Future just exposed the real battle that’s been brewing. Black woman vs the Exoticals

[Lemons]

that’s interesting because the rhetoric that you’re spewing usually doesn’t come from Black American women … It comes from outsiders
well, unless you‘re a late millennial / GEN Z

What rhetoric specifically?

 

[Gloxina]

People still tryna tell us this doesn’t happen

If you’re not a “dime” it’s fine to be subjected to second class status amongst your own race apparently. Clown shyt.

I mean, that isn’t MY argument. That is what is told to US

 

[Gloxina]

Not true.

Pardon- y’all are right. Being a dark skinned dime doesn’t shield you from colorism and I’ve made that point here before. What I was trying to say was that if you’re a conventionally attractive darker skinned woman you’re going to get more love across the board and it’ll be a much easier road than that of darker skinned women who aren’t considered attractive.

This is actually the first thread where multiple brehs have acknowledged colorism and how it still affects attractive darker skinned women.

 

[Gloxina]

See the thing is tho, it's not just the facial features but the thinner hair curls as well.

Heads seem to not want to acknowledge/admit that light skin with the good hair did a number on us, and we've learned to point and pick the features we like overtime.

So a breh might have nothing but bad brown skin women in his favorites list, but you notice all their hair/sew ins falls under the good hair label.

When his own and those of the women in his family is the kinkier, tighter curl.

That's where the "your mama's black" pushback comes from.

Tastes prioritizing the opposite of features you grew up seeing around you daily.

I can’t believe a man acknowledged featurism/ texturism

We legit get gaslighted when we say these things

 

[WhatsGoodTy]

How did you get here? This line was funny as fukk though lol

This some female shyt only females care about…but I can’t even be mad at OP cause he said @IWasntMadeToPlayTheSon so

 

[KidJSoul]

@High Art

You basically just showed why BM gotta stop simping and accepting any negative talk under the guise of "criticism". Nah it's not criticism - it's hate

It's never factual. There's always double standards. And they rarely respond even when you prove their shyt wrong because they still have their biases against black men they don't want to acknowledge

What @Lemons said was bar for bar the type of shyt I was talking about to @Gloxina . False exagerrated narratives, double standards, blaming it all on black men

Everyday I understand why some BM don't bother engaging on this topic

 

[Shadow King]

Pardon- y’all are right. Being a dark skinned dime doesn’t shield you from colorism and I’ve made that point here before. What I was trying to say was that if you’re a conventionally attractive darker skinned woman you’re going to get more love across the board and it’ll be a much easier road than that of darker skinned women who aren’t considered attractive.

This is actually the first thread where multiple brehs have acknowledged colorism and how it still affects attractive darker skinned women.

This isn't a point exclusive to any women of any race or complexion, and no it is not worse for a dark skinned woman.

Ain't nobody treating Target Tiny the way they are McDonald's Melyssa. You've said time and time again in other threads that attractive people more or less live a different life. If you admit this, then continuing trying to stress this as a colorism issue is essentially asking that dark skinned black women be shielded from human nature.

 

[kingofnyc]

What rhetoric specifically?

all of your isms = colorism, texturism, featurism, etc. etc. isms

Black American women never use these terms back in the day. This rhetoric has been bought to the forefront for about a decade and a half and the only reason in my opinion that I believe it’s blown up is because of the amount of female immigrants from the Caribbean and Africa that came here & got media platforms to pushed this nonsensical narrative

 

[Shadow King]

all of your isms = colorism, texturism, featurism, etc. etc. isms

Black American women never use these terms back in the day. This rhetoric has been bought to the forefront for about a decade and a half and the only reason in my opinion that I believe it’s blown up is because of the amount of female immigrants from the Caribbean and Africa that came here & got media platforms to pushed this nonsensical narrative

Nah. I don't agree with what she's been saying but framing this as if this is some foreign black woman ideology being introduced to American ones isn't accurate. There may not have been labels but the sentiment existed.

The last decade and a half is the rise of social media which has spread/compounded ideas completely unrelated to this also.

 

[Gloxina]

This isn't a point exclusive to any women of any race or complexion, and no it is not worse for a dark skinned woman.

Ain't nobody treating Target Tiny the way they are McDonald's Melyssa. You've said time and time again in other threads that attractive people more or less live a different life. If you admit this, then continuing trying to stress this as a colorism issue is essentially asking that dark skinned black women be shielded from human nature.

I wasn’t stressing the colorism point in my other posts ITT because I essentially agree with you.

What I was saying is there are people who don’t want to acknowledge that there is in fact a “light skin stimulus” in our community and folks in this thread actually admitted that they had their own bias and previously elevated some LS women simply because of their complexion

 

[Iceson Beckford]

all of your isms = colorism, texturism, featurism, etc. etc. isms

Black American women never use these terms back in the day. This rhetoric has been bought to the forefront for about a decade and a half and the only reason in my opinion that I believe it’s blown up is because of the amount of female immigrants from the Caribbean and Africa that came here & got media platforms to pushed this nonsensical narrative

Now African & Caribbeans invented colourism discussions

Why do I even post on this dumbass forum man. I need to do better with my life.

 

[Gloxina]

all of your isms = colorism, texturism, featurism, etc. etc. isms

Black American women never use these terms back in the day. This rhetoric has been bought to the forefront for about a decade and a half and the only reason in my opinion that I believe it’s blown up is because of the amount of female immigrants from the Caribbean and Africa that came here & got media platforms to pushed this nonsensical narrative

Nah this isn’t true. Maybe these exact terms weren’t used, but the sentiment has been around forever.

“Good hair” “looser hair” “wet hair girls” (that’s some old school shyt our elders heard). Those were all ways to describe the preferred hair texture.

 

[kingofnyc]

Nah. I don't agree with what she's been saying but framing this as if this is some foreign black woman ideology being introduced to American ones isn't accurate. There may not have been labels but the sentiment existed.

The last decade and a half is the rise of social media which has spread/compounded ideas completely unrelated to this also.

then, where does it come from?

I understand it’s always been the brown paper bag test going back for centuries & we pretty much all know that there was a brilliant movie done by Spike Lee in the 80s called school dayz about skin complexion. My point is I never heard black American women use these isms as an excuse till 2010’s

 

[Shadow King]

I wasn’t stressing the colorism point in my other posts ITT because I essentially agree with you.

What I was saying is there are people who don’t want to acknowledge that there is in fact a “light skin stimulus” in our community and folks in this thread actually admitted that they had their own bias and previously elevated some LS women simply because of their complexion

"Would she look the same dark skinned" isn't a real example/exercise, because you can't truly know what someone looks like with a totally different complexion.

Everyone has some kind of bias. I understand what white supremacy has done but this isn't that much different than a "height stimulus", a "muscle stimulus", a "booty stimulus", a "big hair" stimulus, etc. Shìt there are posters on here who are biased in favor of dark skinned women and go out of their way to downplay light skinned women.

Women also practice their own forms of colorism that get swept under the rug, and not just "I want a good hair baby" either.

 

[kingofnyc]

Now African & Caribbeans invented colourism discussions

Why do I even post on this dumbass forum man. I need to do better with my life.

see you’re being incredibly disingenuous I never use the word invented … my point from the very beginning has been black American women never complained or talked about colorism and the rest of the so-called isms that currently we hear all day / every day