let me try to leave a helpful comment
op you and some of these fools in here have convinced you that you were right and you werent even gonna say anything and she just nagged nagged nagged you.
clearly you had an attitude, youre supposed to be her man, supposed to love her
no shes not wrong for asking whats bothering you
you are wrong for holding that shyt in. obviously this didnt just start bothering you
this could have been an ongoing productive conversation
not some shyt that she has to pull out of you and then cry.
thats not how mature adults in healthy relationships operate.
as much as you say it was calm and you didnt yell or curse
she had to beg you to say something
and then you threw in that cheating shyt
even the men on here dont believe that bullshyt. men look. its not "oh man! im so sad! i dont even wanna look! you made me look!"
you look now and you would still look if she lost 100 lbs
looking isnt the issue
actual cheating would be the issue
and if you cheat
no, its NOT about her weight. its because you choose to cheat.
you dont get that get out of jail free card.
notice your first thought isnt "hey, youre not living a healthy lifestyle, i love you but this isnt gonna work"
it was "hey i dont want to cheat, but youre gonna make me have to cheat"
i dont know what kind of mind games youre playing with this girl, but if you cheat thats 100% on you, not her.