Getting a Divorce Brehs...

[MCMLXXIX]

There's nothing to "walk" back. We are over and done with. My head and heart are clear. I wish her all the best. Me and her talked the other day and she said she was ready to sign the paperwork and get this done as quick and bloodless as possible. She said that just as I no longer loved her that she no longer loved me, so we are in agreeance on this. She actually thanked me and said that she would use this experience as a lesson to be more supportive and appreciative of her whoever she's with in the future. At the end of the day we wish each other no ill will. I have my life ahead of me to live as I see fit and so does she.



Honestly it feels good to know that I never allowed myself to take disrespect or allow another person to feel they have a right to put me in my "place" (still can't respect a MAN for actually saying that )


Life Is Good

Wait, Wait, Wait.....Hold up.

so it is really over. Just like that. Like I said, I understand where you are coming from, but....I understand disrespect but...she could not have apologized and it was...never mind.

By this paragraph, it appears you two have just fallen out of love and this was just the way it ended.

 

[Chief]

There's nothing to "walk" back. We are over and done with. My head and heart are clear. I wish her all the best. Me and her talked the other day and she said she was ready to sign the paperwork and get this done as quick and bloodless as possible. She said that just as I no longer loved her that she no longer loved me, so we are in agreeance on this. She actually thanked me and said that she would use this experience as a lesson to be more supportive and appreciative of her whoever she's with in the future. At the end of the day we wish each other no ill will. I have my life ahead of me to live as I see fit and so does she.



Honestly it feels good to know that I never allowed myself to take disrespect or allow another person to feel they have a right to put me in my "place" (still can't respect a MAN for actually saying that )


Life Is Good

Your wife won and lost

She lost by marring you and she winning now because your bytch ass filled for divorce

 

[Ziggiy]

Your wife won and lost

She lost by marring you and she winning now because your bytch ass filled for divorce

It's your opinion but she DEFINITELY gained from marrying me. Any woman whom I am with will gain. All I ask for is the respect and support that I deserve. I've never failed any woman I was with and she herself acknowledged that she hadn't been appreciative of all I'd done over the past two years and that she understood why that particular comment broke us.


Of course there are more odds and ends to the marriage and it seems most of you are (surprisingly) interested in the inner workings of the relationship. I wasn't going to post about everything because it really WAS that particular comment that made me just say "fukk this marriage" and commit to leaving but since this thread has gotten so popular and I enjoy reading everyone's opinions (both the good, the bad, and the ignorant and the simptastic) I'll fill you guys in later on today

 

[Chief]

It's your opinion but she DEFINITELY gained from marrying me. Any woman whom I am with will gain. All I ask for is the respect and support that I deserve. I've never failed any woman I was with and she herself acknowledged that she hadn't been appreciative of all I'd done over the past two years and that she understood why that particular comment broke us.


Of course there are more odds and ends to the marriage and it seems most of you are (surprisingly) interested in the inner workings of the relationship. I wasn't going to post about everything because it really WAS that particular comment that made me just say "fukk this marriage" and commit to leaving but since this thread has gotten so popular and I enjoy reading everyone's opinions (both the good, the bad, and the ignorant and the simptastic) I'll fill you guys in later on today

So you don't want to be questioned. Your future is her future she has as right to question.
What yo need to write about is her not believing in you after you explained your plan.

Also I don't remember you writing anything about what your fam said

 

[Ziggiy]

12 years, army life, and 3 career changes? Nah she aint loyal. You're right to divorce her. Next time marry a bobble head mute with cum for brains. Congrats on having an hourly position at a retail store breh. You made it. You'll be corporate in no time!

We weren't married all 12 years and we weren't TOGETHER all 12 years. We KNEW each other for 12 years. Reading is fundamental guy.

Not one of those "changes"'affected her lifestyle negatively. She directly benefited from all three "changes" so save your



Again, your attitude regarding the career is as ignorant and judgemental as hers was.
Why would I stay married to a woman who thought no better of me than an anonymous poster on an Internet forum? Does THAT make any sense??!!??

 

[Ziggiy]

So you don't want to be questioned. Your future is her future she has as right to question.

she didn't question me. She made a statement that directly went against and disrespected me as husband and a MAN. She predicted failure upon me. She saw me as nothing better than a middle aged failure content to be making 12.50. All I had shown her up that point and proved to her as a man and husband didn't mean a goddamn thing. In ber eyes I was going to fail. She had the exact same mindset as most of the posters in this very topic regarding the job. If YOU truly feel that staying married to a woman who thinks no better of you than Internet posters is in any way the "Right thing" then I truly feel sorry for you. I have much more respect for MYSELF than that

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

We weren't married all 12 years and we weren't TOGETHER all 12 years. We KNEW each other for 12 years. Reading is fundamental guy.

Not one of those "changes"'affected her lifestyle negatively. She directly benefited from all three "changes" so save your



Again, your attitude regarding the career is as ignorant and judgemental as hers was.
Why would I stay married to a woman who thought no better of me than an anonymous poster on an Internet forum? Does THAT make any sense??!!??

Damn breh good luck
















What if you find out she's dating new guy next week?

 

[Ziggiy]

Damn breh good luck
















What if you find out she's dating new guy next week?

He can have her. When it's a wrap its a WRAP breh.


