You may very well be right.
But the female habit lying and misleading people in the name of "protecting feelings" or "letting him down gently" as you put it, cripples men (and children).
It does far more harm than good.
Good intentions lead to horrible results more than people think.
a woman has to worry about a man getting physically violent with her if she is brutally honest about his shortcomings. women are acutely aware of how fragile some men's egos are. they tiptoe around us all the time and yet men are sometimes completely oblivious to it.
a man who takes words literally instead of taking into account the social context or situation is not someone who "gets it". women want a man who "gets it" without having every little thing explained to him. not being able to read between the lines of what she is saying here shows a lack of social intelligence and understanding, which is probably why she's not feeling him in the first place.
also, some women, especially young women, can't articulate it or don't really know exactly
why they aren't feeling a guy, they'll just know there is no chemistry and they are not feeling "it". i could break it down to her and explain exactly why she isn't feeling "it", but it doesn't really matter why because she's already decided she's not attracted.
she needs to find a way to let him down without threatening his ego, hence her calling him "too perfect". make more sense now?