Getting a Divorce Brehs...

[RicanFury]

theres more to it than the best buy snub im sure.

 

[Soundbwoy]

And how do you know how she did it? Were you there?

I wasnt there but he explained she said it on some

So what. Marriage should be taken a lot more seriously than that.

As you go through life your spouse will do things in a lot of "ways" that may not be your cup of tea at that point in time. You grow up, address your concerns, and stick by that lifetime commitment you made.

If someone can't handle a woman being scared and asking a question about the future of your resources, then how will he handle much tougher issues that life throws at you?

How will you handle if she gets pregnant and her entire personality changes due to the stress, hormones, and discomfort?

How will you handle if you have a sick child and her patience just isn't there?

What if she gets postpartum depression?

How will you handle financial issues if talking about them upsets your manhood to the point where you can't think logically?

The you is hypothetical because this isn't about you. But I would advise women to be careful and avoid men with childish mentalities because it's not safe to trust them with the direction of your life.

This is a classic #GPB thread. Get some priorities before entering marriage.

he said he tried but couldn't let that go because he saw it as a sign of disrespect was he supposed to stay in the marriage resentful because of her comment? He did the right thing in this particular situation they are both in their prime, no kids if anything this was a learning lesson for both

 

[Ziggiy]

Yes, I am so jealous... His wife should have immediately accepted that her husband was going to take an hourly job with limited stability, income, and benefits. She should have never had the audacity to question why he wanted to start from the bottom of the career ladder even though he had already made steady gains...

I am so envious of his ability to quit and run away from a commitment such as marriage over 1 question. Oh yeah, he has the big balls

I accepted when she quit her job THREE times while I was in the Army Becuase she couldn't decide what she wanted to do with her future...

I accepted when she quit her job AGAIN while I was in Afghanistan (she didn't consult with me she just did it) Becuase she wanted to go to Law School and needed $500 a month for tutoring to take the test ($500 which came directly out of the savings account I was contributing too every month)


I accepted the years of her family resenting me Becuase I didn't go to college and they thought I wasn't "good enough" for her. Very rude and snobbish towards me and my family up towards our wedding. They finally came around during our first year and her stepfather told me that he'd been wrong about me all these years.



I accepted those things and never once made her feel badly or lesser of a person Becuase of it. I CERTAINLY never told her to her face that she was going to be a failure. At the end of the day, she thought and felt that HER goals and aspirations were "better" than mine, hence her disrespect and dismissive attitude. I simply chose NOT to accept such disrespect. As I said earlier a woman who feels she can belittle a man is going to eventually be his ruin. That's not a fate I accept for myself

 

[Yup]

I accepted when she quit her job THREE times while I was in the Army Becuase she couldn't decide what she wanted to do with her future...

I accepted when she quit her job AGAIN while I was in Afghanistan (she didn't consult with me she just did it) Becuase she wanted to go to Law School and needed $500 a month for tutoring to take the test ($500 which came directly out of the savings account I was contributing too every month)


I accepted the years of her family resenting me Becuase I didn't go to college and they thought I wasn't "good enough" for her. Very rude and snobbish towards me and my family up towards our wedding. They finally came around during our first year and her stepfather told me that he'd been wrong about me all these years.



I accepted those things and never once made her feel badly or lesser of a person Becuase of it. I CERTAINLY never told her to her face that she was going to be a failure. At the end of the day, she thought and felt that HER goals and aspirations were "better" than mine, hence her disrespect and dismissive attitude. I simply chose NOT to accept such disrespect. As I said earlier a woman who feels she can belittle a man is going to eventually be his ruin. That's not a fate I accept for myself

So she never supported you in anything? The marriage was only one sided the whole time. Have you ever expressed to her hoe you were feeling the ehope time? Perhaps you have a part of responsibity. You let it accumulate gir so long that her comment was the last straw over years of 'disrespect'.

 

[Colicat]

I wasnt there but he explained she said it on some


he said he tried but couldn't let that go because he saw it as a sign of disrespect was he supposed to stay in the marriage resentful because of her comment? He did the right thing in this particular situation they are both in their prime, no kids if anything this was a learning lesson for both

No... He is supposed to talk about his qualms like a grown man and allow his spouse to correct their "wrongs" ....not throw a "I'm going to show this bytch" tantrum.... Who does that?


How deep is our bond if that's all it takes for you to be gone

 

[Colicat]

I accepted when she quit her job THREE times while I was in the Army Becuase she couldn't decide what she wanted to do with her future...

I accepted when she quit her job AGAIN while I was in Afghanistan (she didn't consult with me she just did it) Becuase she wanted to go to Law School and needed $500 a month for tutoring to take the test ($500 which came directly out of the savings account I was contributing too every month)


I accepted the years of her family resenting me Becuase I didn't go to college and they thought I wasn't "good enough" for her. Very rude and snobbish towards me and my family up towards our wedding. They finally came around during our first year and her stepfather told me that he'd been wrong about me all these years.



I accepted those things and never once made her feel badly or lesser of a person Becuase of it. I CERTAINLY never told her to her face that she was going to be a failure. At the end of the day, she thought and felt that HER goals and aspirations were "better" than mine, hence her disrespect and dismissive attitude. I simply chose NOT to accept such disrespect. As I said earlier a woman who feels she can belittle a man is going to eventually be his ruin. That's not a fate I accept for myself

This makes 10 times more sense.... It sounds like you never truly communicated your discontent with her...did you guys sit down and discuss her poor choices or the way her family treated you?

