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Ziggiy said:
What other questions? There were no other questions. She made that comment and the conversation was FINISHED as soon as she said that shyt. I went out for a walk to calm down and to wrap my head around the fact that my WIFE could disrespect in such a revolting fashion. That's when I relaized that I wouldn't allow myself to be disrepected in such a manner. That I was the one who deserved better and that this marriage was over.

Just for clarifications sake, the next day we talked again and I broke down to her my plan regarding best buy, the history between us,make how I'd NEVER before failed or this marriage. THAT was the first time I ever went through a "tally" of exactly what I'd done to support, appreciate, and respect her over the course of our marriage. She was just like the typical Coli poster. Judgemental, dismissive, doubtful. She didn't start to see the light until I completely withdrew from her. I slept on the couch, went to work, and kept my eyes on my goal. After the first promotion happened pretty quickly she started to "try" to turn things around. I was already done with her bullshyt. the second promotion happened a month after the first and I she was like "I fukked up by not supporting you" and I told her no shyt.
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trilldealbaby said:
thank you for insulting me.
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Theraflu said:
Oh dear :skip: . You're doing anthropology :ld:
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Family Man said:
Brother...you're a fukking moron. You seem like the type of "man" to tally and keep track of what you do for your woman and other people. Do you keep a spreadsheet of everything you've done for her over the years? You don't deserve any special accolades for doing what a man is supposed to do for the person that he is building with. It's called building for a reason nikka.

I put my wife through school when I was 22 years old and didn't have a pot to piss in because she's who I wanted to build a life with. When you love someone and value them shyt like that just comes with the territory. I didn't get a cookie or a pat on the back for doing that and neither should you. I didn't hold none of that shyt over her head and neither should you. That little sacrifice that I made pales in comparison to how much it has paid off over the years we've been together. Lots of men and women make sacrifices for the person that they are looking to spend their life with. You ain't special and you don't deserve any recognition or props for it.

In the summer of 2011 I started a business. In the Spring of 2012 I told my wife I was going to quit my $85,000 a year job with benefits to work on my business full time. Her response to me was similar to your wife's response to you. Not because she didn't believe in me but because I was making a risky move that could threaten our security. I went ahead and quit my job anyways inspite of her reservations and by the summer of 2012 she quit her job to work with me full time on our business.

The issue is that you've invested so much time and energy into working a retail job which is very volatile, insecure, and risky. You don't own shyt. You're at the mercy of external forces you have zero control over. You're lucky your wife only made that comment instead of going upside your head with a frying pan for being a jackass.That would have been a more appropriate response.

In a few weeks once you realize how much of an idiot you've been and the reality of your bytchassness begins to creep in you're going to wish you could hop in a time machine. The problem now is that you've demonstrated to your wife and her family, friends, etc that you're a petty, egotistical, weak, and emotionally fragile man. You've shown her and them that you're disloyal. Hopefully your wife has a support network in place that will keep her from returning to you when you inevitability try to slither your way back into her life.

To summarize, bytch nikka man up.
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Family Man said:
Brother...you're a fukking moron. You seem like the type of "man" to tally and keep track of what you do for your woman and other people. Do you keep a spreadsheet of everything you've done for her over the years? You don't deserve any special accolades for doing what a man is supposed to do for the person that he is building with. It's called building for a reason nikka.

I put my wife through school when I was 22 years old and didn't have a pot to piss in because she's who I wanted to build a life with. When you love someone and value them shyt like that just comes with the territory. I didn't get a cookie or a pat on the back for doing that and neither should you. I didn't hold none of that shyt over her head and neither should you. That little sacrifice that I made pales in comparison to how much it has paid off over the years we've been together. Lots of men and women make sacrifices for the person that they are looking to spend their life with. You ain't special and you don't deserve any recognition or props for it.

In the summer of 2011 I started a business. In the Spring of 2012 I told my wife I was going to quit my $85,000 a year job with benefits to work on my business full time. Her response to me was similar to your wife's response to you. Not because she didn't believe in me but because I was making a risky move that could threaten our security. I went ahead and quit my job anyways inspite of her reservations and by the summer of 2012 she quit her job to work with me full time on our business.

