"failure" is a tuff word.......
but not for nothing......I should get extra points for living with mines.
there is a HUGE difference in being a part time vs Full time Father.
Not trying to throw shade I know everyone got their own circumstances, but I want all the props I'm owed.
there should be an acknowledged difference.
Cause these part time dads be getting the same credit sometimes or talking like they = 2 me and I keep my mouth shut but I lowkey get kinda aggravated. we not the same. they don't know.
I have no slight to any other father but I think because I know that, not living with my kids is involuntarily, I can't give a nikka extra props because he hasn't had a circumstance like mine. I didn't choose to not live with my kids. And unless nikkas got the sweetest finesse game of all time (which is possible
), if they had my BM's they'd be in the same boat...
My youngest daughter's mom is on her third baby daddy. For a fact if you had her you'd be in the same position, she can't get it right with anyone. And as easy as it is for nikkas to say they wouldn't have a second BM, I've told the story how I asked her to get an abortion. I can't make her. I didn't choose a second BM...
I appreciate every brother who are in their kids' lives. I certainly dont view myself as inferior to any other father, just because my circumstances took me from the household...
My mom and dad split, mom remarried, dad was there every day.. Stepdad got a job in another state... That's a wrap
What's my dad supposed to do? Pack up and follow us nikka?
Exactly. I know some people are saying this but it really isn't realistic...
What if you live in South Jersey and they live in Philly... vs what if they live in San Diego and you live in Sacremento?
San Diego and Sacramento are essentially a state apart. Two of my siblings grew up back and forth from Sac to SD; their mom is from SD. Our dad was in Sac, Portland, and Dallas throughout their upbringing...
There's occasions you can live within the same state but be far away from your kids still. Someone who lives in The Boroughs but kids are in Buffalo are essentially states away from their kids...
Ideally I think you should live within a day trip to your kids at worst. Where you could drive to see them at a moment's notice, so that's typically within 3 hours/200 miles. My youngest daughter is an hour away from me in Fayetteville...
But it isn't always possible. There's so much real life context that questions like this donr capture!