Finding out something about your s/o that makes you very uncomfortable unappreciation

[swimmingpools]

I'm realizing that she has become my best friend, I truly love her but she's just status. I stopped half way through, due to fear of catching a murder case. After I took the gag out of her mouth, she said it was cool that I couldn't do this type of shyt. Later on that night as I'm laying in bed with her, staring at the ceiling with the face I realize that she's crying I ask her whats wrong and she turns around with snot hanging out of her nose and blood shot eyes and says "you're gonna leave me aren't you" I told her it wasn't that serious and to man up.(I'll explain later) The next day we went out and had a nice time, coffee, biking in Venice, and then we saw batman but the whole time in the back of my mind, all I was thinking about was how much danger this relationship is in and if we break up how to get out it with our friendship still in tact. I also spent half the day trying to hide the face.

On one hand, she's really dope, I love being with her and she makes me better(corny but true) On the other hand
Should I try and get past this and stay with her? She said she could do without it and that she only said I was getting boring to try and coax me into going through with the...deed. She said she would take a polygraph test to prove it and I don't think she's bluffing. What would you do in my situation? I'd really appreciate real answers.




"Man up and whip me harder you fukk"..."I don't do safe words now gag me"

All you guys need to know about how that night went.

Lol jokes aside I would stick with her only if your truly believe she can do without it. She sounds like she feels rejected and judged by you. Its sad, but you have to be honest with yourself. Can you stay with her knowing in the back of her mind she really wants the rough stuff and youre not willing to do it?

 

[Blown Moon]

If you ain't into that stuff then don't do it. You gonna keep on compromising until she has you doing some ol off the wall nonsense. Mane plus you talking about she was bisexual, had her cousin's johnson in her mouth and had a threesome. lol@ her telling you she only been with 3 guys. Come on mane, could she use a less typical number?

She's doesn't do threesomes, I don't know where you guys are getting that, she told me she's had 3 one night stands 2 fukk buddies and 9 partners overall and she IS bisexual. She did the bdsm stuff in her last two relationships, the last one was a girl and the one before that was a cac It is what is it is with the cousin thing I wish she would've told someone, this nikka is a bartender in Miami now smh.

 

[Kalik]

"Man up and whip me harder you fukk"..."I don't do safe words now gag me":

breh, just let her go...

 

[swimmingpools]

If you ain't into that stuff then don't do it. You gonna keep on compromising until she has you doing some ol off the wall nonsense. Mane plus you talking about she was bisexual, had her cousin's johnson in her mouth and had a threesome. lol@ her telling you she only been with 3 guys. Come on mane, could she use a less typical number?

Whats wrong with being bi?

 

[CrimsonTider]

This chick is damaged goods and you don't even seem to realize it, waking up with a cousins dikk in her mouth and you don't think that will have some kind of negative affect? She's Bi as well and you're talking about her being the mother of your kids


fukk her, get all the nasty shyt you ever wanted to try out the way and move on to a more stable female.

To be fair, nothing in this thread correlates to being a bad mother

 

[killacal]

Y'all kill me with who you choose to wife up? She shoulda never passed your screening for jump off status. What'd u do? Meet her at the club and ask her to be your girl the same night? you gotta learn how to troll these whores to get the info you need about them out them so situations like this font happen.

 

[Blown Moon]

If she's telling you she's bored with you, she's going to unleash that boredom somewhere else. That's what is so rough about this game. You find a LOT to like about a woman, but she got that one thing that is so off you can't look past it.

She said she wasn't bored, she just told me that to get me to do the bdsm shyt. I told her I didn't believe her and she said she'd take a polygraph test to prove it.

Lol jokes aside I would stick with her only if your truly believe she can do without it. She sounds like she feels rejected and judged by you. Its sad, but you have to be honest with yourself. Can you stay with her knowing in the back of her mind she really wants the rough stuff and youre not willing to do it?

Yeah I'd stay with her, I love her and she an all around dope person. Me not going to the places she want's to go sexually is going to be in the back of my mind too. I think it would wear on both of us, which is why I know our relationship is in trouble.


and it's not that easy Kalik, I'm in love with this woman.

 

[Malta]

Me not going to the places she want's to go sexually is going to be in the back of my mind too. I think it would wear on both of us, which is why I know our relationship is in trouble.


and it's not that easy Kalik, I'm in love with this woman.

Has your girl cheated in any of her previous relationships?

 

[Blown Moon]

Y'all kill me with who you choose to wife up? She shoulda never passed your screening for jump off status. What'd u do? Meet her at the club and ask her to be your girl the same night? you gotta learn how to troll these whores to get the info you need about them out them so situations like this font happen.

