If a woman openly admits she got trauma, ptsd= instant turnoff??

[Abstract83]

I came in here to say exactly this. And if and when a woman does say that, it's a woe is me party of men need safe spaces, men don't have anyone to be vulnerable with, men's mental health matters too etc. It's so wild to me how people constantly want what they're not willing to give

I recently met this woman that went thru some trauma/abuse. Said she's seeing a therapist. I've been thru some shyt as well. I went to therapy for a yr. As long as she's being up front with what she's been thru I dont have a issue with it. We've been on a few dates and had a good time. Suppose to see her this weekend. We both are interested but being cautious. I dont judge anyone until its some alarming red flags. Then I move accordingly. That's my take on it.

 

[hatealot]

Y'all some demons fr

Nah. Women need to know if their value is to be a vessel for birthing or sex object.
Please believe they look at men as surrogate fathers and bank accounts.

 

[Coco Loco]

I recently met this woman that went thru some trauma/abuse. Said she's seeing a therapist. I've been thru some shyt as well. I went to therapy for a yr. As long as she's being up front with what she's been thru I dont have a issue with it. We've been on a few dates and had a good time. Suppose to see her this weekend. We both are interested but being cautious. I dont judge anyone until its some alarming red flags. Then I move accordingly. That's my take on it.

Aww, I love that for both of you. I hope this is the start of a great relationship

 

[BrehWyatt]

If she's actively working through it and I can see the progress... can't write her off. Just gotta be cautious.

 

[LiveFromLondon]

Yep many nikkas have nutted in her without commitment but this isn't like they where some players like the coli would've you believe, those situations just didn't workout but now she has the baggage collected from them causing her trauma.

To add True wolves are rare its chicks doing most of the pumping and dumping but collect baggage along the way.

 

[MVike28]

Maaaaaan, let me tell you. That shyt aint for the faint of hearts. Just leave her alone.

Paying for the sins of her past

And you ain’t do shyt!

Madness!

 

[Slow Moving]

I met the mistake of going forward with my ex after she told me she has mental illness safe to say she was right and i got fukked over in the end

 

[Cornershooter]

Ima say the honest truth.

If a woman told me she got r@ped damage goods

Of course if a woman I loved got it I would still love her and help her through it . But that’s like the greatest trauma. I think r@ping a woman is worse then murder. You leave her a shell of her past self. I would avoid that givin the warning

 

[Jazzy B.]

Yes but only if the trauma is period is under a year, as in the time frame it occurred was within the last year.

Anything less than that, you're asking for trouble if she's not getting professional therapy.

If a woman's ex did her dirty, for example was abusive to her she will at some point project that onto you by either having a general disdain for men, trust issues or be constantly trying to catch you out. That will also be her out for any bad behavior which will probably be intentional anyway.

The reward is not wort the cost. Keep those women a fukk buddies or platonic threads

 

[At30wecashout]

It's not instantly a red flag because you would be shocked how many women have stories...that said, that woman's story is a "Oh ok, cool. It was nice knowing you" moment.

 

[MajesticLion]

If you ain't got the belly for it, leave it alone.

The only way forward with any of that is they're going to have to destroy before they rebuild. That ain't a pretty process.

 

[Guvnor]

Depends, in 95 percent of cases I would say leave her ass.


However there are some women who are doing the work, going to therapy and trying to better their lives after trauma and have made progress. We all have a little trauma especially as black people in America so I would stick with her and see how she is as a person. If she is a good woman and holds you down then work it out with her cause so many women in this world have trauma and you would never know.

 

[Vodun]

naw fukk her and her kin. its not worth it most times people never get over there trauma

 

[Kasgoinjail]

As soon as a man makes it clear he is interested in pursuing a relationship with me i let him know i was sexually assaulted in 2020

It's then up to him to decide if he wishes to continue in his endeavours...


It is a double edge sword. On the 1 hand they respect your honesty/trust. On the other it's the first thing thrown in your face during a disagreement.

 

[BunchePark]

Idk you got to watch dese hoes