I smashed a 40 year old single mother of 2, recently Divorced after 16 years. I feel bad for her, she's not ready for this game.

[Scaaar]

Nah I can’t rock with this

She did everything brehs say women are supposed to do. Got wifed up in her early 20s. Stayed faithful apparently. And it still didn’t work out for her and rather than be bitter and hate men she still wanna be someone’s girl and treat him good.

A woman like that don’t deserve to get smutted out

Not even saying OP wrong. But this woman did literally everything y’all say a woman is supposed to do and y’all still shytting on her.

That's why I say a lot of brehs on here are hypocrites and truly don't know what they want just like the women they complain about.

 

[Scaaar]

This is true. I guess I'm at a place, where if I don't want anything serious, I'm not even hunting out p*ssy from you. It isn't doing anything for me. Consistent p*ssy is nice but I've had enough p*ssy. I don't like being in a drought but I have no real desire to end the drought just for the sake of ending the drought...

I'm at that stage too breh. I just literally cut off most of FWB cold turkey. I just felt like being alone and doing my own thing. I still get hit up for the pull up and I just tell them another time. I still engage in Convo and take some out for that energy they give off. But I'm solidifying some things for my future so I just don't have the time to chase like I used.

 

[moorfeus]

She's a good girl from my hood, the type of chick from the hood but you'd never know it. She's always like me, but wasn't really my type. She was skinny the last time i saw her, but now she's fine. She came to visit DC early this year, we hungout with her friends. She ended up telling me she's single now after 16 years of marriage. Says shes being with the same guy since like 2004.

We talked/text a few times a week, she tells me how she's always had a crush on me. She complained about me now hitting her up much, but i'm busy and really now that interested, especially being 1200 miles away. I can tell she wants us to be an item. Like hit the ground running and be in a relationship soon. Just conversing with her I realized she still dating like we did in the early 2000s. She's been out the game so long. She's so unaware of all the fukkeries in the dating game.

It's just not meant to be. She's a good girl, deserves a good dude. I'm not him, for her. I'm still stuck on my ex tbh. I don't understand why she would gamble on me. She's seen my facebook, my exs, how i move around a lot. She really think I'd settle....... down with her?? Even without the kids, she's just not my type.

I travel to Louisiana for Easter. She drives up solely to see me, I'm like don't you have some family to visit or something. Anyway she comes over at 9pm Friday. We talk and chill til 11, I tell her i'm going to meet up with my bruh and cuz, told her she can chill until I got back. Went out got half drunk, go back home and remember she was there. She was on the couch sleep. She has changed into some spandex pants and tee..



I wake her up and tell her to get in the bed. I didnt' waste anytime. It was on. Her body was very nice. I haven't smashed many 40 year olds, it was a pleasant surprised. Morning comes and she's rubbing all on me, wanting round 2. But I was drunk and still sleepy. She leaves and text me thanks for the amazing night. She said she wished that night wouldve never ended. I'm thinking, this is a weekly thing for me.



I didn't even hit her up the next day. I hope she can find herself someone nice that will appreciate her. I use to feel bad about smashing chick who I really don't like that much, but I'd done it so much, doesn't really bother me. She has to know I'm a playa. There's a safer guy in her life she could've chosen. There aren't really any victims in this game.

She ain't innocent Bro. She may talk the relationship talk but that doesn't mean she really wants to settle down with you. She just doesn't want to feel like a hoe while she's out fukking. Women that aren't straight up hoes tend to try to keep the men they sleep with confined to guys they have a history with, whether its old friends, ex-lovers, or co-workers. They aren't trying to jump on someone completely knew unless he just blows them away.
The relationship talk is just stuff they tell themselves out loud. They know damn well what they are doing. They just want to fukk.

 

[Stuntone]

Why string her along, though? Just tell her you aren't looking fir a relationship or anything serious right now...

You're the worst kind of dater ...

You said you're still stuck on your ex, I'm intrigued by that part because I am too how long were you and your ex together; how long have yall been separated; what led to the break up; do yall still talk; is there a chance yall get back together?