We were friends while she was still in her last relationship. I came at her when I saw her in amoeba music and she told me she was involved. I told her I was new in town and could still use a friend She told me come to the artwalk downtown and we'll talk then. I went, saw her and we really became friends after that.

 

[Kalik]

and it's not that easy Kalik, I'm in love with this woman.

Then download some heavy duty porn and start, really fukking her. You don't need the ballgag, handcuffs, clamps and toys.

Just use your hands, hold her down, choke her a lil bit, bite the nipples , forcefully throw her around. Long stroke her. You gonna have to get that perception out of her head that you are boring. Talk shyt... "tell her I'm the best" so she can get that shyt locked in her brain man. You have to deprogram her sexually, and reprogram her to your style.

You need her to conform to your style of sex (no bdsm), as well as you ramp your sex up (just get rougher)

Good luck... I think you need to do this fast, cuz really... eventually she MAY cheat. If she hasn't yet (that what scares me for you)

 

[Blown Moon]

Has your girl cheated in any of her previous relationships?

No. I kept trying to get at her when she was with ole girl and one day she told me that she liked me but she doesn't cheat and if I tried to get at her again she'd end our friendship. The only reason I got her is because her dad flew out here one time and she told him about her bisexuallity. Her dad flipped out and then riley freeman flipped out and started talking shyt about her dad and she defended him. After that it put a rift between them and when she decided to leave her, I was there for her

 

[shopthatwrecks]

long as the bytch wasnt a boy or had a std...

nuthin she can say could fukk with my head....

 

[killacal]

We were friends while she was still in her last relationship. I came at her when I saw her in amoeba music and she told me she was involved. I told her I was new in town and could still use a friend She told me come to the artwalk downtown and we'll talk then. I went, saw her and we really became friends after that.

You can still vet a person you are interested in. And you wouldnt be in this situation.

 

[AquaCityBoy]

So my girl would have these red marks on her breast from time to time and I would ask her if something was biting her and she'd always say no. Come to find out, she clamps on clothes pins to her nipples and rubs out to skin diamond flicks when I'm gone. She left her laptop up when she went to the bathroom and I did some snooping around and looked at her favorites list; half of it is skin diamond being tied up, poked and prodded. I was shocked, so I just sat in front of her screen looking like she comes back, sees me on her laptop with this look on my face and without even seeing the screen says "Okay I would've told you about this but your kind of sexually close minded and I was scared you'd think less of me". Without even giving me time to process this, she breaks down that not only has she done bdsm before, shes used to do it all the time with her ex girlfriend and boyfriend and then me about the clothes pin thing. I asked her if she was pleased sexually with me and she said she couldn't be with me if she wasn't but I could please her more if I..wait for it..."fukked outside of the box" I stopped her right there; told her that we should go to sleep and finsih talking about this when we get home tomorrow, which is today. Turned off is an understatement for how I feel about this bdsm shyt. I don't know how I feel about her being into it but I do feel uncomfortable with the fact that she did it with her exes. I thought I was a freak but this shyt is a little out of my leauge, I dont think im "sexually close minded" but my damn, you guys should see some of this stuff she beats off to. She leaves before me, so I wake up with a text saying "I think this is good, I can't wait to put all of my sexual prolivities on the table and I wan't you to do the same. This is just a chance for us to grow closer. I love you" All I could think was..There's more? This could be a serious problem. I've already decided that I'll try this for her but if I'm not comfortable with it, then what?

I can't believe this whole time shes been thinking I'm boring in bed, she didn't say that but she might as well have. Things have been a little too eventful with this girl latley.

Anyways how would yall feel about this and is anyone into bdsm?

Even if this is this is the best post I've seen on The Coli yet!

 

[Blown Moon]

Then download some heavy duty porn and start, really fukking her. You don't need the ballgag, handcuffs, clamps and toys.

Just use your hands, hold her down, choke her a lil bit, bite the nipples , forcefully throw her around. Long stroke her. You gonna have to get that perception out of her head that you are boring. Talk shyt... "tell her I'm the best" so she can get that shyt locked in her brain man. You have to deprogram her sexually, and reprogram her to your style.

You need her to conform to your style of sex (no bdsm), as well as you ramp your sex up (just get rougher)

Good luck... I think you need to do this fast, cuz really... eventually she MAY cheat. If she hasn't yet (that what scares me for you)

She hasn't cheated and your're right I'm just gonna have to start getting rough.

Even if this is this is the best post I've seen on The Coli yet!

I don't lie on here, I lie irl. If we do break up and I'm asked why, I'm gonna say she couldn't take the D.