There were underlying issues that you glazed over in this thread or never stated... I can definitely understand not wanting to live in a toxic atmosphere... But breh... You only mentioned the 12.50 at 35 part of the story


Last question, do you honestly think you did everything you could to try and make it work?

 

[Soundbwoy]

No... He is supposed to talk about his qualms like a grown man and allow his spouse to correct their "wrongs" ....not throw a "I'm going to show this bytch" tantrum.... Who does that?


How deep is our bond if that's all it takes for you to be gone

I think you need to re read the thread because OP made it clear they did go to counselling and that didnt work on top of other things he mentioned, you seem to tke this very personal OP is not a Tyrone type of nikka he's a stand up dude

 

[MikelArteta]

Coli women would rather a nikka stay and waste away and be disrespected day after day

Our black coli queens brehs

 

[Colicat]

I think you need to re read the thread because OP made it clear they did go to counselling and that didnt work on top of other things he mentioned, you seem to tke this very personal OP is not a Tyrone type of nikka he's a stand up dude

Because I question his logic, it's personal? .... I don't know this guy from a can of paint... I just know what he typed in this thread...

And if I recall, he said he never gave counseling a real go... I don't know if he Is Tyrone, Pookie, or Tupac... I just know what he was saying made no damn sense

 

[Yup]

Coli women would rather a nikka stay and waste away and be disrespected day after day

Our black coli queens brehs

Divorce is a big deal. The bible mentions there are few justified reasons for divorcing outside of adultery/murder etc...disrespect can come in many forms and is not always a good enough reason to divorce. Parents have kids disrespect them on the regular that doesnt mean you kick out the child out of thehome. You discipline them.

 

[Colicat]

Coli women would rather a nikka stay and waste away and be disrespected day after day

Our black coli queens brehs

The only queens you know about are the ones in a deck of cards... Hush....

Don't speak for anyone but your self....

Idiot Mods y'all

 

[Queen]

I wasnt there but he explained she said it on some


he said he tried but couldn't let that go because he saw it as a sign of disrespect was he supposed to stay in the marriage resentful because of her comment? He did the right thing in this particular situation they are both in their prime, no kids if anything this was a learning lesson for both

And as an adult who has committed to a MARRIAGE, when you feel disrespected you communicate. You express your feelings in a mature manner and allow your spouse time to digest.

When you do that, you may find that your spouse had no intentions on disrespecting you and that they are sorry for their actions. Or you may find that they really don't care about your feelings, which indicates that the issue wasn't this perceived disrespect in the first place. Either way, the solution is communication, not holding in feelings for months so you can surprise your life partner with a "gotcha".

As someone who just celebrated 9 years of marriage, I stand by my previous comments. Anyone who handles marriage in such a careless and emotionally immature manner is not marriage material.

 

[MikelArteta]

Old bitter black women brigade , barren fingers, cobweb wombs

The only queens you know about are the ones in a deck of cards... Hush....

Don't speak for anyone but your self....

Idiot Mods y'all

 

[Ziggiy]

This makes 10 times more sense.... It sounds like you never truly communicated your discontent with her...did you guys sit down and discuss her poor choices or the way her family treated you?

There were underlying issues that you glazed over in this thread or never stated... I can definitely understand not wanting to live in a toxic atmosphere... But breh... You only mentioned the 12.50 at 35 part of the story


Last question, do you honestly think you did everything you could to try and make it work?

I have stated althroughout the thread that I tried talking to her and reasoning with she about her attitude. More than once and yes, we did go to counseling. She would NOT change her attitude and for me what added insult to injury was that she never apologized or showed any remorse about what she said until AFTER I'd gotten my second promotion. Like I said she saw me get up every day at 4am to make that first Marta bus and take the two hour bus/train ride to work Becuase I let her have the car. She saw me working 50-60 hours a week, sometimes I wouldn't get home until 11pm-12am and she'd already eaten and gone to bed.

Then AFTER I left her she wanted to beg and plead. It doesn't work that way, if I can support you and never complain during a time period in your life when you couldn't quite figure out what you wanted to do then you can certainly support me during a time period in my life when I KNOW what I want to do, and am willing to put in the work required to make it happen.

 

[Yup]

I have stated althroughout the thread that I tried talking to her and reasoning with she about her attitude. More than once and yes, we did go to counseling. She would NOT change her attitude and for me what added insult to injury was that she never apologized or showed any remorse about what she said until AFTER I'd gotten my second promotion. Like I said she saw me get up every day at 4am to make that first Marta bus and take the two hour bus/train ride to work Becuase I let her have the car. She saw me working 50-60 hours a week, sometimes I wouldn't get home until 11pm-12am and she'd already eaten and gone to bed.

Then AFTER I left her she wanted to beg and plead. It doesn't work that way, if I can support you and never complain during a time period in your life when you couldn't quite figure out what you wanted to do then you can certainly support me during a time period in my life when I KNOW what I want to do, and am willing to put in the work required to make it happen.

This makes sense .