I feel you bruh. I think the only way you can truly get over heartbreak is to find someone better or equal. As for me, I don't think I can. It's not just looks either and my ex is Beautiful to me. We're from the same area, she knew my family well before I knew her. She gave me my best times of my life in my prime. I don't see that being topped. That's life tho. My life is a blues song right now.
I smashed a 40 year old single mother of 2, recently Divorced after 16 years. I feel bad for her, she's not ready for this game.
- Thread starter Stuntone
- Start date
I feel you bruh. I think the only way you can truly get over heartbreak is to find someone better or equal. As for me, I don't think I can. It's not just looks either and my ex is Beautiful to me. We're from the same area, she knew my family well before I knew her. She gave me my best times of my life in my prime. I don't see that being topped. That's life tho. My life is a blues song right now.
She may have already moved on. If you are going to give it a go, you should just do it. Fucc waiting. Time doesn't wait for anyone.
murksiderock
Superstar
To this point I'll definitely say, fukk what anybody who disagree says:
When you been with a woman, you know her. You know her signs, you know her tells. You know if there's still a chance, you know if she still has something for you...
You also know if she doesn't...
But when there is still a chance, there's a way to fight for it, there's a way to go for it. You just can't force it, forcing it is how you blow the bag. And vice versa. But a woman who still holds something for you, that shyt is worth seeing about. And maybe it still can't work once we talk and see where we at (like you said she may or may not have someone else already). That's okay...
But it's too many dudes on here who will say "leave it alone, it's over", and punt on some shyt. It's over, but when that woman still feels something, and you do too, it's worth exploring in the right fashion...
So you know what you doing, if you need to pull up on her, whatever it is. If she still got something for you there's always a way to get her back but you gotta let her move thru her hurt...
My ex went directly from me to another dikk. I mean INSTANTLY. Still seeing him now. And I recognize this is her way of dealing with everything with me, get a new man quick, move him in, in house dikk. Bit there's still a spark there. What I've learned is to let shyt roll the way its supposed to, if it never spins back around, it doesn't. Can't force it. But I have to see her about twice a week in exchanging our daughter, when I see her, I can see it. When we on the phone or text, I can hear it and feel it. It just ain't a thing right now, she's started something with another dude, it is what it is...
But when that "something" is still there, I ain't one of these "fukk her, just move on" guys. Move on but it's not "fukk her". Just can't force the shyt...
Similar story breh. I got married when I was 21 in the military and got divorced at 27. Spent the next few yrs in on and off relationships and just mingling with women. It just got old and boring once you've dealt with enough women on a certain mental plane. You kinda know the end results before it happens. I've been truly single the last 6 mos and it honestly felt good to have that break. I'm back out slowly dating with intentions now and I tell chics straight up that. But now in my 30s dating there's so much more I analyze now. If she doesn't have her basics together we don't have anything to talk about and if they're unsure on what they want they get filed to the other side as well too. There's no rush I just take it slow and the right one will come along and we'll adjust to each other accordingly.
Saysumthinfunnymike
VOTE!!!
I'm not reading all this bullshyt. What's your point?
Women do expect us to provide security. Its not just financial security though, they need the mental security that comes from knowing your true intentions with them. If you're just messing around, unsure of what you want, they will not feel secure around you ever. As fond of you as they might be, in their mind you are unfit to lead because you don't know what you want. The longer they stay with you, the more it will drive them insane.
If you are in a relationship with a good woman and you don't want to marry her and build a legacy together you should just tell her you're calling it quits. They need the man to lead, even if your finances aren't where you want them to be yet, they still need you to set the tone for what you and her are doing together. If you want to marry her and stack bread so you two can have a better life she will get on board and help.
If you are in a relationship with a good woman and you don't want to marry her and build a legacy together you should just tell her you're calling it quits. They need the man to lead, even if your finances aren't where you want them to be yet, they still need you to set the tone for what you and her are doing together. If you want to marry her and stack bread so you two can have a better life she will get on board and help.
