Forgivness is not about letting the offending party off the hook, it's about freeing yourself from grief, guilt and trauma so that you can be an effective human being.
The effects of the stress that shyt can do to the mind and body is NOT worth fighting to hold on to. If you don't get that and boil it down to race/religion you're spiritually immature. And if you haven't already gone through something that you need to forgive for your own sake I hope when the time comes you find a way to get that monkey off your back.
I mean I get it, but sometimes you got to hold onto that thought and not so much let that thought kill you, because it happened. Its just the matter of living with it that matters the most.
I often talk about how my stepfather did me, especially concerning the handling of my mother's funeral. Yet, I learned over the years to be grateful that I am still alive and killing him in ways he failed.
- A proud dad
- A loving husband
- A family man
- Surviving a illness
The case with the whole forgiving Derrick Chauvin seems more of a media ploy and not so much a genuine response. I mean, the man died in such a heartless way, that it is depressing to think about. Why would you want to forgive somebody that take a life like that? You can forgive in a sense of I made peace with the situation, but to tell this coward, this pathetic attempt of life to say "I forgive you"...its not even worth the effort to utter such words.
There are many things she can do to "forgive", but that's not one of them.
Then again, I would be doing the cupid shuffle if I found out my stepdad died tomorrow