“If my partner requested a DNA test at birth, I’d agree, prove the truth, then leave because the trust is gone. It’s a DEALBREAKER for me”

[Dontdoit3]

Oh yeah

My biggest annoyance at women with this issue

Is that they don't have a problem with women who hide money as a rainy day fund in case their man is abusive....

As men we are supposed to get "over it" and understand why a woman would do that


But it's a problem when we want a paternity test....

Women's self-interest good
Men's self-interest bad

Yea Men in relationships don’t receive the same blind trust that women expect to receive.

Women can keep an emergency savings account separate from the husband “because it’s good to have a plan in case he decides to become abusive or cheats”

A woman with money like Oprah can decide to refuse to get married or demand a prenup before getting married solely to protect her assets and you will receive very little pushback.

A woman can have private ju jit su lessons with her guy “best friend” and you must accept because you shouldn’t be insecure and you don’t trust her.

Flip the script and demand a prenup and be met with “you don’t trust me you think I’m a gold digger”

Ask for a new paternity test for a baby that came out with blond hair and you’ll be met with a defensive woman like her who is angry you dared to question her with a paternity test instead of taking a genetics class to understand it’s your baby because your great great grand dad’s step brother had blond hair.

Eat a plate your female friend made for you and watch the discomfort lol.

 

[Devilinurear]

Yea Men in relationships don’t receive the same blind trust that women expect to receive.

Women can keep an emergency savings account separate from the husband “because it’s good to have a plan in case he decides to become abusive or cheats”

A woman with money like Oprah can decide to refuse to get married or demand a prenup before getting married solely to protect her assets and you will receive very little pushback.

A woman can have private ju jit su lessons with her guy “best friend” and you must accept because you shouldn’t be insecure and you don’t trust her.

Flip the script and demand a prenup and be met with “you don’t trust me you think I’m a gold digger”

Ask for a new paternity test for a baby that came out with blond hair and you’ll be met with a defensive woman like her who is angry you dared to question her with a paternity test instead of taking a genetics class to understand it’s your baby because your great great grand dad’s step brother had blond hair.

Eat a plate your female friend made for you and watch the discomfort lol.

That sounds personal

 

[Mr.bocario]

Fellas never let anyone try to shame you into wanting peace

On the internet people have perfect relationships where everyone communicates equally

In the real world you can have love for a woman but that doesn’t mean be boo boo the fool. Even if you trust your girl past experience should tell you to have some game about yourself

 

[Eternally Jaded]

I'm confused. I obviously don't trust her if I question if I am the father. What's this other shyt yall adding???

Does a woman not trust her man if she puts something away just for her once she marries a man? An escape stash if you will.

Similar dynamic in my head.

 

[Digital Shaman]

Gaslighting at its highest levels. The worst if not one of the worst things you can do to a man is make allow him to raise a child that's not his and he doesn't know.

 

[High Art]

Knowing the paternity of a child is for health reason

This. You'd think with genetic diseases being so prevalent and so on that people would realize that hospitals actually do try to be thorough when investigating anything. Imasgine a doctor missing a diagnosis because it never crossed his mind to check if the father, who has no history of something, is not actually the father of the child.

Hospitals do things for health reasons, not people's insecurity.

They do things for legal reasons first and foremost, then do things to make sure they are being thorough aka "health reasons". Why do you, someone who doesn't know anything about how hospitals work, like to talk about them.

 

[Devilinurear]

Does a woman not trust her man if she puts something away just for her once she marries a man? An escape stash if you will.

Similar dynamic in my head.

I don't know how often this happens but sounds like she married the wrong person if she has to hide money

 

[Gloxina]

Love the way you think

If I have to deal with you verifying paternity the credit card will be getting some action immediately after LOL

 

[Geek Nasty]

The internet is flooded with these fake rageporn stories. shyt sounds like women spinning BS about all their demands from a man when they go home to a dusty breh who has to borrow their car to fukk their gfs

shyt goes both ways though. There are tons of rageporn "caught my gf/wife cheating then I ruined her life, AITAH?" ducktales out there too

 

[Shadow King]

This

Why are we pretending this isn't a thing??

Even Kerry Washington didn't know that her father wasn't her biological father until recently. And her Mom wasn't even thotting, she was conceived via sperm donor.

That's just one example. The more typical examples are people having a fight, the woman fukking someone else, and lacking the accountability to either use protection, get an abortion, or inform the man that there's a possibility that the child is not his.

My homie literally went through that with one of his exes and the entire pregnancy he knew it was a possibility. Kid was born and got tested and he wasn't the father and it crushed him and of course ended the relationship.

I agree overall but I'm not buying this portion of the story

 

[Eternally Jaded]

I don't know how often this happens but sounds like she married the wrong person if she has to hide money

More than a few women have go bags(necessary cash/copies of documents for themselves and their children) in case things go very left within their relationships.

 

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

What kind of women are yall seeding up and going through 40 weeks of pregnancy that this is even happening?

the crux of the issue is the fact that men have had women that by all accounts was faithful, happen to bear a child that was not the man's child, leading more men to the understanding that REGARDLESS of the type of woman you THINK you have, without verification you CANNOT be certain.

 

[Shadow King]

If I have to deal with you verifying paternity the credit card will be getting some action immediately after LOL

Love the way you think

So a man valuing his peace of mind/security is a problem that he needs to be punished for?

This is in the gumbo pot of why I'm getting fixed.

 

[1LurkerChick9]

If I have to deal with you verifying paternity the credit card will be getting some action immediately after LOL

I guarantee more women would be less upset

Fair exchange ain't no robbery lmao

 

[ExodusNirvana]

I agree overall but I'm not buying this portion of the story

Yeah I dunno either

That's what Kerry said buuuuuuuut