Have You Ever Met A Woman Who Takes Accountability For Her Actions?

[shagnificent belafonte]

Damn. Honest to God breh. That’s my go to question. I’ve saved myself a lot of headaches and heartache by asking that question early on in my dealings with a new woman. Tells me a lot. If a woman makes herself the victim in every single one of her past relationships and NEVER admits to any wrongdoing on her part, that is literally the last conversation I know that we’ll have. I smile and nod and facilitate a quick exit out of the venue shortly after she gets to talking that nonsense. I already know. She’s gonna be nothing but problems with that warped sense of reality and lack of self awareness/ability to be honest with herself...

Exactly...

 

[Assata Shakur]

I’m not going to lie just to fit in. I have met some very intelligent sisters who takes complete accountability for their actions and faults. The few I’ve had met though have been very conscious, strong black power type of sisters, not these brain washed thots.

 

[mag357]

I’m not going to lie just to fit in. I have met some very intelligent sisters who takes complete accountability for their actions and faults. The few I’ve had met though have been very conscious, strong black power type of sisters, not these brain washed thots.

You may not be trying to fit in...
But u trying to be different....

It's just not in a woman's nature...
Theres no man that would ever believe ur post...
No man that has actually dealt with women In their lives.

 

[Assata Shakur]

You may not be trying to fit in...
But u trying to be different....

It's just not in a woman's nature...
Theres no man that would ever believe ur post...
No man that has actually dealt with women In their lives.

fukk you nikka I don’t have to lie on the internet. All women are not childish.

 

[Reality]

Fellas can we just start religiously bushing chicks who do this? I refuse to accept this is what we have to take from all women. My mom doesn't do this shyt (90% of the time I've seen my pops call her on something, she's said "you're right" and they have a constructive honest convo). My current girl also doesn't do this shyt.

I dated a girl who, when I called her out on shyt like this and her double standards for responsibility, said it was like this with every woman. Ended up bushing her and haven't looked back. She pulled some of that shyt one day and I lost it, snapped, and told her "Look, you seem intent on acting like you don't have nearly 4 years of your life invested in this relationship. I'm done pulling teeth - if you want to throw away the last 4 years because you can't have an adult conversation, you can fukking do it." Walked away and fast forward a few months and she's choking up on the phone when she finds out I have a new girl.

Gotta be willing to walk away.

 

[DonRe]

Women are creators of deflection and aloofness. Inventors of victimization and lack of self awareness when in actuality they control all these traits as emotional beings.


They just show us the opposite for manipulation and control. Chess not checkers

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

Fellas can we just start religiously bushing chicks who do this? I refuse to accept this is what we have to take from all women. My mom doesn't do this shyt (90% of the time I've seen my pops call her on something, she's said "you're right" and they have a constructive honest convo). My current girl also doesn't do this shyt.

I dated a girl who, when I called her out on shyt like this and her double standards for responsibility, said it was like this with every woman. Ended up bushing her and haven't looked back. She pulled some of that shyt one day and I lost it, snapped, and told her "Look, you seem intent on acting like you don't have nearly 4 years of your life invested in this relationship. I'm done pulling teeth - if you want to throw away the last 4 years because you can't have an adult conversation, you can fukking do it." Walked away and fast forward a few months and she's choking up on the phone when she finds out I have a new girl.

Gotta be willing to walk away.

I live like this. Not chasing or dealing with NO woman who refuses to act right or grow as an individual. When I think back on my life and think of how many hours upon hours I've wasted on trying to get women to see the error of their ways when they just weren't gonna see it, I cringe. I literally get angry at myself.

Not wasting any more valuable time. It's the one resource that can't be replenished. I see ANY red flag of you being irrational, overly emotional, that you're inflicted with victim syndrome, that you can't take accountability and responsibility for your actions, etc., it's instant bushes and blocking. Not coddling and catering to these hoes AT ALL. I ain't conceding an inch. This is years of experience with women that have made me this way.

I'm a cool breh by default. I'm very generous with my time, resources, and knowledge. I'm calm, easy to talk to, and easy to be around. I'm an understanding dude.I'm also very loyal. If a woman can't match this energy, she doesn't deserve to be around me. Straight like that. With a person like me, I didn't lose you. You lost me. My favorite life flex is revoking people's access to me. Stop putting up with less than you deserve from these chicks because you have a scarcity mindset and want access to consistent sex....

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

if you find a woman who takes accountability, you found a treh.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Gotta be willing to walk away.

This is absolute facts, but 99% of men aren't built for that.

 

[Bondye Vodou]

Yes, its rare tho

 

[TripleAgent]

While thread is science fiction

 

[Hoodoo Child]

I've only met one so far, and that's sad.

 

[NoCones]

A boss once told me to use May 30th on a report I was working on so I did

The next day she's like "why did you use May 30th? The last day is the 31st" I'm like "just went by what you said" she said "yeah but you gotta use common sense "

I'm sitting there like....you really couldn't have just smoothed that over with a "my bad"?


Professional woman who's been in the game for 10+ years too

Now I gotta teach you a lesson & you'll wonder why I'm acting a certain way & not fukking with you anymore - but unfortunately, you'll never know cause you dont take accountability and you did nothing wrong

2 of my bosses do this exact thing. I can let you know whats going on all day, but if theres a fukkup in my area: " you shoulda sent a email

 

[HarlemHottie]

Hate to say it but that meme is right. I used to post on an all female forum. Occasionally somebody would ask me for relationship advice cuz i been with my man so long. But they almost never listened to me.

Instead, the boards relationship guru was some chick who, from what i gleaned (cuz i hated reading her posts), was old and divorced and quite bitter toward men, especially black men.

They loved her bc she always blamed the man. I would come in like, 'Sis, you know you was dead ass wrong' and be framed as the bad guy. They called me "black Male identified". All these mental machinations to avoid accountability.

 

[HarlemHottie]

Everyone has fukked up a relationship at some point.


Everyone

In hs. It was bad too, and very public. But he still wanted me, proposed and all that. Clearly he was crazy.