But on homegirl from Louisiana, just keep it a buck with her. I went out with this 25-year old single mother white chick two days ago, pretty sure I could knock her down. I'm not that interested in white chicks in general, not really interested in her personality, thought about bringing her over after we left and fukking her. But she told me she's a cutter and a few other troubling things, I'm not even muddling the waters with her by sleeping with her. Just left it alone...

I really don't feel I'm stringing her along. Never promised her anything but to make time for her Friday. Any expectations she has, she created herself.

As far as my ex. I messed it up bad, didn't really know how to really take care of a GOOD woman. I didnt. And plus I was insecure about my job / financial situation in Louisiana, i wasn't doing IT, so I was scared to buy a house down there with her, and just didnt' make her feel secure and stable. We was together almost 6 years 2016-20221. A lot of on and off the last 2. She moved to Dallas late 2012, I went stayed with her in Dallas, last year just wasn't feeling it. Still felt like I wanted more excitemnt in my life. She's very old fashion in a good way mostly. Even after my visit, this time last year, she still wanted to get married. We continued to talk until last November. She was stressing about money, bascially wanted help without asking, but I had took some losses and didnt' help her. That was the last time we talked. Her mom told me to come over while we were both in Louisiana for Xmas, I didnt. smh That may have been the last straw. No when I call her she just hangs up. Maybe she has a new dude, or maybe she's just done. Now I'm very financial stable, back in IT, getting a monthly pension, now I know and i'm able to make her feel stable and secure, she's gone. Funny how life works like that. I'm sure I'll find someone else, but I want it to be her. She deserves it. I think theres a slight hope, if I can get her to listen.

But to be honest, I think if youre real with yourself u can relate. I could chase her down and get back with her and be bored again and start slipping again. But I do really know i'vechanged and learned from my mistakes. Just didn't know how important making a smart good woman feel stable and secure. It's deeper than words.

 

[DropTopDoc]

I've been in counseling a few weeks, since March 22. It's helping some, as well as personal things I'm trying. Trying to heal is a motherfukker I'm healing though, I can feel it coming along. But man it's a journey, and I've accepted that it's okay to always have love for someone. You just figure out, be assertive, with moving on...

Maybe she is trying to move on. He didn't say how long she's been divorced but generally speaking I feel however long you were in the relationship, you need that much time in months to recover. Like, I was in my last relationship 2½ years. I need at least 2½ months to recover from her, and I'm on pace. It's been a month that I truly accepted it was over, I'm on pace for that 2½ month range, maybe slightly longer, but I'll be in a solid place by summer...

Old girl he fukked on was in a 16-year marriage, 18-year relationship. She gonna need around a year and a half to recover. This isn't an exact science, every person is different but I feel this is a good barometer. So maybe she is already on her healing journey but you're not in a relationship that long and snap out of it instantly, generally speaking...

Good, I’m glad you are finding your peace/help

 

[murksiderock]

I really don't feel I'm stringing her along. Never promised her anything but to make time for her Friday. Any expectations she has, she created herself.

As far as my ex. I messed it up bad, didn't really know how to really take care of a GOOD woman. I didnt. And plus I was insecure about my job / financial situation in Louisiana, i wasn't doing IT, so I was scared to buy a house down there with her, and just didnt' make her feel secure and stable. We was together almost 6 years 2016-20221. A lot of on and off the last 2. She moved to Dallas late 2012, I went stayed with her in Dallas, last year just wasn't feeling it. Still felt like I wanted more excitemnt in my life. She's very old fashion in a good way mostly. Even after my visit, this time last year, she still wanted to get married. We continued to talk until last November. She was stressing about money, bascially wanted help without asking, but I had took some losses and didnt' help her. That was the last time we talked. Her mom told me to come over while we were both in Louisiana for Xmas, I didnt. smh That may have been the last straw. No when I call her she just hangs up. Maybe she has a new dude, or maybe she's just done. Now I'm very financial stable, back in IT, getting a monthly pension, now I know and i'm able to make her feel stable and secure, she's gone. Funny how life works like that. I'm sure I'll find someone else, but I want it to be her. She deserves it. I think theres a slight hope, if I can get her to listen.

