Has Anyone Else Just Given Up And Lost Hope On Dating/Love?

[The ADD]

what age did you get married?

Getting married in a few months. I’ll be 47, 48 later in the year.

 

[Brandsdale]

Getting married in a few months. I’ll be 47, 48 later in the year.

Bless lol

Did you intentionally wait longer? Or life just happened?

 

[The ADD]

Bless lol

Did you intentionally wait longer? Or life just happened?

Just happened that way. Definitely went through periods where I was mainly focused on my career, needed to do self-improvement on my health (was probably pushing 300 # in my 30’s), etc.

I’m not a fairytale love person by any means but it’s interesting seeing brehs write off finding a good partner so early in life.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

The amount of women that I've come across lately , telling me they lonely and are getting depressed at the possibility of them not forming a family or finding a life partner is heartbreaking.

I think both men and women are going through a loneliness crisis , which sadly gets converted into hate online. These meaningless gender-wars is just a mask to hide behind. When I was going through that bout , I never blamed it on the opposite gender.

Supply, demand, delusion, reality and a sprinkle of Father Time is like having real money or not.

There’s no in between.

We are in this era of people not having the money to really support a family but then they don’t even have the mental/emotional rigidity to grow a relationship.

And folks don’t want to hear it but it’s on them.

I’m not talking about brehs who could settle down tomorrow because they got their shīt in line or just enough that they are light years away from dusty behavior.

Folks are immersed in social media BS like it’s a daily multivitamin and then somehow move like the components of their lives outclass folks who do the same shĩt. Unless you can travel every month, really see how other parts of the world live and have clarity than is immune to online emotional manipulation, you really ain’t doing anything exceptional.

The folks outchea doing it don’t have time to cook
Up and edit posts unless it’s part of their “brand”.

Meanwhile time ticks on and on and people are no closer to finding a partner than they were a month ago even though these cities are PACKED — yet everyone wants something else not what they can get.

And they refused to build themselves up into something worth working for.

Oh well. Couldn’t be me.

Like Suga Free once said, “I live like Jack Tripper to the third power.”

 

[Brandsdale]

Just happened that way. Definitely went through periods where I was mainly focused on my career, needed to do self-improvement on my health (was probably pushing 300 # in my 30’s), etc.

I’m not a fairytale love person by any means but it’s interesting seeing brehs write off finding a good partner so early in life.

Good to hear and congrats dude

But I think the giving up stuff comes from the economy. A lot of people can’t afford homes and renting is just as bad in ALOT of North American cities. That in itself can force young peoples decisions on family planning. We can act like mental health, covid and gender wars are the main culprit but I always attest that when a population is more empowered financially, people’s life decisions become less complex and gives them greater flexibility.

 

[The ADD]

Good to hear and congrats dude

But I think the giving up stuff comes from the economy. A lot of people can’t afford homes and renting is just as bad in ALOT of North American cities. That in itself can force young peoples decisions on family planning. We can act like mental health, covid and gender wars are the main culprit but I always attest that when a population is more empowered financially, people’s life decisions become less complex and gives them greater flexibility.

I think that’s fair but I think relative to the board the economic thing is less in play because the demographic is older. I recognize that life is way different from for younger people and the economics aren’t great for family building.

I don’t get the sense that most of the replies to these threads are from that much younger group. If I’m wrong then I’m happy to change my perspective.

 

[OperationNumbNutts]

Given up..............no. I am noticing the game is changing and I have to adjust accordingly. If I'm too stubborn to make changes, it will be annoying.

 

[maxamusa]

Thread is super depressing.....giving up on love?




Bunch of demons in this MF

 

[Dave24]

Supply, demand, delusion, reality and a sprinkle of Father Time is like having real money or not.

There’s no in between.

We are in this era of people not having the money to really support a family but then they don’t even have the mental/emotional rigidity to grow a relationship.

And folks don’t want to hear it but it’s on them.

I’m not talking about brehs who could settle down tomorrow because they got their shīt in line or just enough that they are light years away from dusty behavior.

Folks are immersed in social media BS like it’s a daily multivitamin and then somehow move like the components of their lives outclass folks who do the same shĩt. Unless you can travel every month, really see how other parts of the world live and have clarity than is immune to online emotional manipulation, you really ain’t doing anything exceptional.

The folks outchea doing it don’t have time to cook
Up and edit posts unless it’s part of their “brand”.

Meanwhile time ticks on and on and people are no closer to finding a partner than they were a month ago even though these cities are PACKED — yet everyone wants something else not what they can get.

And they refused to build themselves up into something worth working for.

Oh well. Couldn’t be me.

Like Suga Free once said, “I live like Jack Tripper to the third power.”

@Michael's Black Son well said! What is your situation like, are you married with family?

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Yeah I pretty much think its not for me with americanized women imo

 

[Redwood]

Thread is super depressing.....giving up on love?




Bunch of demons in this MF

Not really, it's more of a sign that something needs to change

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

I’ll say this as an older breh that got engaged much later……

What you envision for marriage, kids, etc. Will likely change as you get older. You won’t be the same person you were early to mid-30’s. You could very well find someone you are aligned with. And before it’s part of a reply, that person won’t necessarily have some insurmountable amount of issues, baggage, etc.

Does your fiance deadlift tho???.... cause you a part of the Secret Society on here so this better have importance in her being your "one".....

 

[maxamusa]

Not really, it's more of a sign that something needs to change

You said it; not me. I'm not going to tell anyone how to live their life. I'm just calling it what it is.

 

[Redwood]

You said it; not me. I'm not going to tell anyone how to live their life. I'm just calling it what it is.

It's tame compared to what's usually posted on here though

 

[maxamusa]

It's tame compared to what's usually posted on here though

Facts.....thread might be the root of some shyt.....

first page of TLR looks like Mordor with these thread titles