I don't respect folks who have babies with randoms that they're just smashing.

[Scaaar]

Having babies out of wedlock is certainly not something anyone should strive for but people have sex…raw sex, because it feel amazing….and sex has the chance to lead to a baby. It is what it is. Good luck stopping people from having raw sex in a free society

Edit: one thing I’ve realized as well is when a woman like you like that….they do not care about none of the shyt they claim they do like being in a relationship, using a condom, getting tested…they gonna let you hit raw

This is 10000% facts

 

[Scaaar]

I don't know if I would say 80% but I will say that this thread would have gone in a completely different direction if I went in on women in the OP and solely blamed them instead of going in on both parties. The same nxggas in here talking about "you should mind your business" would have gone in on the hoes and thots that in their minds are solely responsible for babies being born out of wedlock and even out of relationships.

These dudes don't like being forced to look in the mirror and realize that the blame falls on them too.

Brehs definitely need better D discipline. Some of the women they choose to lay next to be.... . It's cool to turn down some a$$ especially if you see the red flags surrounding the chic.

 

[Mowgli]

Think about other men bruhs

 

[Scaaar]

My main focus in this thread aint folks who have children born out of wedlock. I'm talking about children born out of relationships right here and right now.

We have a horrible history in this country but what you tryna say? Is the White Man standing over your shoulder telling you "bust that nut RIGHT NOW niccer and you better not be wearing a condom!!!"

It's wild that someone would even use that. If anything knowing what the situation was before should give you even more reason to be cautious about going in someone raw. I'm the second oldest of 8 kids. I saw how my mom struggled trying to make ends meet and still do for us. I have one daughter and that's it the last I would ever want is multiple children that trauma growing up in that was more than enough for me. But to see people see how folks struggled in broken homes then just continue the cycle when it's their turn is wild. Blaming the system that we've known about for poor decision making is inexcusable

 

[CinnaSlim]

I was educated on the financial, mental and emotional burdens of raising children as a child. Also, educated on how children are made and birth control methods. As someone else mentioned, i was raised to protect my womb.

Personally, im not trying to be tied to a man for the rest of my life. I think its literally one of the most important decisions people make. Also, im aware nikkas do sometimes try to trap women with a child, so i protect myself.

I think it basically comes down to if you know better, you do better. Also, people's social norms and their tendencies for impulsivity & high risk behaviors.

 

[hostsamurai]

Those who matter don't mind. And those who mind, well, they don't matter.

 

[The ADD]

Nxgga you.

It is my business when said women are trying to have a connection with me.

I wouldn't care if these weren't women actively trying to be in my life.

You just can’t not engage with them?

 

[TaxCollector13459]

Because we're taking advice from former sex workers!

Aye ion normally speak negative of nobody on here,but that shii was wild lol

 

[HarlemHottie]

Aye ion normally speak negative of nobody on here,but that shii was wild lol

It's outrageous, and brehs be letting it slide! But got 20 pg threads about how Sexy Red represents the decline of western civilization.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

OP..

Respectfully..

Why the judgment??

What ppl with kids out of wedlock got going on has nothing to do with you nor where your morals land...

I get not agreeing with having OOWL children. But, to say that ppl who do are the dregs of society is a lil too much!

Best thing is to stand on your morals & principles, practice safe sex and get married before YOU have kids!

IJS..

*shrugs*

I didn't say out of wedlock. I said out of relationships.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

I was educated on the financial, mental and emotional burdens of raising children as a child. Also, educated on how children are made and birth control methods. As someone else mentioned, i was raised to protect my womb.

Personally, im not trying to be tied to a man for the rest of my life. I think its literally one of the most important decisions people make. Also, im aware nikkas do sometimes try to trap women with a child, so i protect myself.

I think it basically comes down to if you know better, you do better. Also, people's social norms and their tendencies for impulsivity & high risk behaviors.

