The story took a huge jump at the bolded. You give him a lot of privileges
This doesnt sound like the type of person you want in your house. Being afraid to confront or reason with someone doesnt sound like a healthy relationship.
And definitely doesnt sound like something you want your child to grow up and internalize as being normal.
You sound like you're all alone (No disrepect). But you need someone that you can count on to help protect you (boyfriend, dad/damily, friend). You seem like a soft and sweet girl, and I can only imagine that he will continue to treat you this way. Like other people said, you need a 3rd party that will be there in case he decides to act up.If he can get away with this once, whats to stop him from doing it more often or taking it further?
Think about this. If he decides to hit you one day, and I mean
hit you, what kind of repercussions does he think he will face? Who will he have to answer to? He probably knows that you wont get in a serious physical fight with him. He might be more reluctant to hit you if he knows someone will be coming for his ass if he does........... pause.
Dont listen to people that tell you to get a bat/knife, as it will only be used against you (only a gun is the exception to this rule). As a general rule of thumb, if you need a weapon to win a fight, then you already lost the fight. (Maybe go learn a martial art or someting, but that will take time to master)
To add to that, if you get physical with him you might turn this into a domestic violence case. And that might be the worst thing that could happen to you.
I dont kno bout Trinidad, but in Jamaica police can NOT intervene/act in a domestic violence case. I have seen cases where police could only watch when two people go at it, as they dont know who is truly right or wrong in the situation.
My advice is to document all his little mood swings and behaviours. Bring this situation and others (if they come up) to the police, so they can document it.
When push comes to shove you will have all the evidence you need to get a restraining order, custody of your child, and maybe get a gun for protection.
Avoid saying anything that can make him "snap" on you. And dont get involved with anything with him unless you absolutely have to.( By this I mean, dont go to his house trying to talk things out or be inviting him to yours)
Take everything I say with a grain of salt. Because I have never been the direct victim of this kind of abuse before, but I have had a first row seat to it. Because I saw this sort of situation happen between my parents
Best of luck to you
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Im kind of in a rush right now, so I might of forgot somethings I wanted to say. If I remember something I will add it
She aint bout that savage life like you, she needs something long distance and with an area of effect.
They think she's a punk so they keep treating her a such. I bet if she just jumps on his back without warning he'll step off.
