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OK, I've only read up to page 6 but even though I DO understand where the OP is coming from, I don't think this is a good reason to get divorced....and I say that as someone who will be divorcing in the near future myself. Obviously we can't possibly know the full ins and outs of the situation, but I think you're being too hasty and should give it a lot more thought. I would probably advise a trial separation at best, but to divorce over this seems quite extreme.The mere fact she was sorry and willing to go to counselling, you should have gave that a shot. If she cheated on you, then obviously that's a whole 'nother story.
 
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Guess Who said:
Well you know what they say about books and covers.

I'm just a regular dude on the grind who has been through a ton of pain and negative life circumstances who is trying to fix his questionable self-esteem while helping others in the process with what I've learned from my experiences and realizations.

Thanks, though. Appreciate it my dude.

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What you need mentoring about anyway?
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Me too in have a couple disabilities that give me a hard time living up to my potential, I also have sickle cell thallesmia so my body can't take physical work, I'm limited in sense but still try my best. Couldn't join the army when I was young due to my condition, I fight my ass off too and I've been called much worse than op wife did him. So I keep my head up and grind too.

I take disrespect personal cuz people crapped on me for a long, long time.
 
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Cuzo said:
Disrespect is a bad sign, she should know who you are from the jump her comment was gold digger ish and not welcomed. Marriage isn't a chase for paper marriage should be set after the paper chase is done, only Hispanics are able to not abide by this rule many Americans cannot and no one wants the old jump off turned saint.

That comment was disrespect and should be taken as a precaution and he did the right thing, it's like calling your wife fat a smart women would leave immediately the disrespect gets worse from there.

All you nikkas bashing op eat a dikk, that's not something you wanna say to anyone period. Mix she thinks dude got no ambition she should have been against marriage from the jump.

Don't make excuses for disrespect, if we all strive to be doctors who's gonna flip them burgers?
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I agree with this sentiment..

But a good woman will see the potential in you sometimes before we can see it in ourselves..And if she's not diplomatic enough to present that in a sensitive way it can come off as harsh and make us defensive or feel disrespected.. When in reality she's really trying to motivate you to reach your full potential..

I've experienced this recently..

It seems like OP's wife has a lot more ambition than him and they might be unequally yoked...When she told him she was proud of him getting a management promotion at Best Buy he could probably tell she was being insincere..

It's sad because it just seems like they have different aspirations in life.. The way its described actually sounds like a rom com or Tyler Perry movie starring Morris Chessnut as the proud landscaper and Nia Long as the aspiring marketing executive..

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I hope it works out for both of them

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Ziggiy said:
I was coming out of the Army, deciding what I wanted to do. Decided I wanted to go back to work for Best Buy. She looked me right in my face and said "So your going to be 35 years old making $12.50:stopitslime:".

That was literally the moment where I completely and utterly fell out of love with her. NO woman in the history of my existence has ever been allowed to disrespect me, my work ethic, nor my decision making to such a disgusting level. Especially a woman whose hand I took in marriage...

So I did exactly what I had to do. Started back at the bottom part time and worked myself back to Manager in 5 months. Three promotions, three pay raises (plus bonuses). And after that time period I didn't feel as if she deserved to be a part of my success as she wasn't supportive during my hustle and struggle. Once I made manager she wanted to talk about how proud of me she was and all that shyt but I told her straight up I didn't make it because of her. I made it DESPITE of her and I didn't want her nor the marriage any longer. I actually told her all of this two months ago but she begged and pleaded for another chance talking about how sorry she was and she always believed in me and she was just frustrated during that time period. She wanted to go to counseling and I tried it but nah....the damage had been done. Once you disrespect a man.... TRULY disrespect him, he will never forgive you
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my girl used to say shyt like this to me every other day lol...

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