Welcome back, babe

 

[humminbird]

lol someone is trying to make your thread

 

[murksiderock]

I got 4 sons by 2 different women. I'm married to the mother of my youngest sons and I was married to the mother of my oldest sons.

I never wanted to be that dude that believed that stupid shyt about men spreading their seeds around without at least trying to be there as a family. That's why we got so many messed up young boys as it is.

I'm glad you said this first because too many sheltered brothers on here think we aim for multiple baby mamas or that having multiple baby mamas means we never wanted a family, or left a broken home intentionally...

I have 3 daughters with 2 different women. My 2 big girl's mother, we had broken up, then 3 weeks later she tells me she's pregnant. If I wanted a broken home or didn't care about raising my kids within a family structure, I never would have created a relationship with her afterwards, and never would have had another child with her...

She wanted to marry me, I didn't want to marry her, and among other things that led to our demise. But again we were already broken up when she gave the news she was pregnant, and I actively got back with her and tried for the next 4 years to have a real family with her...

My youngest daughter's mom, I did wanna marry her, and still am open to it if she gets her shyt together We weren't even established dating when she got pregnant, we were friends and fukk buddies, but there was attraction, she wasn't a one night stand or a woman who I couldn't stand or who company I didn't enjoy...

Fell in love with each other and had a real relationship after she got pregnant, didn't work out obviously, but the intent was there...

nikkas in this thread asking why have sex without condoms, so to that point:

It's the natural way of having sex, I neither like nor trust condoms. Human beings haven't always used them, and I have a theory on the spread of diseases and it really isn't simply having raw sex, people been having raw sex since people have existed...

Last woman that asked me to wear a condom was my youngest girl's mom, but we never used one even once. Last girl that actually made me put one on, I can't remember, it's been well in the past. But I tell women, I'm not a fan of condoms, but I'll wear one if you want me to. Nobody ever wants me to, they want this dikk the natural way...

And having sex with no condoms does not mean we desire to have children. Ultimately the woman chooses who she let's in her body, and she chooses whether she's on pregnancy prevention methods or not. I've slept with two women this year, the sister asked if I had one, I told her I'd get one if she wanted, then she was like nah it's cool. The white chick said, "I got condoms if you want one", I said nah, she said cool, me neither...

Adults enjoy having sex. Doesn't mean we want kids...

 

[murksiderock]

That "just be married" train of thought just doesn't work in the BC. There is no morals, no accountability and no one to hold anyone to any standards. Having a the father in the house doesn't automatically equal a good parent, provider etc.

The best thing women can do is get their money up and have a good support system for her and the child.

The fairytale of the desire of the nuclear family just isn't reflected in reality and hasn't been for generations.

When are these conversations going to be based in reality instead of la la land.

This is fact...

I was educated on the financial, mental and emotional burdens of raising children as a child. Also, educated on how children are made and birth control methods. As someone else mentioned, i was raised to protect my womb.

Personally, im not trying to be tied to a man for the rest of my life. I think its literally one of the most important decisions people make. Also, im aware nikkas do sometimes try to trap women with a child, so i protect myself.

I think it basically comes down to if you know better, you do better. Also, people's social norms and their tendencies for impulsivity & high risk behaviors.

A man can't really trap a woman with a baby unless he playing games with tge condom. The woman gets to decide the terms of sex and how she has it, and the woman ultimately controls the opportunity of a child or not...

Other than that I agree with you ...

 

[Houston911]

Conversations like these expose all that militant false flagging yall do on here. How can you say in one breath you want the black community to do better and be better but you don't see a problem with folks popping out kids willy nilly and creating broken homes just cause they wanted to get 2 pumps in and was too irresponsible to strap up.

Some people just want kids and don’t really care about the circumstances

People who DONT WANT kids but are casually going raw with strangers/friends with benefits and not getting a morning after pill after the fact is just……



I understand people are human and get caught up in the moment and do shyt they prolly shouldn’t

But Nobody has given a logical explanation of not getting the morning after pill after going raw with someone you don’t want a kid with