I hate having sex with my fiance. But it’s too late to call off the wedding

[paperbag]

And yet you’re on a board full of them.

That's not the point

 

[ThrobbingHood]

That's not the point

Why would you fraternize on a board full of trash then?

 

[paperbag]

Why would you fraternize on a board full of trash then?

because men forced me to, because they're entertaining

 

[ThrobbingHood]

First girl I was in love with I built her up from aight to a legit 8 through putting her on game about skincare, fitness, mental health etc...told her she the shyt etc etc. Once she leveled up and realized i adored her even more she slowly but surely started to get distant. Me being green played into and the rest is history. We still fukk every once in a while cuz old lovers fall into each others bed often but that feeling of being superman to your bytch vanished years ago and you can never get that shyt back and you feel. When you got that god aura you can legit tell a girl to do absurdly dumb shyt and she'll be doed eyed and do it. If your chick don't have that for you, you playing yourself wifing period.

I'm still a chill helpful dude and its naturally my nature to try to upgrade any chick I'm with. But I def keep them on a leash as far as how much I actually care. Women most attracted to men whose intentions are unclear. Goofy ass cac in the OP spilled his as soon as he hit Don't be him.

Apart from my first girlfriend, I’ve never told any of my girlfriends I love them. That’s what brehs don’t get. Love between a man and woman is NOT lateral. She should always be vying for your love and attention.

Once you reciprocate a woman’s affection, you stop becoming a challenge and she has no incentive to try. She has you where she wants you. The woman in the OP personifies this. She rues relationships with men who outright dogged her over her reliable fiancée.

I don’t know what more proof some men want. They can heed these words or ignore them. I know the game and how to play it.

 

[Deafheaven]

This will sound fukked up but it has never failed. All my serious girlfriends have seen my jump offs (in someway) who are at least 8/10s. Why? Because they know physically I can do better than them so they never get out of line.

When they know you can pull a bad bytch, they’ll get in line and not get disrespectful.

Now my current girlfriend is not ugly. She’s a strong 6/7 in the face but she has a banging body (I’m an ass over face guy anyway) but if they’re not at least slightly insecure about losing you to a badder bytch, she’ll never make the effort to keep you satisfied.

That’s why the woman in the OP doesn’t respect her Man. Why would she? He’s not sexually desirable, just reliable.

Let me say that one more time: he’s not sexually desirable, just reliable.

Women marry for security, rarely for love. Love can be unstable, a rollercoaster and tumultuous. Everyone’s best sexual relationship has been with someone they couldn’t settle down with long term.

She comes from a patriarchal culture where a woman’s academic achievement mean nothing without having a marriage and children. That’s why she’s pressured herself in getting married. I see it all the time.

GMB.

Facts. If your chick don't think you can do as well or better its a ticking clock on that shyt. Another anecdote. One of my best friends 44 was dating this 32 year old Rosario Dawson looking chick. He a italian dude but that cat the jivest nikka I know lol, got mad soul. She dated nothing but beta ass weirdo white boys. shes a very pretty woman, like 6 2. all this said when they met her self esteem was in shambles. this dude soul is kind to a fault. He built her up over YEARS, till she finally was uber confident and realized how hot she actually was. This nikka never stopped the lover boy shyt though and you can guess how this goes.

He had a pretty aight job but she was pushing him to apply himself more. So he did, he quit, couldn't find work for a while. put a strain on that shyt. found a better job after 8 months but the damage was beginning. Then covid hit and he lost and shyt went completely off the rails. She now despises this dude, says hes too emotional (shes told me multiple times in the past this is why she loves him) lazy (this nikka legit put in hundreds of apps when he was out of work, lazy ) And she won't even touch him. Called the cops on him, and this breh aint a woman beater in any fashion lol. Its like a light switch flipped like "no wonder he invested so much in me, he cant do better "

shyt hurt to read cuz breh legit saved my life before and he basically family but I told him years ago you can't be gassing her head up like that breh, all that crying in front of her shyt gon come collect in time. Stay solid or the things she love about you now she'll hate you for.


This aint a woman hate post moreso a nikkas need to keep the square at all times. I told dude you my OG the fukk you crying to bytches for. Act like a man (cue toxic masculinity bullshyt) And he brushed it off. Once that superman visage fades it takes a really kind hearted chick to not want to ruin your life lololololool. Be safe out there.

And yeah. Last women I told I loved her was my first and last. Only women getting that from me is family and homies. Any chick I'm with ask me I just tell them "you know how I feel about you "

 

[ThrobbingHood]

She now despises this dude, says hes too emotional (shes told me multiple times in the past this is why she loves him)

I made a post about emotional men being unattractive to their spouse:

Breh, we can split semantics all day. Venting and complaining reside within the same realm to me. Women do not care about our problems unless it stops us providing financially or sexually.

Ask yourself this, and be honest. All the women you’ve dated... have they ever shown genuine concern about you outside of money or sexual performance? As long as you’re not deficient in either of those, their concerns for us stop and starts there.

They’ll watch us work ourselves into the ground as long as we continue providing.

But according to some deluded brehs and broads, I don’t know what I’m talking about.
Men forget that we are primal creatures. You can’t fool biology. If you’re crying to your woman about your problems, why wouldn’t she fukk with another nikka who has his shyt together? Why would she stay with a man who can’t keep his shyt together when times are hard? that’s a nikka that can’t protect her if he can’t protect himself.

