"I took a major L getting married, I make 150k and I'm broke" - My bestfriend

[phcitywarrior]

Easy, we were making 50k in 2007. I think his wife was making a little less. Slowly his income raised and their bills did too. When you get a raise you automatically feel you can afford more. His career grow and his wife's didn't, but trying to be a good family man will have you broke. Making sure your wife has a decent car and home. He has 2 kids. Trying to take a trip or 2 a year. That money goes.







I took him out with a few of my female "friends" we were in Brazil if you ask him.
No lie bruh. If you hanging with me in the DMV on the weekend. There's a 99% chance youre going to remember that night forever.

What's good bruh? Put a recent college grad on

 

[Stuntone]

How Sway?!? happiness comes from the inside...

dat nikka aint lying, that marriage life will drain your life in every way possible, kill your dreams and everything...shyt's just painful, your life is reduced to going to work, coming home, play with the fam a bit, sleep and repeat.

Fathers NEVER get the credit. Didn't give mine either. He did everything lol

Your friend sounds weak. nikka crying about not having a nicer car because he has to sacrifice for his kids. That's what a man fukking does.

Thing is, I think most man will sacrifice it all for their families, but want to at least feel appreciated sometimes. Wives and kids think making man and providing is automatic. So many dudes struggling and other hiding from their kids, their actually lucky to be in their situation. Being a Black Man, it's not promised to last forever either. So i get were he's coming from.

 

[Rell Lauren]

Does his wife not work? If so, he's stuck with a bum.

 

[Stuntone]

Does his wife not work? If so, he's stuck with a bum.

She works, but her career doesn't make that much. When they got married they were on the same level, he career just took off, hers didnt.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Was talking to one of my best friends today. Met dude in 2007, we started in the IT field together making 40-50k. He was married then and I was ripping and running. We both have made good money since, he's had 2 kids, Ive been single for most part. So he's kind of lived vicariously thru me. I always send him pics of my chicks, cars and tell him stories. We both love cars. Had not saw my boy in about 5 years up until 2 weeks ago, when we hungout and had an AWESOME time. With him being married and living far away. Dude told me today....

"bruh you gave me life that day, I really needed that. . I'm not happy, i'm not living. We all were fed that be a good man, be a good family man BS, but never get married dude. If I would have known I was going to be making this type of money, I wouldve never got married. I took a major L getting married, I make 150k and I'm broke. Everything I do is for my family. Sacrifice after sacrifice, bill after bill. I make 150k and drive a compact car so my wife and kids can have it all. And they dont really appreciate me or my work and sacrifice. I have to beg my wife for sex and rarely get it. You going to be the same way if you get married."


I take this as a real wake up call. Dude always keep it real about how horrible marriage is, but today I heard what sounds like him giving up on it all. Kind of scared me str8.

I have a great girl, pretty, cooks and cleans, doesn't go out, stays home and do what I say for most part but......

GMB for Life!!!

Listen to ya boy...he ain't lyin about not one gat-dayum point!!

If I would have known I was going to be making this type of money, I wouldve never got married...TRUTH
I make 150k and I'm broke....TRUTH
Everything I do is for my family....TRUTH
Sacrifice after sacrifice, bill after bill....TRUTH
I make 150k and drive a compact car so my wife and kids can have it all....TRUTH
And they dont really appreciate me or my work and sacrifice....TRUTH
I have to beg my wife for sex and rarely get it...TRUTH
You going to be the same way if you get married...TRUTH

I know I went thru the same bullshyt cycle and still in it.
About 5 years back I got depressed as hell and wanted to just kill myself because I couldn't think of a way to get my life back.
I thought my options were:
1. I could kill her and the kid and go to jail...
2. Leave her and the kid and have child support for a few miserable years and lose my paycheck...
3. Leave the country and start again from the bottom...
4. Become a savage and break everyone into doing what I need...

Thankfully I chose #4 with the audible threat of #1 and just went ham on her and the kid and TOOK my damn life back. I make it clear that if they give me no way out...I'm taking them out with me.
Plain and simple.

Been smooth sailing ever since.

 

[GrindMode]

nikkas making bad decisions and projecting their bad choices on everyone
dont get married brehs gtfo
you make bad choices in women more than likely you will in other areas

his kids dont respect him
wife dont respect him
didnt plan his family
have multiple kids he cant afford
and cant budget finances

 

[GrindMode]

Listen to ya boy...he ain't lyin about not one gat-dayum point!!