The issue is that you've invested so much time and energy into working a retail job which is very volatile, insecure, and risky. You don't own shyt. You're at the mercy of external forces you have zero control over. You're lucky your wife only made that comment instead of going upside your head with a frying pan for being a jackass.That would have been a more appropriate response.

In a few weeks once you realize how much of an idiot you've been and the reality of your bytchassness begins to creep in you're going to wish you could hop in a time machine. The problem now is that you've demonstrated to your wife and her family, friends, etc that you're a petty, egotistical, weak, and emotionally fragile man. You've shown her and them that you're disloyal. Hopefully your wife has a support network in place that will keep her from returning to you when you inevitability try to slither your way back into her life.

To summarize, bytch nikka man up.
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spliz said:
Come on bro..u think u can think about it a lil more before u go thru with it..thats if the comment is the only reason...if its just her in general that u dont love anymore than its best u do what u have to do...but fam..why dont u weigh the shyt out...how much has she been there for u and been supportive of u vs how many times she hasnt..
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Nah man. I think weve all really come to the conclusion that this divorce is actually the right thing FOR HER. Shes hurting now, but she'll be better off.

But after reading OP posts ive come to realize that there may be something really wrong with dude. He sounds like someone i know who has this inferiority complex which is actually a form of mental disability. They sometimes lash out when you make them feel inferior or inadequate. Now we all tend to go into defense if we are legitimately being attacked, but the problem with people who have an inferiority complex is that the simplest statement can be misinterpreted by them as some sort of attack and everything goes left. which is what happened here.
 
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Ziggiy said:
What other questions? There were no other questions. She made that comment and the conversation was FINISHED as soon as she said that shyt. I went out for a walk to calm down and to wrap my head around the fact that my WIFE could disrespect in such a revolting fashion. That's when I relaized that I wouldn't allow myself to be disrepected in such a manner. That I was the one who deserved better and that this marriage was over.

Just for clarifications sake, the next day we talked again and I broke down to her my plan regarding best buy, the history between us,make how I'd NEVER before failed or this marriage. THAT was the first time I ever went through a "tally" of exactly what I'd done to support, appreciate, and respect her over the course of our marriage. She was just like the typical Coli poster. Judgemental, dismissive, doubtful. She didn't start to see the light until I completely withdrew from her. I slept on the couch, went to work, and kept my eyes on my goal. After the first promotion happened pretty quickly she started to "try" to turn things around. I was already done with her bullshyt. the second promotion happened a month after the first and I she was like "I fukked up by not supporting you" and I told her no shyt.

I didn't even tell her about the management promotion that happened a few months later. I just came home, sat her down, told her "I'm making more than 12.50 and I've still got seven years to go" I made it DESPITE you not because of you, I'm worth more as a man and a husband and I don't feel that I am in love with you any longer.
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This is so petty. The details make you look worser than worse. And Lol @ your attempts to make her response as dehumanizing and disrespectful as possible. Lol Its just not that deep. Just admit you were ready to bounce and are using that situation as an excuse.....but you did admit that was the comment that made you say fk the marriage, so that means you had already been contemplating leaving. And if your wife saw the error in her thinking along the way and apologized, she was sincerely looking out for your best interest with her response, so much so that she said she would be more careful in how she comes across for the next guy. Yeah, she's a real bytch. Smh
 
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blades25 said:
why are you guys telling him to stay with an unsupportive woman? coli full of fatherless simps who have no back bone...stay with people who dont believe in you brehs
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Chief said:
How would you know grown folks got discuss that shyt with youth
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i've witnessed a 37 almost 38 year marriage..what about you? yall dont know anything about this man's marriage but ya'll in here judging so you need to fall back...if you cant see that both spouses should have each others full support then thats on you...you can question your spouse and have discussions about it but straight up dismissing them ?...that wont work in a functional household....eventually he would resent here anyway
 
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