I smashed a 40 year old single mother of 2, recently Divorced after 16 years. I feel bad for her, she's not ready for this game.

[Studious one]

I really don't feel I'm stringing her along. Never promised her anything but to make time for her Friday. Any expectations she has, she created herself.

As far as my ex. I messed it up bad, didn't really know how to really take care of a GOOD woman. I didnt. And plus I was insecure about my job / financial situation in Louisiana, i wasn't doing IT, so I was scared to buy a house down there with her, and just didnt' make her feel secure and stable. We was together almost 6 years 2016-20221. A lot of on and off the last 2. She moved to Dallas late 2012, I went stayed with her in Dallas, last year just wasn't feeling it. Still felt like I wanted more excitemnt in my life. She's very old fashion in a good way mostly. Even after my visit, this time last year, she still wanted to get married. We continued to talk until last November. She was stressing about money, bascially wanted help without asking, but I had took some losses and didnt' help her. That was the last time we talked. Her mom told me to come over while we were both in Louisiana for Xmas, I didnt. smh That may have been the last straw. No when I call her she just hangs up. Maybe she has a new dude, or maybe she's just done. Now I'm very financial stable, back in IT, getting a monthly pension, now I know and i'm able to make her feel stable and secure, she's gone. Funny how life works like that. I'm sure I'll find someone else, but I want it to be her. She deserves it. I think theres a slight hope, if I can get her to listen.

But to be honest, I think if youre real with yourself u can relate. I could chase her down and get back with her and be bored again and start slipping again. But I do really know i'vechanged and learned from my mistakes. Just didn't know how important making a smart good woman feel stable and secure. It's deeper than words.

Damn breh. I was going to call you a cold motherfu%#er (no pun intended), but I change my mind. Life is indeed funny like that.

 

[Studious one]

Thanks for sharing bruh...

There are a couple parallels to my situation with my ex. A handful. And I miss her. It is funny how shyt works out...

I hear you on the recent chick. I'm just more the type of, if you can clearly see she wants more as you stated, tell her you aren't there with her, clear that air. But I feel you though.

Off topic: I really wanted that to work out for you. At least you’re making it a point to talk to someone.

 

[Studious one]

There's an old Blues song about getting over heartbreak, it says "you might get better, but you'll never be well."


I think thats the truth, humans aren't meant to fall in love over and over. We're suppose to fall in love once and that's it. There's only so much love you can give. You give and invest so much into someone, you can never give that to anyone else again.

When you look at most 30+ year old singles, there's a inner sadness in all of us. You never truly get over death of love ones and broken hearts. We front like we're good being single, but there's nothing better than being in love. We all will forever yearn for the feeling again.

Now why thee hell did you have to make me tear up with this real talk?! I had you pegged as a damn degenerate.

 

[Studious one]

Women do expect us to provide security. Its not just financial security though, they need the mental security that comes from knowing your true intentions with them. If you're just messing around, unsure of what you want, they will not feel secure around you ever. As fond of you as they might be, in their mind you are unfit to lead because you don't know what you want. The longer they stay with you, the more it will drive them insane.

If you are in a relationship with a good woman and you don't want to marry her and build a legacy together you should just tell her you're calling it quits. They need the man to lead, even if your finances aren't where you want them to be yet, they still need you to set the tone for what you and her are doing together. If you want to marry her and stack bread so you two can have a better life she will get on board and help.

Damn! Let me give you a rep my good sir!

 

[Studious one]

Hold up bro, if you know she has a new dude its best to move on. She's not your girl. Women are wired in a way that you become dead to them once they start dating other men. Smart women don't go backwards once they realize they have options who may be more mature, confident, etc. than you were when she was dealing with you.

If you had a good woman and now she's dating other men, you blew it. Move on for your own mental health.

Seek better connections in life other than just gratifying the lower self with sex. That stuff gets played out real quick, especially if you get one of these females you don't have any connection with pregnant. Then you'll be one of these dudes complaining about your baby momma.

Where the hell have you come from with all this sensible talk sir?!

 

[Studious one]

I left this out too, but being sexually pleased by another man definitely helps them get over their ex. It helps break the mental connection.
Once their mental connection is broken its over.
Most women, not all, but most are wired so different than men when it comes to sexual stimulation that it is difficult for them to just pump and dump with no mental connection. Even the way they watch porn is different than men.

We aren't the same. Women that are sleeping around tend to aim for dudes that they already know. The real wild ones don't give a/f but most women hit up the stable of male "friends" they keep on deck, co-workers, maintenance man, someone they already are familiar with.

Men are wired to go out and seek new women. We don't care. That's why its different for them when they start sleeping with other men. Its also why you should never stay with your woman if she's cheating on you. Mentally she's already checked out no matter what she says.

How do you know all this? Every single word you are speaking is facts.

 

[maxamusa]

OP you let some hoe you haven't seen in forever stay in your crib DOLO while you went out n got drunk


Than you hit it and let her sleep over
You were dating in the early 2000s(which puts you at around 40 or older) and haven't hit many women in their 40s

Don't worry P; I'm sure she's more than ready for that "game" you running

 

[maxamusa]

A real playa isn't a degenerate....lol

Imagine associating having consensual sexual relationships with woman as degeneracy


OP must have escaped a religious cult or something

 

[BigMoneyGrip]

 

[The ADD]

^^^

 

[moorfeus]

Damn! Let me give you a rep my good sir!

Gratitude Sis!

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

ROFL!!!! You see Brandy's smile? The epitome of a teenage girl

OP he got you

 

[moorfeus]

How do you know all this? Every single word you are speaking is facts.

I've been with my wife since 2001. We got married young so we basically raised each other and celebrated our 20th anniversary last year. In addition to being together we're basically raising ourselves all over with our two boys and three girls. I think both of us have a good understanding of how men and women operate, especially when it comes to relationships.

 

[Studious one]

I've been with my wife since 2001. We got married young so we basically raised each other and celebrated our 20th anniversary last year. In addition to being together we're basically raising ourselves all over with our two boys and three girls. I think both of us have a good understanding of how men and women operate, especially when it comes to relationships.

Good for you, and your blessed union! Thank you for your insight

 

[duck]

I need to step up my recently divorced chick hook up game

Instead of using tinder, u can just go to facebook marketplace and search for used wedding dresses. You can even filter them by size, and weed out the fat bytches