Who Not How
Superstar
Forget the player shyt. Everybody got their own definition. What a player was 50 years ago is different than today.A real player...Ya'll silly. Who even cares about being a real playa like it's 1995 or something.
It's funny when people say a Real Man or Real One would do such and such.
There's no code or manual to this degenerate shyt we're one.
But that man shyt...how a man is supposed to behave with women and other men most definitely has a code of conduct that most so called men no longer follow. Most dudes don't even want to be called a man it seems like. nikkas on some non binary shyt.
You right about not having a code on being a degenerate, that's why any dude with a dikk can be one. You seem to take pride in that. But that fake "I don't give a fukk" attitude is really a cover for something else. You mentioned missing your ex so I assume it has something to do with that. When she left, did she take your manhood with her?
Sex will never be so important that I have to lie to a woman to get the p*ssy or to keep the p*ssy. What type of power do cats give women that they make shyt up to be with them?
When we were young we all were led astray but at your age, I would expect better mane. If this story is true, it's not as entertaining as you think.
You're right. My girl probably has met a new dude. I really just want to tell her my thoughts and how I've realized the things I did wrong and that my views are different. There was never any infidelity and she knows I never treated her bad. Maybe in the future things opportunities my come around or maybe not. I just want her to know that.
Last edited:
murksiderock
Superstar
Bro 100%, I think we have a similar approach!
I'm not quite at the stage where I'm cool with being single
bit I've accepted it, I'm growing more okay with it by the week. And ultimately the break I'm sure will be worth so much benefit to me, given a nearly 8-year relationship run with two women, back to back...Absolutely though, when you've been around enough women, for my personality anyway, and yours too it sounds like, hunting our p*ssy just to do it, or using being around women often as a way to cope, isn't really a thing for me. I can't feel anything for these women, no strong attraction, no real urge to just get my dikk wet. I'll take my time, the woman for me is out there somewhere. I'll let us find each other naturally while I continue to get my own house in order!
Atsym Sknyfs
Superstar
I'll relay the message !!!
Hold up bro, if you know she has a new dude its best to move on. She's not your girl. Women are wired in a way that you become dead to them once they start dating other men. Smart women don't go backwards once they realize they have options who may be more mature, confident, etc. than you were when she was dealing with you.
If you had a good woman and now she's dating other men, you blew it. Move on for your own mental health.
Seek better connections in life other than just gratifying the lower self with sex. That stuff gets played out real quick, especially if you get one of these females you don't have any connection with pregnant. Then you'll be one of these dudes complaining about your baby momma.
murksiderock
Superstar
Nah this isn't entirely accurate. You're assuming the other dude is more mature, confident, more of anything when we don't know that...
Some women move on to another guy as a coping mechanism, not because you're "dead". There's way too many examples I've seen of this, not just with me but with people I've known and been around...
And @Stuntone is moving on. He's living his life, they aren't even in the same time zone, he's seeing other women. He's moving on and she has too but that doesn't mean she doesn't still feel something for him, the way he does for her. And there are ways to explore that in time, just gotta let shyt play out...
I left this out too, but being sexually pleased by another man definitely helps them get over their ex. It helps break the mental connection.
Once their mental connection is broken its over.
Most women, not all, but most are wired so different than men when it comes to sexual stimulation that it is difficult for them to just pump and dump with no mental connection. Even the way they watch porn is different than men.
We aren't the same. Women that are sleeping around tend to aim for dudes that they already know. The real wild ones don't give a/f but most women hit up the stable of male "friends" they keep on deck, co-workers, maintenance man, someone they already are familiar with.
Men are wired to go out and seek new women. We don't care. That's why its different for them when they start sleeping with other men. Its also why you should never stay with your woman if she's cheating on you. Mentally she's already checked out no matter what she says.