Thanks for sharing bruh...

There are a couple parallels to my situation with my ex. A handful. And I miss her. It is funny how shyt works out...

I hear you on the recent chick. I'm just more the type of, if you can clearly see she wants more as you stated, tell her you aren't there with her, clear that air. But I feel you though...

 

[Stuntone]

I've been in counseling a few weeks, since March 22. It's helping some, as well as personal things I'm trying. Trying to heal is a motherfukker I'm healing though, I can feel it coming along. But man it's a journey, and I've accepted that it's okay to always have love for someone. You just figure out, be assertive, with moving on...

Maybe she is trying to move on. He didn't say how long she's been divorced but generally speaking I feel however long you were in the relationship, you need that much time in months to recover. Like, I was in my last relationship 2½ years. I need at least 2½ months to recover from her, and I'm on pace. It's been a month that I truly accepted it was over, I'm on pace for that 2½ month range, maybe slightly longer, but I'll be in a solid place by summer...

Old girl he fukked on was in a 16-year marriage, 18-year relationship. She gonna need around a year and a half to recover. This isn't an exact science, every person is different but I feel this is a good barometer. So maybe she is already on her healing journey but you're not in a relationship that long and snap out of it instantly, generally speaking...

There's an old Blues song about getting over heartbreak, it says "you might get better, but you'll never be well."


I think thats the truth, humans aren't meant to fall in love over and over. We're suppose to fall in love once and that's it. There's only so much love you can give. You give and invest so much into someone, you can never give that to anyone else again.

When you look at most 30+ year old singles, there's a inner sadness in all of us. You never truly get over death of love ones and broken hearts. We front like we're good being single, but there's nothing better than being in love. We all will forever yearn for the feeling again.

 

[LeaveMyHairLineAlone]

Brag about slaying middle aged ex-wives brehs.

Talmbout "she ain't ready for this game"

 

[Stuntone]

It’s nothing wrong with getting that hit you wanted, it’s also nothing wrong with her wanting love, I’d tell her get some counseling first before she look for a real relationship, she has to heal

I'm going to try to put her onto this game best I can. She's fighting an uphill battle for sure.

Thanks for sharing bruh...

There are a couple parallels to my situation with my ex. A handful. And I miss her. It is funny how shyt works out...

I hear you on the recent chick. I'm just more the type of, if you can clearly see she wants more as you stated, tell her you aren't there with her, clear that air. But I feel you though...

She knows i'm not that into her, but women like to chase as much as men. A lot of women would rather be the sidechick to the man they really want, then "settle" with the men on their level.

 

[moorfeus]

As far as my ex. I messed it up bad, didn't really know how to really take care of a GOOD woman. I didnt. And plus I was insecure about my job / financial situation in Louisiana, i wasn't doing IT, so I was scared to buy a house down there with her, and just didnt' make her feel secure and stable. We was together almost 6 years 2016-20221. A lot of on and off the last 2. She moved to Dallas late 2012, I went stayed with her in Dallas, last year just wasn't feeling it. Still felt like I wanted more excitemnt in my life. She's very old fashion in a good way mostly. Even after my visit, this time last year, she still wanted to get married. We continued to talk until last November. She was stressing about money, bascially wanted help without asking, but I had took some losses and didnt' help her. That was the last time we talked. Her mom told me to come over while we were both in Louisiana for Xmas, I didnt. smh That may have been the last straw. No when I call her she just hangs up. Maybe she has a new dude, or maybe she's just done. Now I'm very financial stable, back in IT, getting a monthly pension, now I know and i'm able to make her feel stable and secure, she's gone. Funny how life works like that. I'm sure I'll find someone else, but I want it to be her. She deserves it. I think theres a slight hope, if I can get her to listen.

