short.

My pops is man enough to point out to us the ways he failed so we don’t make the same mistakes.

He placed these values and expectations in me as a father.

He repeats Proverbs 13:22 to me and my brothers constantly......




OP did jump outta the window talking about banning grandma from Thanksgiving dinner because she didn’t leave a legacy. That’s a bit much

 

[Adeptus Astartes]

Generational wealth needs to be taken seriously. Its how people get ahead in this country. The bootstrap thing is a whole ass myth that black people especially need to kill with prejudice. It's pathetic to see folk who brag about kicking their kids out at 18 complaining about lack of wealth in the community.

 

[get these nets]

Because I’m not afraid of hurting old nikkas feelings or holding them accountable for coming up short.

My pops is man enough to point out to us the ways he failed so we don’t make the same mistakes.

He placed these values and expectations in me as a father.

He repeats Proverbs 13:22 to me and my brothers constantly......




OP did jump outta the window talking about banning grandma from Thanksgiving dinner because she didn’t leave a legacy. That’s a bit much

I'm a former Sunday School kid, so the Chapter and Verse pumpfaked me a little.

I thought it was "Spare the rod"

I thought your pop was trolling y'all before beatings.

I get your point.

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

Damn OP...give your parent's a break. It's called generational wealth for a reason . It's not called immediate fukking gratification wealth

 

[shopthatwrecks]

all 4 of my kids got hustle...both daughters do n sell hair...son cuts hair n flips cars...

babygirl tryin 2 sell t-shirts and facemask now..

all that child support money i give up... they take it n put it into their businesses...

 

[get these nets]

This is a bare minimum mentality. An “our children are a burden” mentality. The birth of the lowest of expectations, and it starts with the adults. Whoever holds this attitude needs to seriously rethink having children if they haven’t already, and unfortunately too many Black parents think like this.

Not at all.
Before that age, most people get part time job for personal money.

After that age, you are expected to either start contributing to the household expenses, begin training/education for the field you will enter, or in some other way transition into adulthood.

Not that children are a burden, it's the economic realities.

 

[$cam-U-Well_Jack$on]

Interesting.

 

[HDiron]

Parents job is to raise the best version of you possibly and prepare you for this world. If they make smart financial decisions along the way where down the line you’ll ultimately benefit from, then good for you.

 

[tuckgod]

...or using the business their parents left them as a drug front only to have it raided

Yeah, I didn't want to go there, but you've been in Norfolk so you're familiar with Park Place for instance.

All those big pretty houses was owned by hard working black people 40 years ago and now 75% of them is run down because they was crack, dope, and p*ssy houses in the 80s - early 00s.

Now crackas is buying them shyts up at bottom dollar and fixing them up to the level they should be.

It's sad.

 

[old pig]

Yeah, I didn't want to go there, but you've been in Norfolk so you're familiar with Park Place for instance.

All those big pretty houses was owned by hard working black people 40 years ago and now 75% of them is run down because they was crack, dope, and p*ssy houses in the 80s - early 00s.

Now crackas is buying them shyts up at bottom dollar and fixing them up to the level they should be.

It's sad.

ya without going too much into detail I met a woman (and her family on a couple occasions) who had worked hard to establish her business...she was from ptown but her business was in the beach...she retired and left the country...passed the business on to her child who ruined that shyt...ended up in the news and everything

 

[tuckgod]

ya without going too much into detail I met a woman (and her family on a couple occasions) who had worked hard to establish her business...she was from ptown but her business was in the beach...she retired and left the country...passed the business on to her child who ruined that shyt...ended up in the news and everything

It's an ongoing cycle breh, especially in places like this that actually had large communities of well to do black people, but they worked so hard that they neglected to pass on the tangible qualities they had that enabled them to get the businesses and properties in the first place, to their children and grandbabies.

The children had a little money coming up, was more interested in partying and bullshyt, or they thought once they got their little college degrees it was time to abandon the neighborhood and live amongst white folks, and everything Granny and Grandpa worked for was left for dead.

Now all these white folks is swooping in and making a killing off all that work that our folks put in.

It makes me physically sick just thinking and talking about it.