If I would have known I was going to be making this type of money, I wouldve never got married...TRUTH
I make 150k and I'm broke....TRUTH
Everything I do is for my family....TRUTH
Sacrifice after sacrifice, bill after bill....TRUTH
I make 150k and drive a compact car so my wife and kids can have it all....TRUTH
And they dont really appreciate me or my work and sacrifice....TRUTH
I have to beg my wife for sex and rarely get it...TRUTH
You going to be the same way if you get married...TRUTH

I know I went thru the same bullshyt cycle and still in it.
About 5 years back I got depressed as hell and wanted to just kill myself because I couldn't think of a way to get my life back.
I thought my options were:
1. I could kill her and the kid and go to jail...
2. Leave her and the kid and have child support for a few miserable years and lose my paycheck...
3. Leave the country and start again from the bottom...
4. Become a savage and break everyone into doing what I need...

Thankfully I chose #4 with the audible threat of #1 and just went ham on her and the kid and TOOK my damn life back. I make it clear that if they give me no way out...I'm taking them out with me.
Plain and simple.

Been smooth sailing ever since.

when they ask where black dead beat fathers dissapear to...damn thecoli.com

 

[Solano707]

Easy, we were making 50k in 2007. I think his wife was making a little less. Slowly his income raised and their bills did too. When you get a raise you automatically feel you can afford more. His career grow and his wife's didn't, but trying to be a good family man will have you broke. Making sure your wife has a decent car and home. He has 2 kids. Trying to take a trip or 2 a year. That money goes.







I took him out with a few of my female "friends" we were in Brazil if you ask him.
No lie bruh. If you hanging with me in the DMV on the weekend. There's a 99% chance youre going to remember that night forever.

For reals? shyt imma be up there in June

 

[jadillac]

in the end, everything isn't for everybody. Think about that.

Some dudes are ok with being tied down and stability and staying home all the time. Some dudes like to be a little more free. I'm not even talking about cheating/womanizing, but just going out from time to time to have your own fun.

If you can't go to a sporting event or bar, etc to enjoy something you like without a woman MAKING you take her, that kinda sucks.

And they dont really appreciate me or my work and sacrifice.

for me, this would be the worst, most depressing part.

 

[Dre Space Age]

Yeah. I agree with you. I see this alot out here across Africa baby. Traditional status. Can get away with it here but not in the West.
Speaking to my American brehs, if she's at home all day its not a good look. Eventually she will get bored of daytime TV.

yes you can. in the west its done if you are both religious

 

[Jahmal]

Sorry @Jahmal we are not getting married..
































Yet

 

[TallMan_J]

All except the sex part, I can vouch. I don't drive a compact car and still gift myself with things that I want. But there is A LOT of sacrifice. I make six figures, but my wife doesn't work. We have one kid and she keeps the house clean and my kid taken care of. I got married young, brehs. I don't regret it. It's less drama and headaches than being out and about, but I sometimes wonder how my life would be if I didn't have a family. If I had all of my money to myself. All I can do is wonder "what if?" and listen to you single guys tell your stories. I'll be alright, though.

 

[ignorethis]

I can see how homie got caught. Problem is you can start a relationship and get married to a women who's financially "on your level", but due to gender dynamics she can throw that role away whenever she wants..

These women want to be equal but they really don't want to be equal.

That's why you can start a relationship with a hard working chick, and as soon as she gets comfortable, or seeded up, or MARRIED...She can completely change.

She's studying for a PhD, has goals and aspirations but when you really talk to her about what she wants out of life..she wants A relaxing gig where she doesn't have to think. Shorty is getting a PhD but really deep down wants to be a flight attendant..

Watch who you pick long term fellas.. Choosing to marry should be a bigger decision than buying a house imo

The bolded isn't just with your girl, I swear it's the case with majority of women.

I feel most women see working as a necessary evil, and the second they feel like they don't have to do it anymore or can find an excuse to not do it anymore, it's a wrap.

 

[Weaver31]

Your friend sounds weak. nikka crying about not having a nicer car because he has to sacrifice for his kids. That's what a man fukking does.

Yes a man (well women as well) should sacrifice for their children because the children didn't ask to be here. The parents made the choice to have the children, which are blessings. Parents should also plan for having children so they know what it takes and how much sacrificing they have to do. But a woman is grown and I think women should work unless the man can afford her to stay at home...meaning he is in the military (and have housing/food allowances), or he making 6 figures. If he aint banking like that...she should at least get a decent part time job. If she wants to be a stat at home wife...then she needs to find a man who is in the military or making 6 figures or make adjustments so she can attract said man.

 

[LeftCoast]

wish it was illegal to withhold sex in a marriage, thats the scariest part for me.