If you're a parent and can offer nothing to your child in their adult life, you've ultimately failed

[Originalman]

Nah my name did all she could for me.

Mira up to me as an individual to add on to it. I’m doing for my kids the best I can. I got them both their own investment portfolio that I continue to build but the real issue is trying to teach them the real values of life. I had an account for my son that he could touch after he turn 18 but I took that back and jsut out it under my account because I need to realize his head is right before I hand him over all that money. You can’t jsut give your kids everything without teaching them how to keep it and build it. Because I can see now my son would jsut take his portfolio and sell everything without the implications of capital gain, spend it all up and ultimately off worst than before.

I seen this a lot in white families. One guy was. Sad because he kept a old GTO in crisp condition to pass down to his son. . Shyt was probabaly worth at least $50000 in its condition. Son wrecked it in Les than a year. Seen another daughter inherit the house her grandmother left her and she sold to one of those I’ll buy your house guys who have advertisement boards at the stop light. Took that money and spent it up in one summer. Grandma spent her whole life paying off that house, gone the first year she pass it down.


It’s not your parents responsibility to just hand anything over to you. They already handed you your life. The best thing they can give you is knowledge and power to become a better person.

Breh my aunt died and left her home to my older cousin. Clown sold the house for 250k. Tricked the money away on strippers, loose women, blew it on cars that either he wrecked or let other folks dog out and blew it on weed for him and his boys.

My poor aunt spent her entire life to pay off that home. And her silly ass son/my cousin sold the house and blew through that money in 2 years..

 

[Originalman]

you gonna have this ungrateful dude plotting on his parents

Real shyt this ungrateful well off white folks shyt. I grew up with them and have seen them trip when a parent or grandparent dies. Not because a family member died....but they pissed cause grandma or dad didn't leave them enough money or what they thought they deserved to get money wise.

 

[Peak]

Real shyt this ungrateful well off white folks shyt. I grew up with them and have seen them trip when a parent or grandparent dies. Not because a family member died....but they pissed cause grandma or dad didn't leave them enough money or what they thought they deserved to get money wise.

All facts. Seen it first hand this generational wealth/inheritance issue literally breaks apart families.

 

[filial_piety]

Sorry to say but being around whites, Jews, Indians and Asians helped me to understand the importance of inherited wealth....I see a lot of them on some next level shyt because of it

when I have kids I definitely plan on paying for their college and possibly graduate education...plus giving them all types of funds and properties

too many of us embrace this “struggle” as if it makes you into something better or as if it’s something to brag about

 

[Dzali OG]

The generation before you not having access to resources to leave their offspring a financial head start so to speak is comparable to a zombie apocalypse?

You're still not getting it. You're connecting the bottom line with the why.

The bottom line is, they failed to provide us a equal shot at competition. That's the objective assessment.

Now...I can go into the "racism, segregation, slavery,, ignorance, etc.," as to why they didn't. But you must first acknowledge the bottom line. That's how you learn and better the next generation.

As black people we REALLY avoid admitting our Ls. We sometimes come close but we throw in "yeah they had us as slaves BUUUUT...that's only because _________".

It's like if the Chiefs are on some " yeah we lost the SB buuut...it really wasn't that bad. Just a off game". If that's the rhetoric...why try and improve the team? Just hope the next time you don't have a bad night.

And this is where black people are at. In order to avoid saying we got our ass kicked, that our communities fukked up, we make SURE to list all the excuses and attach them to the bottom line. The result is what we see.

And like I said, it can be said in a more tactful manner: Our prior generations did not provide us with the resources we need to compete.

 

[Koba St]

wait is this for real?

The incel virgin fakkit thinks I’m unemployed

My company put us on furlough last year at the height of the pandemic for two months and I’ve been back since and he’s been running with the unemployed angle since then. Not sure where the coke allegations come from but he’s a fukking retard so

 

[Cobalt Sire]

When your kids experience a certain amount of misery, it hurts their chances for success.

