I left this out too, but being sexually pleased by another man definitely helps them get over their ex. It helps break the mental connection.
Once their mental connection is broken its over.
Most women, not all, but most are wired so different than men when it comes to sexual stimulation that it is difficult for them to just pump and dump with no mental connection. Even the way they watch porn is different than men.
We aren't the same. Women that are sleeping around tend to aim for dudes that they already know. The real wild ones don't give a/f but most women hit up the stable of male "friends" they keep on deck, co-workers, maintenance man, someone they already are familiar with.
Men are wired to go out and seek new women. We don't care. That's why its different for them when they start sleeping with other men. Its also why you should never stay with your woman if she's cheating on you. Mentally she's already checked out no matter what she says.
I agree that having sex and spending time with another man, builds a connection with him, and helps break the connection with the previous...
There are extenuating ties that bind in some (not all, of course) cases, though. I've known women who saw other men in the aftermath of a breakup that didn't eliminate her and the existed situation or from trying again. It's a coping mechanism for some women. They are
trying to rid themselves of the connection with the ex. They dont always succeed in that...
So my answer to that, is when women are seeking that "out", let them explore it. You know when you talk to her, and when you see her, if it's over beyond repair. Let her work thru the damages as she see fits but when you know there's something there, the answer isn't to punt on it if you stoll feel something too, because chances are, that isn't what she wants you to do...
Women love to be sought after, feel wanted, you know this. And if she still has something for you she doesn't want you to act as if you could give a fukk about her...
Exactly, that's why you can't listen to a lot of people. The love shyt is never straight forward or always one way. I guaranteed if I move back down and show her the map of our future (which I failed to do before), she's coming back home.
Whether we get back together or not. Life is still a beautiful that. To chase love, find it and fumble it. It's all still a blessing. Many people have never held their dreams or felt the world stand still. I have. Maybe I never will again, but I smile knowing i was there. Nothing last forever. We will all leave her soon. Just enjoy it all. Live life. Wins and Losses.
Yeah it's different when you know it's over. When you know that woman still wants you, a part of her is still with you and still about you and still for you, and you still feel that for her? Again, can't force shyt, gotta let life happen, but the answer is not to punt on a situation she ain't punted on...
