If you marry a woman without her completing a 1 year probationary period consisting of...

[Nintendough]

Seems kinda contradictory

Living together on the idea that "if this trial period works, then we can work for a lifetime" does not make much sense. That would be a using a conditional idea to justify an unconditional agreement. I'm sure a woman who really wants to get married can do that for a year or so.

There's a reason marriages where the couples pre-cohabitated (a) have a higher divorce rate (b) report higher levels of unhappiness than those who wait.

Seems o like logic. I base my paths from real people who have succeeded and failed, plus my own. Not black and white statistics which tell partial stories. Its called protecting yourself by creating situation where you evaluate and observe instead of running blind. You live stats,I'll live life.

 

[Remote]

Its not only beneficial relationship wise, but also financially. You'd be able to save up for a house and honeymoon twice as fast cause ur both splitting the rent and utils. shyt, I could save 7200 a year if I was engaged and living with my fiance. And if we didn't work out , that's 7200 dollars to spend on backpage!

Is your name gonna be on the house? Or hers?

Just wanna know who's getting suckered in the end when she decides to initiate that divorce


I'm trolling, of course.

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

Can I make a suggestion for a subject for your show?

Of course!

 

[MikelArteta]

Because im religious and would probably fall into temptation and break my previous marital sex vow

Plus I would only marry a righteous African woman with values like mine

Why?

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

What kind of flaws would you have to discover to reconsider marrying whoever you're living with?

 

[LA Fisher]

When you compare any aspects of your life to anyone, you will always lose. You should never let the opinions of others dictate your winning status.

Would you be with a man or in a situation that most of the world didn't want?
We all have egos that need to be fed

 

[Remote]

Because im religious and would probably fall into temptation and break my previous marital sex vow

Plus I would only marry a righteous African woman with values like mine

Touche.

 

[Remote]

What kind of flaws would you have to discover to reconsider marrying whoever you're living with?

Well you learn more about people just from being around them more often.

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

Well you learn more about people just from being around them more often.

True, but isn't that was dating is for?

 

[Remote]

True, but isn't that was dating is for?

People can date for 2 years and still not know a damn thing about each other.
Hell, that's probably why most marriages don't last long these days to begin with.
Didn't Chris Rock have some standup bit about how when you date someone, you aren't meeting THEM, you're meeting their REPRESENTATIVE?

 

[Anothergirl]

They say that statistically, couples that live together before marriage have a higher rate of breaking up

you're right except it's not "break up" it's higher rates of DIVORCE for couples that live together before marriage.

 

[Nintendough]

What kind of flaws would you have to discover to reconsider marrying whoever you're living with?

When your under the same roof, you can't hide as much. Its harder to put up fronts, harder to keep certain secrets.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Seems o like logic. I base my paths from real people who have succeeded and failed, plus my own. Not black and white statistics which tell partial stories. Its called protecting yourself by creating situation where you evaluate and observe instead of running blind. You live stats,I'll live life.

You can disregard stats all you want, but fact is, you're putting yourself in a unconditional agreement on the premise of a conditional, short term idea. Anyone can cook and clean for a year. That's a pretty low bar when it comes to being financially responsible for someone for a lifetime if things go wrong.

If someone wants to be about you, then they will be about you. No trial run is going to convince them otherwise. Also, it's not protecting yourself when common law varies by judge and states that you can very well be financially responsible for a partner if you live with them.

I honestly can't think of a good reason to ask someone to marry me and then after the fact try to se if they are fit for marriage. That's hustling backwards, unless you are moving in with girlfriends, which is still, pretty financially risky.

 

[Remote]

you're right except it's not "break up" it's higher rates of DIVORCE for couples that live together before marriage.

Touche.
But divorce is breaking up, so

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

When your under the same roof, you can't hide as much. Its harder to put up fronts, harder to keep certain secrets.

Give me examples.