At 18, after I graduated high school, the hard life began. I lived in a place with bad public transit, nothing within walking distance, and didn't have a car. Imagine you want to get something to eat, but have to walk 30 minutes to the nearest store/restaurant. Imagine you need to go to the DMV or to a doctor's appointment, you walk 30 minutes to the bus, and then it takes about an hour to get to your destination, and then when you're done, you have to wait 30 minutes for the bus, and it takes an hour to get back, and then a 30 minute walk home. Whole day gone. I didn't have any money, so I went and got a job at the factory. That was the last time it was easy to get a job. Then I realized I wanted to go to college so that I could get a better job. Most of my student aid was used on cars that broke down within 2 weeks. I didn't get a reliable car until 30. Long story short, I came within one class of getting my degree, but couldn't afford to finish. I owed a debt to the school because of unpaid rent in student housing that I have to pay off before I can register for classes again, and that was the end of my academic career. Hopefully my business works out, but even so, I'd be getting a very late start in life at making decent money. That's how life is supposed to go?

What could've made life better? A car. Guidance on how to buy a car at least. Not living in a place that requires a car. I would've saved money and had less misery. Help with college costs so that I could finish and get a decent job while still young.

You don't have to give your kid the world, but to sit there and watch them go through life miserable and struggling while everyone else is living good is bizarre. Telling them to get a minimum wage job at Walmart isn't going to make them happier. Where are your standards? You clearly don't care about your kid if you make them go through life without help.

 

[Originalman]

All facts. Seen it first hand this generational wealth/inheritance issue literally breaks apart families.

Yep I totally agree. Here is the thing I have seen it play out many ways with people who have money. I have seen them give kids money with no strings attached. I have seen them give kids money on stipulations as in you gonna marry this person, go to this school, live in this neighborhood or give me some grand kids and etc. Also they give kids money as a learning lesson as in you do well with this I will give you more. You fukk it up..thats all you getting.

These kats on here think some of these well to do folks all give their kids money and assets without stipulations...hell no.

Hell even the rich sista I personally know through my family had stipulations when her kids asked for money as adults. If they wanted money for investments they had to make a proposal, show what the investment was and how long it was for her ROI and even then it wasted guaranteed they would get the money if it was some dumb investment or if they were lazy as shyt. Her goal was always to teach their asses a learning lesson and to know money doesn't come easy and you have to work to make it and keep it.

For her daughter when she graduated from college she wanted to stay home for a year. Which the mom/lady I know agreed under certain conditions. The daughter was supposed put aside 30% of her income (from her new job) for a down payment on a home, max out her 401k and IRA and help out at her mothers business on the weekends as a way to earn her keep. If she broke any of the rules or was blowing her money on dumb shyt like on designer clothes or an expensive car then their agreement was terminated and she was going to have to leave and get her own place.

The moms concept was you are living with me to get a heads up in life not for me to compensate your designer lifestyle.

 

[Houston911]

The incel virgin fakkit thinks I’m unemployed

My company put us on furlough last year at the height of the pandemic for two months and I’ve been back since and he’s been running with the unemployed angle since then. Not sure where the coke allegations come from but he’s a fukking retard so

ibwas referring to the sitting and home just doing coke

Lots of people been out of work

 

[Cobalt Sire]

Look, you can either have your kids start life in a place with good public transit, or you can spend $1500 to buy them a bucket at least. You ain't got $1500? Oh, they should just get a minimum wage job to buy a car and forget about school.

 

[Koba St]

ibwas referring to the sitting and home just doing coke

Lots of people been out of work

He is an incel virgin obsessed with white women whilst pretending to be an online militant. Best bet is not to take anything he says seriously.

 

[Cobalt Sire]

Black kids turning into adults aren't asking for riches. They just want help with a car if you raised them in a car centric shyt hole, and you did. Also, help with school so that they can finish. Lastly, if you can't provide anything, at the very least, don't be a financial burden to your kids. The black youth aren't asking for that much, but the little they're asking for that can prevent a lot of headaches, their parents can't provide.