Did you tell her this shyt? If not, what's the point?
Women love when you are real and communicate with them, not afraid to be vulnerable every once in a while. Especially if you are not like that most of the time, they appreciate it when you open up.
That's really the only way to establish true connections with your woman that you can build a legacy together off of. You have to open up and risk being vulnerable. The worst she can do is say she's moved on.

 

[Savvir]

Brag about snatching up gullible p*ssy brehs

Not to cape but if you a “real Playa” then you should have been stopped misleading chicks for sex whether intentionally or not. Real Playas let the woman know what time it is and still hit. Sometimes it better to to let them types pass thru your hands.

But real talk you supposed to outgrown fukking gullible chicks by now by at the end of the day. But like you said no victims because what you said is true she chose the less safe option.

Most women mentality immature if she would have chose the safe option she would have been okay but now she chose a nikka who ghost her and brag about smashing her on the coli

Never be the safe guy brehs.

Realest post in here...

A real playa wouldn't have said all this stuff on the internet after they hit, they would have told her the dynamics of everything to her face and she would have let you hit one more time just off the strength of the honesty.

 

[Stuntone]

Did you tell her this shyt? If not, what's the point?
Women love when you are real and communicate with them, not afraid to be vulnerable every once in a while. Especially if you are not like that most of the time, they appreciate it when you open up.
That's really the only way to establish true connections with your woman that you can build a legacy together off of. You have to open up and risk being vulnerable. The worst she can do is say she's moved on.

I've been trying, she doesn't want to hear me out. She deals with anxiety too, I've stressed her out a lot. Never cheated tho. But I'm sure I conjure up a lot of emotions when I call. Might have to pull up on her soon.

 

[murksiderock]

There's an old Blues song about getting over heartbreak, it says "you might get better, but you'll never be well."


I think thats the truth, humans aren't meant to fall in love over and over. We're suppose to fall in love once and that's it. There's only so much love you can give. You give and invest so much into someone, you can never give that to anyone else again.

When you look at most 30+ year old singles, there's a inner sadness in all of us. You never truly get over death of love ones and broken hearts. We front like we're good being single, but there's nothing better than being in love. We all will forever yearn for the feeling again.

Bruh dating in your 30s is something else. I'll be 34 in June. Took an 8-month break between the end of my previous relationship and the start if my most recent one. I anticipate it'll be longer than 8 months before I'm in anything serious again...

Take away those 8 months, I haven't been single since I was 26, about 8 years. Almost 8 years of continual relationships. So not being in this space since I was in my mid-20s, to now being within it in my mid-30s, it's different. Who I was at 26 is different from who I am at almost 34. My outlook and approach to women is different...

I want my next relationship to be my last one. I'm still in love with my ex so I'm open to reconciliation with my her too, of course, but the reality is there's a greater chance that never happens than a chance it will, so with that understood, I want the next woman I'm with to be the last woman I'm with.

I had enough women thru age 26 (and beyond of course), I'm not really into the casual dating game. I'm slowly easing myself into going out and meeting chicks more, but these women don't interest me. There's a chick an hour out who has been trying to get at me for awhile. Same age as me. Bit I don't think she's outta her situation yet, I have minimal attraction to her anyway (could've smoked her boots months ago) but I also have no interest in adding to already confusing situations...

I feel like you can get over a broken heart. I'm not there yet. But I think it can happen. But I know dating in my 30s is different, so much different shyt to contemplate, so much new shyt on the table...

 

[Stuntone]

Realest post in here...

A real playa wouldn't have said all this stiff on the internet after they hit, they would have told her the dynamics of everything and she would have let you hit one more time just off the strength of the honesty.

A real player... Ya'll silly. Who even cares about being a real playa like it's 1995 or something.


It's funny when people say a Real Man or Real One would do such and such.


There's no code or manual to this degenerate shyt we're one.

 

[Savvir]

A real player... Ya'll silly. Who even cares about being a real playa like it's 1995 or something.


It's funny when people say a Real Man or Real One would do such and such.


There's no code or manual to this degenerate shyt we're one.

A real playa isn't a degenerate....lol