True especially since she working as well...even if she has a low shytty paying job. That 150 mixed with her 30-40K (assuming) should make it better if she helping out with the expenses. If not, then he taking a L. No grown folks in a home shouldn't be living there for free.
"I took a major L getting married, I make 150k and I'm broke" - My bestfriend
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That's the part and begging for sex stood out to me. I'd probably would just have to cut my loses if it's gonna be like that.
Concerned Citizen
HxH, LoSH 5YG, WW, DS9, IYKYK
Is getting married itself the issue or marrying the wrong woman tho? It's a lot going unsaid in this post and I'm not gonna speculate BUT it sounds like he married a selfish woman who in turn raised selfish kids while he's been out getting money. Also, what is this "have it all" bullshyt? He's breaking his back so they can have it all and be broke at the same time? Is he living beyond his means or working at an unsustainable pace so his family can live a certain lifestyle that's not worth it at the end of the day?Was talking to one of my best friends today. Met dude in 2007, we started in the IT field together making 40-50k. He was married then and I was ripping and running. We both have made good money since, he's had 2 kids, Ive been single for most part. So he's kind of lived vicariously thru me. I always send him pics of my chicks, cars and tell him stories. We both love cars. Had not saw my boy in about 5 years up until 2 weeks ago, when we hungout and had an AWESOME time. With him being married and living far away. Dude told me today....
"bruh you gave me life that day, I really needed that. . I'm not happy, i'm not living. We all were fed that be a good man, be a good family man BS, but never get married dude. If I would have known I was going to be making this type of money, I wouldve never got married. I took a major L getting married, I make 150k and I'm broke. Everything I do is for my family. Sacrifice after sacrifice, bill after bill. I make 150k and drive a compact car so my wife and kids can have it all. And they dont really appreciate me or my work and sacrifice. I have to beg my wife for sex and rarely get it. You going to be the same way if you get married."
I take this as a real wake up call. Dude always keep it real about how horrible marriage is, but today I heard what sounds like him giving up on it all. Kind of scared me str8.
I have a great girl, pretty, cooks and cleans, doesn't go out, stays home and do what I say for most part but......
GMB for Life!!!
If he's not living that's on him not marriage. I'm all for dudes deciding not to get married if it's not in the cards for you but all of the going out your way to post random articles and associate's stories that goes on here is real suspect. No different from racist whitefolk rushing to post a story about blacks when they know the subject of the story isn't representative of an entire people.
GMB or don't is every mans choice but if you do get married, marry smart and you're good.
Hacksaw Jim Thuggin
Superstar
ive been there breh...my ex didnt work...we didnt have kids...we had sex once a month....and she didnt appreciate a damn thing i did....
i feel ol boys pain
Entropy Fan
Superstar
wish it was illegal to withhold sex in a marriage, thats the scariest part for me.
You gotta fight fire with fire
Don't pay her cell, car note, don't give her money for anything.
Why do they think they can stop doing something but you can't do the same
PewPew
I came from nothing
And the even funnier part is they don't see the big deal about it. Nothing is ever good enough
Hacksaw Jim Thuggin
Superstar
breh...i did what you were supposed to do...i sat her down and talked to her like a reasonable husband...get cussed out for my trouble
it got to where i stop bothering....
then get this...she would accuse me of cheating
UpAndComing
Veteran
Yupp that's ALL women. Women get a degree just as a front for what they really want to do
Bruh... Me and my wife both come from families with multiple marriages where the vast majority of them are going strong... from as little as 2 years to as many as 30+ years and the couples are happy. Not perfect, but definitely enjoying life and marriage.
The reality is success in marriage is more about yourself than your partner, and finding someone who understands that as well will likely make for a good marriage overall.
Will I use GOOD JUDGEMENT in choosing a spouse and not marry for beauty, money and/or status alone, but based on the values that I hold myself.
Will I make the sacrifices necessary for the good of my family
Will I be willing to fend off the almost inevitable temptation of infidelity
Will I do my best to try to make it work regardless of my partner's actions at that moment
Will I make it known to my partner when I have a concern that needs to be addressed
Assuming you and friend are still fairly young (early 30s?), your friend should take his situation for what it is and make the best of it. Because in 10-15 years, he should still be making 150k, if not more, and he'll have no kids in the house and really in a great position to live how he pleases, making the most money of his life. And if he really has concerns he should stop being a beta and tell his wife so that things can change.
And if she doesn't sacrifice for him, well that says something about the spouse he willingly chose to marry in the first place.
For real, I don't understand how dudes find themselves in those kinds of marriages. I'm not even HOH and I don't put up with some kinds of shyt. Asking permission and shyt like a child every time you want to leave the house. I can understand if you want to go out all the time, but if your wife didn't say shyt to you and you just made plans, fukk you care if her sister is coming in town? She didn't tell you first did she?
Nah.
I don't know his personal situation but some people are incredibly egotistical when it comes to that shyt. I love my old man but it took him 2 decades and a bit to realise he is loved and respected by the family.
People always think the grass is greener on the other side and get resentful.
Poetical Poltergeist
Precise and cold hearted
At least u didn't have kids with her. That's the way out.
You learn a valuable lesson, choosing wrong as a man is a death sentence. Don't. You better be 100% as a man. A women needs to be 100% with sex. A man needs to be with marriage.breh...i did what you were supposed to do...i sat her down and talked to her like a reasonable husband...get cussed out for my trouble
it got to where i stop bothering....
then get this...she would accuse me of cheating
OuchTLDR. I really don't know why males make this thread but the GMB and MGTOW crew always get married after a few years and they find someone. Its literally a boyscott club that acts bitter until the first p*ssy gives them the time of day.show me someone in their late 40s that has taken all this bullshyt seriously and commands they are single. Ill wait. it never happens. its always people under 35 who throw up their arms because they're late bloomers, but you never seem to see people in their late 40s saying this stupid fukking shyt. thats because they end up with less desirable women because they just accept they too are less desirable and end up marrying and shutting the fukk up. who here is 50 following this MGTOW movement and have zero kids, and have never been married, its damn near nobody but a 5% few.
the only people bitter here are the few that felt they should get more than they have, felt they should get pornstar hot because they're hot and should have been getting microsoft VP money, but didn't, so they lash out on some dumb shyt, and then realize their demise is walmart hot. so they get mad and try to make up fake movements that affect no one. LOL.
