Has Anyone Else Just Given Up And Lost Hope On Dating/Love?

[momma]

Is there any chance of rekindling that relationship breh? Sometimes a woman is just done. I've been there. We all have. But, on rare occasions, they just wanna be babied and buttered up and you can get them back in the right circumstance. But you're young breh. Your 20s are for growth and having fun and discovering who you are. I had so many women in my 20s, I'm literally embarrassed to repeat the number. As you start to get older, you value companionship more and not just the flesh, at least I do....

I hear you on that, but unfortunately she graduated and that might have been the last I'll see of her. And just based off my judgment and hindsight, it seemed very evident that she might have been looking to switch mans and wanted that butter up as you say, but I was being who I am and annoyingly detached because at the time I was not interested in a relationship and only wanted to chase and get booty so I didn't follow through on her signals. I try to live without regrets but that was prob one of the biggest mistakes Ive made. I could try hitting her up again but idk if she'll respond

And yeah, racking up bodies sounded cool to me but I feel like I might have gotten it out of my system at this point. Also I think for my generation, having that queen piece to hold you down is actually seen as cooler than just hoeing around because getting a relationship going isn't easy and you're seen as more valuable if you're in one

 

[ba'al]

And one more thing I want to add to this thread is that don't feel like your less than a person because you're in a drought or can't find the right one. Everyone whos honest will admit to dealing with stress and sadness when it comes to dating. We crack jokes and laugh about it because on social media and the internet in general people all portray themselves in their best light but most will admit that this is a problem they faced sometime in their life. Some dudes come out of dating depression and stumble across the right one. I know this is a corny and cliche but there truly is "A light at the end of every tunnel" or "rainbows after every storm". Just requires patience and putting yourself in postions for these opurtunties to occur.

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

Why not try dating different type of women, if you dating only black women. Try dating Asian/white/ Latina

I would love to settle down with a black woman but if Im getting more co-operation from a non-black woman, i will wifw quickly

I've tried dating women o

Why not try dating different type of women, if you dating only black women. Try dating Asian/white/ Latina

I would love to settle down with a black woman but if Im getting more co-operation from a non-black woman, i will wifw quickly

I've honestly tried giving women of other races a try. They're fun for awhile, but I just can't fully feel comfortable around them.

Someone in their family is always against interracial relationships or they have an annoying indifference to things that are happening in and to the Black community. Or they always say some shyt. And that behavior gets me livid!

So it's best I stick to Black women. They understand. They empathize. They get it. Them other bytches only good for a good time and a lustful nut. Not trying to build with them hoes.... because they're not about Black empowerment and Black growth. And if you're not about that, you're gonna have to get the fukk from around me, fast and not slow...

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

And one more thing I want to add to this thread is that don't feel like your less than a person because you're in a drought or can't find the right one. Everyone whos honest will admit to dealing with stress and sadness when it comes to dating. We crack jokes and laugh about it because on social media and the internet in general people all portray themselves in their best light but most will admit that this is a problem they faced sometime in their life. Some dudes come out of dating depression and stumble across the right one. I know this is a corny and cliche but there truly is "A light at the end of every tunnel" or "rainbows after every storm". Just requires patience and putting yourself in postions for these opurtunties to occur.

Some shyt you just need to hear. This post hit home for me. Appreciate it breh..

 

[L&HH]

Yup in the same place as op (I'm 39).

I'm not even considering dating or anything ever in life again. I realise that I dont have a "fit" for me. I'm never any womans "type" so I just figure its gods way of saying I suck and shouldn't have been born.

You sounding like one of those incels

 

[pop]

You sounding like one of those incels

Theirs plenty of black incels. We need to stop this myth that all black men are swimming in pawgs and redbones.

 

[Arcavian]

Im laid up with my cuckoo ex girlfriend, rather fukk with the devil i know than these entitled women in the dating game

 

[Mac Brown]

You sounding like one of those incels

Nah, I got out of an 8 yr relationship (was engage for a min).... and really don't wanna meet anyone new at all. I just have no desire to.

I rarely connect, and dating is waay easier for just about everyone else but me.

 

[Iceson Beckford]

Less than half of ops age and I'm already feeling like retirement

 

[Ria_21]

Yet another female got thrown into the bushes tonight. At this point I can almost predict the outcome with these women.

They all start off nice, sweet, and promising that they're "different" than the other women out there.

Then, like clockwork, their true selves emerge. When they get comfortable, upset, or tired of faking nice, they start showing how petty, argumentative, flaky, etc. they can truly be.

I'm 38 and getting. I'm becoming jaded and cynical when it comes to females. I'm sure there are good women out there, somewhere. But what are my chances of meeting them??

I think I'm gonna focus on my health and raising my daughter. This may be it for me brehs. I've had a good run

Awww don't give up hope there's someone out there for you

 

[Ria_21]

Yea breh.

That face tho .

Yikes!! That's so mean

A persons face is very important to me

 

[Phitz]

Dam 38 u never been married got no kids

The guy said he's gonna focus on raising his daughter

 

[Phitz]

As a flip side to the OP, I'm 20 and still figuring this shyt out, and actually just felt something substantial recently. At my age, most girls I meet are either unstable, have identity issues, suck socially, or aren't very interesting. So I finally met a person who actually cares for your wellbeing, has a magnetic, radiant, and kind personality with great people skills, with an interesting background and a good head and heart, and amazing beauty. That shyt hit me on an emotional level and I didn't appreciate it until she left my life. And she really liked me too, but had to keep her distance cuz she wasn't single. Im probably idealizing her a little too much but that kind of emotional feeling, even if it wasn't fully explored, is still powerful to me. Promiscuity is so uninteresting to me now that I've gotten a glimpse at something greater

you're idealizing her too much

sometimes you just need good solid family and friend relationships with both genders

I think society has gotten so far in the garbage and people are less caring so that when we see a crumb of that care in people we think they're special

I think we look for too much outside of ourselves and our family sometimes

You can't expect another human being to provide ALL of your non material needs. That's not what we partner up for.

That said...just build your family and friend relationships.

 

[Wargames]

They all start off nice, sweet, and promising that they're "different" than the other women out there.

Then, like clockwork, their true selves emerge. When they get comfortable, upset, or tired of faking nice, they start showing how petty, argumentative, flaky, etc. they can truly be.

Breh that is like all women..... the secret is to find the one you like enough in spite of that to try to build up.

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

The guy said he's gonna focus on raising his daughter

I missed that part u right