Getting a Divorce Brehs...

[KeysT]

Jesus this was a long ass thread to read. Most of the time I get bored and just click out of ones this long.
OP just my 2 cents. I can appreciate your decision. That comment probably made you realize you didn't love her the way that you thought you did. Take it as a good thing that you realize this now instead of later on in life. Glad your happy. Keep it cordial.

 

[mcdivit85]

I'm not even mad about dude divorcing his wife. If the b#tch deserves to be fired, then she deserves to be fired. I think dudes tend to be alittle too lenient on women in general with the disrespect and outta pocket behavior....especially black men. N#ggas allow too many octaves in the vocal chords of the women they deal with.

Yes, respect is everything....everything. Yes, the principle is more than the procedure. And with that being said, I can understand why dude felt some way about his wife questioning him after years of benefitting from his hard work. Yea, that would've gave me pause too.

But I could also understand her POV. I mean, how many part-time sales associates become managers in less than 6 months? Why would a man in his mid-20s want to work at Best Buy? What if the plan doesn't work out so smoothly and/or so quickly? With all of your experience, why not try something besides retail?

And I also get OP's POV. He was working in retail when he met her. He's always been self-sufficient. He's always had a place, a car and money to do nice things with her. He's proven over many years that he knows how to handle life and take care of him and her. It was never a problem until now, so what's the issue?

But I don't think she intended that statement with malice. Moreso, surprised that Best Buy was the first choice, her first reaction was not her best reaction. And that caused bro to feel disrespected and emasculated. That's understandable.

I just think OP should have maybe chastised her a bit. Put her under some mental and emotional pressure. Put some fire under her feet, so she knows she was wrong and gave her the notion that she can be replaced if needed. Sounds like she got alittle pumpkinheaded over the years.

Maybe give her a harsh verbal retort and had her sleep in the guest room for alittle bit. Maybe instructed her to stay with her parents for a bit until she got her mind right. Maybe confiscated the joint the credit/debit card and changed the locks. Maybe file for separation and then let her see him with a new chick enjoying his newfound money as a manager at Best Buy with the next chick....preferably younger and prettier if possible.

Just until she started to realize how serious he was and then started begging for reinstatement. Maybe she needed a mental refresher.

But dude went from 0 to 10 and filed that paperwork. I can't be mad at homie....he pulled her card. Sometimes chicks need that card pulled.

But divorce seems to be alot for this one.

Peace

 

[KENNY DA COOKER]

#HOH has NEVER advocated violence in any manner..

the aggressive dialogue and misogynist music we supported was from a subliminal psychological perspective only


and I can PERSONALLY attest to it effective measures

last night my lady was griping about work and her issues with her sisters

and even said some slick underhanded shyt bout me

along with the fact that she decided to NOT cook that evening

so I got her a$$ straight without putting paws on her

I straight ignored that heffa

had a beer ..went to bed early..didn't say goodnight and woke up without saying a word and went to work

she been texting all day apologizing for taking her anger out on me..

#byatchgetyomindright

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

Man, don't come in here with the black community bullshyt. There is less marriage across the board. This community has problems that marriage could never even begin to solve.

I'll tell you this, if you think we got problems now....forego the nuclear family model and see what happens next......our situation will go from shytty to irreparable

 

[Guess Who]

Me too in have a couple disabilities that give me a hard time living up to my potential, I also have sickle cell thallesmia so my body can't take physical work, I'm limited in sense but still try my best. Couldn't join the army when I was young due to my condition, I fight my ass off too and I've been called much worse than op wife did him. So I keep my head up and grind too.

I take disrespect personal cuz people crapped on me for a long, long time.

Word, I feel you. I don't have any physical disabilities, but my entire family suffers from mental health issues, me included, so I can somewhat understand the disability angle. I've put a lot of my life on the coli in various threads like album snippets--I've been through an awful lot. And because of that I developed a hard skin, a lot of pride, and an ego that manifested itself in sensitivity to criticism and stubbornness. And that has cost me a few really good relationships and opportunities.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that you can't let the people of your past ruin the relationships in the present and the future. You developed walls and insecurities based on how people used to treat you and you run the risk of projecting that onto the people who are trying to help you now, the people who are trying to be there for you now. You can't punish the people in your life for what has happened to you in your past, because in the end you will lose those people and only end up punishing yourself.

Keep grinding my dude.

 

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

Basically OP is a bytch.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

N1ggas need to LIVE under the same roof as their kids more...They need to have more healthy, more productive relationships with their child's mothers..They need to pick better women to bust off into...

That's why I'm more concerned with the family unit than the legal document of marriage..

Stop being pressed about the mother of your child getting a piece of your raggedy Comcast call center paycheck.. Because you know you were just gonna spend it on Foamposites and Ciroc anyway

You need to see and be accessible to your kids everyday....not just on the weekends.....and hopefully they can see you and your old lady being in a loving situation.....

shyt like this has a huge positive impact on their mental welfare.......

I be trying to tell dudes.....If you thinking about having kids, everybody needs to be under the same roof....shyt goes a lot smoother.......You can still be an outstanding parent if you and your old lady are separated, but this the ideal situation without question

 

[Sunalmighty]

Last week looked my wife in the eye and told her I was done. I wasn't in love with her anymore and to keep forcing a marriage that I no longer wanted to be in would be doing nothing but further poisoning an already damaged union. No more counseling, no more endless talks about why I won't forgive her for not supporting me at the most crucial of crossroads, no more bullshyt.

First steps towards freedom brehs


#TPC

You go to church?

 

[ℒℴѵℯJay ELECTUA]

Congratulations.

 

[Numpsay]

Dude wife had to take the news like .

And I'm skeptical on his rise at Best Buy, and by now what was said should have been water under the bridge at this point. You were married breh, not just dating some one you considered a prospect.

And I'd also find it hard to believe that after 10 years that was the first time she came at you side ways about a decision you were making.

 

[SunZoo]

c'mon man. it sounds like you overreacted.

It really does. I mean I respect Zigg, straight up, seems like a good dude. And all in all if this is what's gonna make him happy then it's for the best...but gotdamn....

How much can you really love someone if that's what can end the relationship? I'm thinking maybe something was missing, or wasn't there from the jump...got married too young, fell "out of love" long before she made that comment.

 

[Diondon]

Breh, apart from finding your wife with another dikk in her
Know what. nevermind

 

[Don Mack]

I killed a lot of time reading the back and forth arguments in this thread. This should hold me over until its time to hit the gym

 

[dem bath salts]

You need to forgive that girl. yeah she hurt your feelings, but i can see where it was coming from.








honestly, you should have went to school and then dropped her ass while upgrading ;lolbron:

 

[dem bath salts]

breh, she's a lawyer and still with your ass? dat girls love you

Don't you know what was going in her head when you wanted to work part time at best buy. how that would make her look to her family and coworkers? what she said was harsh but damn cmon man, u gotta forgive that.

And she still trying to make it work with you.
if i wasnt boo'ed, i might ask you for her number