I wish happiness for her. I even told her that the best advice I could give her for her next relationship was to always respect her man until such a time that he didn't deserve it. That life wasn't all about her wants and wishes and that she should attempt to be appreciative and supportive rather than judgemental and dismissive.

 

[Chief]

she didn't question me. She made a statement that directly went against and disrespected me as husband and a MAN. She predicted failure upon me. She saw me as nothing better than a middle aged failure content to be making 12.50. All I had shown her up that point and proved to her as a man and husband didn't mean a goddamn thing. In ber eyes I was going to fail. She had the exact same mindset as most of the posters in this very topic regarding the job. If YOU truly feel that staying married to a woman who thinks no better of you than Internet posters is in any way the "Right thing" then I truly feel sorry for you. I have much more respect for MYSELF than that

What about the other questions

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

He can have her. When it's a wrap its a WRAP breh.


I wish happiness for her. I even told her that the best advice I could give her for her next relationship was to always respect her man until such a time that he didn't deserve it. That life wasn't all about her wants and wishes and that she should attempt to be appreciative and supportive rather than judgemental and dismissive.

And what advice did she give you for your next relationship

 

[The_Sheff]

As someone who has been married for 20 years, I will say this. I actually think you two need to go to some counseling, what she said was disrespectful and I understand you take a lot of pride in what you do at Best Buy and that you have accomplished quite a bit in a short time. But this not something worth getting divorced over. I have dozens of heated and at times very nasty arguments with my wife and she says some crazy shyt and so do I at times but we work through it and come to a resolution. I feel like there are so many divorces happening because people have unrealistic expectations from your partner. Just because she questioned you decision to work at Best Buy doesn't necessarily mean she didn't support you, it maybe because she felt you were selling yourself short, and didn't want you to go back down that path. To be fair to her, she stuck with you this entire time. It's one thing if she's looking for an out but for you to leave over something this gives me the sense that you are not really built for marriage (at this stage in your life).

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Cosign. If all it takes for you to get a divorce is for your wife to question your career outlook then you don't need to be married. Yeah, she could have said it in a way that wasn't as disrespectful but we all know what she was trying to say. She supported him through all those other career changes and the one time she questions it ole boy boots her out the door?

So now he gonna get another chick who he thinks will have his back through thick and thin when really she just showing up when he finally figured out what he wanted to do in life and is stable. She may not have gone through all the other trials and tribulations like his ex wife so really the OP doesn't know how loyal that chick actually is.

The comment that set this off seems like something that could have been hashed out in a day or two if the OP wasn't so prideful.

 

[Ziggiy]

What about the other questions

What other questions? There were no other questions. She made that comment and the conversation was FINISHED as soon as she said that shyt. I went out for a walk to calm down and to wrap my head around the fact that my WIFE could disrespect in such a revolting fashion. That's when I relaized that I wouldn't allow myself to be disrepected in such a manner. That I was the one who deserved better and that this marriage was over.

Just for clarifications sake, the next day we talked again and I broke down to her my plan regarding best buy, the history between us,make how I'd NEVER before failed or this marriage. THAT was the first time I ever went through a "tally" of exactly what I'd done to support, appreciate, and respect her over the course of our marriage. She was just like the typical Coli poster. Judgemental, dismissive, doubtful. She didn't start to see the light until I completely withdrew from her. I slept on the couch, went to work, and kept my eyes on my goal. After the first promotion happened pretty quickly she started to "try" to turn things around. I was already done with her bullshyt. the second promotion happened a month after the first and I she was like "I fukked up by not supporting you" and I told her no shyt.

I didn't even tell her about the management promotion that happened a few months later. I just came home, sat her down, told her "I'm making more than 12.50 and I've still got seven years to go" I made it DESPITE you not because of you, I'm worth more as a man and a husband and I don't feel that I am in love with you any longer.

 

[-DMP-]

She natural? Coli dudes will be all over her, she's a pretty girl. I think -dmp- plotting

:woah: it ain't even like that.

-DMP-

 

[Chief]

What other questions? There were no other questions. She made that comment and the conversation was FINISHED as soon as she said that shyt. I went out for a walk to calm down and to wrap my head around the fact that my WIFE could disrespect in such a revolting fashion. That's when I relaized that I wouldn't allow myself to be disrepected in such a manner. That I was the one who deserved better and that this marriage was over.

Just for clarifications sake, the next day we talked again and I broke down to her my plan regarding best buy, the history between us,make how I'd NEVER before failed or this marriage. THAT was the first time I ever went through a "tally" of exactly what I'd done to support, appreciate, and respect her over the course of our marriage. She was just like the typical Coli poster. Judgemental, dismissive, doubtful. She didn't start to see the light until I completely withdrew from her. I slept on the couch, went to work, and kept my eyes on my goal. After the first promotion happened pretty quickly she started to "try" to turn things around. I was already done with her bullshyt. the second promotion happened a month after the first and I she was like "I fukked up by not supporting you" and I told her no shyt.

I didn't even tell her about the management promotion that happened a few months later. I just came home, sat her down, told her "I'm making more than 12.50 and I've still got seven years to go" I made it DESPITE you not because of you, I'm worth more as a man and a husband and I don't feel that I am in love with you any longer.

breh you ice cold but do you it's your life after all

 

[beenz]

@Ziggiy since she disrespected you, you might as well expose those nude pics im sure she has