I don't know if i was right in telling my gf this but we got in an argument and..

[lespaulultra3]

and again everyone, it's not like i was screaming at her and yelling about her losing weight. I said it in the most calm way possible to her (ala joe budden tone) and we didn't fight about it. She's a great woman and the reason being is that i really love her, she's perfect in every other way, no fukkery with her at all. You guys gotta realize, women from mexico are WAYYYYYYY DIFFERENT than the ones in the states. These girls are about catering to their man and being loyal. I'll keep you guys updated on how she's doing, at the end of the day, she agreed and wants to do it for herself as well.

what i did forget to point out was that every time we'd go on vacation, she'd cry that she hasn't lost weight or gained it while being on our getaways. I was getting tired of hearing it all the time so that played a part of bubbling up.

I agree with what you did but it came out too harsh. You shouldn't have threatened to cheat or look at other women if she doesn't lose weight. Now you have her walking on egg shells when you're not perfect yourself. With that being said, you were right to tell her how you felt about her weight. It's better to get it out now rather than hold it in for years and build up unnecessary resentment towards her. She doesn't look bad in the pics you posted but if she doesn't start working out soon, she'll look like mother goose after she has her first child.

 

[Afro]

What type of stupid ass logic is this

All he has to do is drive an hour, take her to a gym for an hour, then do whatever.

By telling her to do it , he is having her do a 180 lifestyle change by herself with no self discipline to being healthy to begin with.

 

[KravenMorehead™]

Not to be disrespectful but you sound crazy, I'll put it to you like this, my wife has better genetics then I do, three kids later she is 5'7 140 tight waist video vixen body with no change in diet, but still over time her body has changed a slight 2-3% nothing major.

I let her know what saw and how her body has slightly changed, I started training her after work (I'm a amature bodybuilder) in the mornings as soon as we got off work, I told her love her the way she is and really doesn't need to work out all but she insisted after our talk.

8 weeks later her waist went from a 26 1/2 to 25 inches, hips went from 40 to 43inch , weight went from 140 to 145 while dropping 4% bodyfat and her body has that certain pop to it, everywhere she goes she turned heads and gets alot of attention, maybe on day I'll post a pic but if it was that important to you why didn't you help her?

i think you quoted me by accident

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Wrong because you just said in previous posts that you dumped a nikka for gettin fat.

Some people once living together and bring together for long periods of time develop bad habits that need to be checked.

Al that's"accept me for me" bullshyt is a poor excuse for laziness

No I didn't. He was already chubby. Learn to read. I didn't accept him, it was wrong and I corrected the mistake my ending the relationship. I didn't attempt to change him. FYI he's still chubby 6 years later. So staying with him would have been pointless.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Ok maybe the threat of sayin he's gonna cheat was foul. I'll give you that, but him gettin on her case about weight isn't a bad thing

I never said it was bad. I said the way he went about it was wrong and that it's pointless b/c she is probably not going to change.

 

[Ronnie Lott]

All he has to do is drive an hour, take her to a gym for an hour, then do whatever.

By telling her to do it , he is having her do a 180 lifestyle change by herself with no self discipline to being healthy to begin with.

Why should he HAVE TO DRIVE an hour just to take her to the gym. She's not a child. She should want to be in shape and healthy for her kids. I'm not saying that he shouldn't help her at all , but she's a grown woman. But I think dude took an L from the top for dating a chick with 2 kids in the first place

 

[Fade Runner 2049]

Fat hoes deserve no respect OP

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

All he has to do is drive an hour, take her to a gym for an hour, then do whatever.

By telling her to do it , he is having her do a 180 lifestyle change by herself with no self discipline to being healthy to begin with.

Right. This is what they don't understand. This ain't asking a broad to shave her legs. You're asking a person with 2 kids to change the way she lives. I honestly think it's pointless but the least he could do is go with her so she can stay motivated. I bet he'll drive an hour to get some ass though.

 

[Afro]

Why should he HAVE TO DRIVE an hour just to take her to the gym. She's not a child. She should want to be in shape and healthy for her kids. I'm not saying that he shouldn't help her at all , but she's a grown woman. But I think dude took an L from the top for dating a chick with 2 kids in the first place

Your right, he shouldn't at all, but for the results he wants he may have to. I agree on the L, half of this crap could be avoided. Shes grown in the sense of old enough to have kids. Mentally hell no.

But at this point we are arguing the same points.

Dude needs to either drop this one or work with what he has in a responsible way.

He needs to stop dappin and get to workin

 

[Brandon M.]

Ana D'Leon (@ana_ddeleon) • Instagram photos and videos

somebody take her off his hands

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Why should he HAVE TO DRIVE an hour just to take her to the gym. She's not a child. She should want to be in shape and healthy for her kids. I'm not saying that he shouldn't help her at all , but she's a grown woman. But I think dude took an L from the top for dating a chick with 2 kids in the first place

And an L for getting with a woman that didn't meet his standards physically. That was dumb.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

IM NOT EVEN USIN MY VOICE, LET ALONE YELLIN MY GIRL

All caps signifies yelling. That's why no one else is doing it. Take heed. It's basic forum etiquette.

 

[Klyk21]

you just weren't happy with this woman?

Yeah, with my old girl (250lb), I actually met at the outdoor track. She was working out heavy at the time but as soon as we got more serious, she became complacent with her weight no longer worked out (much). The weight was an issue for me but I made it MORE than it was. I wanted out of the relationship due to a number of other factors. My current girl is cool and weighs much less but I still want out of this current relationship and we have agreed to end things soon. Every relationship I've been in, whether dating or otherwise, I just get kind of tired of them and their shyt VERY easily. My sister said I've been this way since i was young where I didn't hold onto to thing very long and got bored easily. I really want to to just be in a normal relationship without feeling the need to leave....basically, at 31, i'm still learning who I am on the inside.

 

[Icantspell]

A fat single mom


L

 

[ThaBronxBully]

A fat single mom


L

Wait..This Chick Got A Kid?

And How Old Is She?