And yeah. Last women I told I loved her was my first and last. Only women getting that from me is family and homies. Any chick I'm with ask me I just tell them "you know how I feel about you

At best, I say “I appreciate you.”

 

[Deafheaven]

I made a post about emotional men being unattractive to their spouse:



But according to some deluded brehs and broads, I don’t know what I’m talking about.

I mean its possible...but for a women to want to effectively be your on demand therapist she has to be so ridiculously feminine and motherly that it borders on impossible. I always tell my less savvy brehs my nikka vent to me if you have to. Don't take that shyt to your wiz. A lil something here or there is cool but these new nikkas be spilling every ill and insecurity and expecting they girl to still see them as a thorough nikka. You can have all types of bread or be fly but you display that side too often the bytch in you is now exposed and if it doesn't create a riff immediately it will. You need to be vigilant on your ladies attraction to you, brehs get a chick and get complacent. Recipe for disaster.

Now to the uninitiated that may sound hard and you putting on a front but when you really have built yourself into a nikka you love it aint a act no more. You don't even have to really think about shyt like this you just respond on instinct. Every woman even the most kind hearted gone test you, the difference is if they really like you its gonna be gimme ass homeruns across the plate. But if you strike out with the shyt, whew. prepare for fukking cuz she bout to dial up some cy young shyt

At the end of the day all nikkas want is a chick that looks nice and is willing to follow, and chicks want a nikka they will not be ashamed to have lead. thats it. We make this shyt a lot harder than its posed to be.

OP could have the wackest dikk on earth but if he acted like his shyt don't stink outside the bedroom most likely ol girl would at the least RESPECT HIM.

 

[dat aint da same sandwich]

That shyt is done. Dude needs to be more perceptive and know when his chick ain't feeling him.

 

[old_timer]

Sometimes I regret having sex with my wife. ...

I'll be dead asleep. 5am she'll get up to get water or go to bathroom
She deliberately stirs me up
She'll crawl over me.. She'll press her body into me
Multiple times I've actually caught her lightly rubbing my dikk
Not a hand job.. Just trying to get me a little aroused.. Thinking it doesn't wake me up

No, wifey, a hand rubbing my dikk wakes me up!!

When she comes back, then she'll cuddle up with me
It's like her indirect way to initiate sex

Young people might be like but old man problems my body needs time to stretch after laying there asleep most of the night .
Going from zero to sixty gives her a thrill but for me??
Next day it's a tight Back, leg pain, stiff knee etc
I think I pulled a thigh muscle
Maybe it's time for DDP Yoga

 

[Thurgood Thurston III]

Nah that was woman talk for "on paper he's a good partner". Women get that far all the time with guys they don't have chemistry with. One of my best friends is in a situation like in the OP. She says she dated a bunch of a$$holes. Then she met a guy that wasn't an a$$hole and on paper was a good catch. Decent job, nice guy, smart and willing to be a provider. Ended up marrying him in large part because she was tired of rejection from dating and getting her heartbroken. Thing is they have nothing really in common and barely talk to each other. She's always trying to find ways to get out of the house because when they're at home they just chill in different rooms and he spends all day writing or playing video games.

It is possible there is chemistry there but what she describes seems to me that their chemistry was her overreacting to the guys rejecting her and just happy to date someone somewhat normal.

The reason why I took her word for it is because whether it's chemistry or physical attraction, it's still out of the guy's control.

If it was lack of chemistry, I think she would've just said it--assuming this article is even real.

To be fair, I think physical attraction is part of chemistry. So, we could both be right.

 

[HarlemHottie]

The moment he called her a “goddess”, he put her above himself and now look.

He called me a goddess once (for real, legit, goddess type shyt). But only once. And those were extremely extenuating circumstances.

Ngl, i felt "better" for a hot sec, but the power differential between us is so extreme, it didn't last.

 

[Babymama Magnet]

Can't front this woman here is full of shyt and there are plenty out here like her too. If the sex was bad why not just break up with dude? Why waste your and his time when you probably gonna cheat cause you unsatisfied. It's best she left dude alone so he could find a good woman who actually doesn't mind touching him since you don't want to even touch him and you can waste someone else's time.

What the fukk is the point of writing an article on this? If she really cared about the relationship she would be talking to him about the issues or solving the problem by calling it off and breaking up with him to find someone you are more attracted to.


You think they saw she was trife and a headache so they got rid of her?

Naw, the chick is probably mad average in looks and body and the other guys knew they could get better so to them she was a pump and dump.

Her current probably acts like she's the best he could get which repulses her because now she's feeling like she's settling down

 

[Bossino]

Men are trash

The men you want treat you like trash you mean. Enjoy being alone and unhappy tho

 

[paperbag]

The men you want treat you like trash you mean.

Yes, that's what I meant

Enjoy being alone and unhappy tho

 

[Bossino]

Yes, that's what I meant

I don't take kindly to generalizations or lumping innocent people in with guilty.

Moreover, it's not just what you mean, it's what all women mean, but if they say it like that no man will care (and most with half a brain don't anyway) and if you breakdown the statement it becomes apparent that maybe you (as well as women in general are asking too much). But y'all innately protect yourselves from accountability for your own self imposed unhappiness.

I tell any breh who ain't already know, men are trash = I have unrealistic expectations/I'm shooting outta my league/I'm asking for too much

It is what it is tho